so my mom just had a baby wth my step dad. sometimes me and my brother get him mad alot so you can say were not close. but ever since they had the baby my step dad have been treating us like crap not like abandonig but like leaving us out. usually when hes mad we just leave him alone and when he's in a good mood we mess around with him bt its really hard to talk to him cause he barely listen its just always all about him. What should i do?
2006-07-18 16:05:48 · 16 answers · asked by jayda619 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
The first thing that comes to mind is try to get your mom, step dad and you together and talk about the way you feel. I know this could be very hard to do but it might help a lot.
All of God's Blessings and Guidance.
2006-07-18 16:13:24 · answer #1 · answered by Fotios 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well i know that babies call for a lot of attention. Some of the attention that was spent on your brother and you are now mostly spent on the baby. One real reason is that now that he has one of his own he might show more love for the baby then you two. He still cares about you its just hard to find the time to do so. also if you two are making a him mad all the time. To make things around the house more like a family, I would try and help out with the baby. So that you are bonding not only with the new baby, but also sharing and spending time with your busy step dad. you might find his attitude change when he sees that your being someone that is around to help. then being a person who is just around to cause problems.
2006-07-18 23:16:16 · answer #2 · answered by michael l 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Learn from this.. pick your husband well and don't put your children through this. The fact is the majority of men like their own children better than the steps. Don't just blame him, your mom is trying to start over and create the perfect family with the new man. You and your brother are playing string now. Just get on with your life. Don't worry, soon your mom and new hubby will be fighting and then it will be out with the 2nd hubby and on with the 3rd.
2006-07-18 23:12:31 · answer #3 · answered by lily 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I know how you feel. My mother and father were divorced when I was 2, then my father remarried and my mother did not. When I was 8, my mother died of lymphoma, and I was devastated.
A few years later my father and stepmother adopted a little girl, and my biological brother and I both came to resent all of them for breaking up what we thought was our perfect family. My father worked constantly and was never home, so my brother and I were stuck with the "Evil Stepmother" and her "Favorite Child", all day, every day. I felt miserable.
Eventually, however, I grew to love my adopted sister, and my stepmother as well. It did not, by any means, come quickly or easily, but remember this: You WILL only live one life. And that life is not fair. Your parents may seem infatuated with a new child, but that is only natural. The best thing you can do for now is to be glad that you have a family, and do your best to support them as they (although they may not always show it) support you.
It sucks. I know. But don't hate your parents for what they've done. Share their happiness, one day, the same happiness will be yours.
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2006-07-18 23:22:44 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was a single mother for 8 some years,and when I met the man I knew i was going to marry she was jealous and did not want to share me. But has time went on they formed a loving relationship.
But then that day to came where I had a child with him. It seemed from then on they fought all the time and I tried everything.Family therapy and more. But just this year now being 13 and going on her first date he had dropped them off at the movies and then ran into a friend of mine. She saw he was not looking well and he told her THAT THIS WAS THE HARDEST DAY OF LIFE THAT HE JUST DROPPED OF HIS DAUGHTER ON HER FIRST DATE AND THAT HE WAS HAVING A HARD TIME BREATHING.She had told me that night and I know that even though they fight. They love each other.
I hope that in time things will work out for you. Talk with your mom, and if you feel that you cant talk to someone that will listen.
I feel for you I seen the pain and confusion in my daughter.
Good luck
2006-07-18 23:44:56 · answer #5 · answered by ikis&tel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should really talk to your mom and step-dad about this because if they love you like they say ,then how you r feeling is really important to them and they probably don't realize how much it's affecting you. talk to them first and see how it goes.if nothing changes after you guys talk then talk to a counsler at school or children who r going through the same thing so u can know u r not alone
2006-07-18 23:15:32 · answer #6 · answered by khalilah w 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
one good thing about ROTTEN parents is that they give you and idea what NOT to do to your kids or anyone for that matter.
sweat it out til you can pack up and leave that mess to make your own life of love, peace, joy, respect, etc.
otherwise, get some help and counseling for your self and anyone else in the family that's interested .
whew! when you're free you can take their horrible examples and make a better more loving, enjoyable life elsewhere.
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2006-07-19 02:39:14 · answer #7 · answered by jimrich 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Show respect to get respect. You said you get him mad a lot, is this deliberate? Talk about yourself around him. If this doesn't work then he's probably too immature to deal with you and your brother, tell your mom how you feel.
2006-07-18 23:15:00 · answer #8 · answered by blasted 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First calmly talk to your mom. Keep telling her until she gets it. If that doesn't work you could always tell your dad or another family member, they would be able to talk to your mom too. Your mom will want to know, and will want to make it better for you.
2006-07-18 23:14:08 · answer #9 · answered by Irish lady 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he is unsure of himself and how to act around you 2. Have you talked this over with your Mom?
2006-07-18 23:12:45 · answer #10 · answered by mustanglady 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋