we have been 2gether 4 a yr and he has never done nething 4 me. i have been there for him while he was in jail, when he didnt have a job i provided him with money all the time, i have done alot, but he always put me down, he never appreciate nething i do 4 him, he put his friends and everybody else b4 me, he neva likes 2 talk about our problems and try to solve them, he has never took me on a date or spent a dime on me, and he dont what i do, what happens to me, how i feel or anything, all he's stuck on is material things which he buy 4 hisself or other people, and hes always asking me 4 money 2 to do something real important with it then he turn around and spend it on something stupid. he never wants to talk about things i want to talk about its always gotta be about him and i feel like im going with him but he just using me.
2006-07-18 16:50:43 · 47 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Here's the honest truth.
You must really like having the word welcome written across your forehead.
If your not happy in the relationship and you feel that your not being the best you can be then it's time to move on.
I have recently realized that it is time to stop putting all my efforts into being happy only when others around me are happy.
You have to live life for you! Stop putting your life off for someone you aren't getting a life out of. Life is just to short to live this way.
2006-07-18 16:55:47 · answer #1 · answered by ~brigit~ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry but you don't have a boyfriend. You have an acquaintance that you give money to, stuck by while he was in jail, only wants to talk about himself, and always puts you down. You've never been on a date and he has never spent a dime on you. Why would this qualify as a boyfriend? Because you have sex with him?? He doesn't even qualify as a friend.
I think that you like the idea of having a boyfriend and you're trying to turn something that was never there into a relationship.
Do yourself a favor and get rid of this loser yesterday. All he's done is drain your pockets and your self esteem. Go find someone who cares as much for you as you do for him. Good luck!
2006-07-18 17:00:25 · answer #2 · answered by stseukn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi. I'm wondering if a friend treated you this way if you would stick around.....
doesn't seem like too great of a situation. personally id rather go without a boyfriend rather than having him for one.
You say you love him, but try spending some time away with some girl friends. Give yourself some time to really think about it. Think about how you really deserve to be treated. Don't let yourself put up with less than you deserve. Good Luck
2006-07-18 16:57:20 · answer #3 · answered by Cara B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you want to stay with someone who gives you nothing but grief? I know it's hard to make a break with someone familiar--even if he acts like a jerk--and get back into circulation, but I don't see a whole lot of hope for this relationship.
One thing I do know: By what you've said, he has no respect for you. Sometimes, when the wronged partner leaves, it's a wake-up call to the other to get his act together. That might happen; it might not, but if I was in your place, I'd move on.
2006-07-18 16:58:14 · answer #4 · answered by freedomnow1950 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all you have to realize you deserve better, he is not the only guy out there for you. there are better guys out there waiting to treat you like the princess you are. He is not worth your time nor your money, he should be taking care of you and much as you take care of him. You may love him but your happiness is more important than wasting your time hoping and praying he will change. Wake up and smell the roses- He is not going to change unless he makes the decision to do so. He is only using you, you are not a bank so before you go bankrupt get out. Remember you deserve better and your happiness is priceless, the ball is really in your court, kick it in the right direction- Good luck
2006-07-18 17:07:37 · answer #5 · answered by vamoakohene 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he has been treating you like this for close to a year I have to ask myself, why are you still with him?
You say you love him but to me it sounds like a very onsided love. In other words he does not love you, he is using you, you are a free meal ticket to him.
It's time to leave him and move on with your life, there is someone better out there for you, someone you will truely fall in love with, not just love. That person will love and fall in love with you also. When that happens you will know it, it is such a super feeling, no other is like it.
If you continue in this relationship, as you get older, you will have nothing because he will take it all and never give back anything. You will be broke, working for him to survive because he won't work for himself (or you) and you will be supporting him. Is that what you want?
You say you love him, then make it "tough love" and leave him and make him do something for himself to improve himself. If he doesn't then I can tell you it will be a very short time and he will have someone to replace you that will support him like you are doing now.
I wish you luck, take care, a situation like this can eventually lead to physical abuse, you are already being emotionally abused.
Take care.
2006-07-18 17:00:22 · answer #6 · answered by wetsaway 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, I've held on to idiots that I really loved too that only loved me for what I could give them or do for them. You're only dragging yourself down if you keep putting up with it thinking he's going to change. It will seem like the end of the world to let him go probably but when you finally find a wonderful man all the heartache is reallly worth it.
2006-07-18 16:56:32 · answer #7 · answered by sweetbaby 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah i would listen to what you have wrote and you know what you need to do.. you can not go on letting this man treat you this way.. he shows no respect for you and you have done all you should do for him..you can not go on letting him use you and disgrace you...get some back bone even though it will hurt for sometime.. you are wasting your years and your money on someone that does not take you into consideration at all...until you decide you have had enough and that you want out of the situation no on can help you.. you have to put a stop to this yourself...it is not easy but you will not be happy with him...but you decide for yourself and i hope you make the right choice and start thinking of yourself more...it is really bad the way he treats you..
2006-07-18 17:02:44 · answer #8 · answered by sanangel 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if That is all he cares about I'm older than you I'm sure . I was treated like that once . I did want to believe anyone , I always said he love me he will change . Let me tell you dear it only gets worse . I ended up leaving him , he ended up cheating on me this guy said the same things your boyfriend is telling you . As my mom always told me they are a lot of better fish in the sea . You know what there is I met a man only knew him for 2 weeks he ask me to marry him we just celebrated our 20th anniversary .So I would say drop him you can do better. DP
2006-07-18 16:59:46 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know where u stand as far as prayer, I suggest that you start. Also someone once told me when I was in a similiar situtation that when I really get tired I will do something about my situation. It took me forever to do something instead I ended up on drugs,fussing and fighting all the time and on 1 occasion with a broken nose.,six stitches in my nose and acontussion to my head.When I realized its not worth and I turned to God, this was in 2003 my life has been a blessed one since, I am finally at peace.
2006-07-18 17:04:17 · answer #10 · answered by panithiap 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋