my boyfriend keeps sending emails back and forth with this girl that i think is a porn girl...she has a page where you log in and you can see xxx pic of her..is this cheating and is it wrong that im upset?? cuz we do have a great relationship..
p.s. he doesnt know i know either.
2006-07-18 16:47:28 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yes, it is cheating and it is wrong. Yes, you have a good reason to be upset. Porn can drive a huge wedge in a relationship. If he's doing this now, what will he do in the future? Ask him the good ol' Dr. Phil question: "What's in it for you?" Then see what his answer is. That should reveal a lot about him. Hope this helps!
2006-07-18 16:52:41 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's cheating in the sense that he's involved visually and verbally with another girl and spending a certain amount of time, probably every day, looking at her porn pictures and associating with her through email. I think that you should confront your boyfriend about this and see what he says. If he really realizes what he is doing is wrong and admits to it, then he will apologize and visually show you that he is fixing his problem also showing that he really cares about maintaining the relationship. If he gets defensive, just so that he can keep contact with this girl, then he isn't worth your time if he really only takes himself before you into consideration. Every man should appreciate only what he has. However, if he wasn't talking with this woman and just looking at pictures, it would be a different story, because all men have gone to porn sites because of their idiotic impulses. I would be primarily concerned with why he is talking with this woman. good luck!
2006-07-18 16:58:03 · answer #2 · answered by caitymercede 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust me, a porn girl doesn't have the time (or the desire) to email your boyfriend. Some sites will send emails as if it's from the girl, just to get the guy to visit the site. It's probably the webmaster posing as the girl.
2006-07-18 16:52:44 · answer #3 · answered by I-Eat-Paint-Chips 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is called cyber cheating.
If he is flirting on the xxx pictures with this porn girl.
Rather talk to him and tell him that you know about it and is there something you both can do about to get him out of this thinking.
2006-07-18 16:51:38 · answer #4 · answered by Smile 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if he is addicted I would have to say yes. Some people just play around on chat, through emails...I think it bothers you in a way. You should make him aware of the situation..see how he reacts... I got caught chatting with someone and my better half considered it a way of cheating. I stopped since.
2006-07-18 16:56:49 · answer #5 · answered by violet 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's cheating, don't let anyone say otherwise. True it's not physical but still, he should only have a relationship with you and not some fantasy in pornoland. He may have an addiction - do some research on the internet for someone in your situation.
2006-07-18 16:54:22 · answer #6 · answered by Ron D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would consider this cheating and no its not wrong that ur upset because i would be too. Let your bf kno that u kno and depending on how he reacts stay wit him or Dump him either way there are plenty of guys in the world
2006-07-18 17:04:57 · answer #7 · answered by Becky 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask yourself would he do that in front of me? the answer is no. so yeah that is cheating and very disrespectful. you have every right to be upset. Cheating is cheating. most guys don't think that is but it is. just b/c he doesn't have boundaries you do, and he crossed those boundaries. he has cheating characteristics and i know b/c my ex boyfriend used to do that. he is insecure and needs attention from other girls. move on and meet a real man.
2006-07-18 16:53:16 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yo,
You gotta tell that meathead the deal...he's got the REAL DEAL in front of him. The problem?...alot of guys are idiots and don't see this as cheating, just another way to choke the chicken. You and your man need to have a sit down and if he say there's nothing wrong with it.....WALK, you don't need that kind of grief and there are other guys
2006-07-18 16:55:34 · answer #9 · answered by Dr. Halfrican 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow well two wrongs dont make it right, be honest and up front with him, some would consider it cheating others would see as innocent fun. truth is what do you think and feel about it. ultimately its how you feel and be honest about it but just be open for the truth becasue it may not change a thing
2006-07-18 16:51:14 · answer #10 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋