My mother, who is 54, has become a 24 year old again. Her and my father divorced 10 years ago and he is remarried, something I think she resents. She has been putting her profile on websites like yahoo personals, Match.com and others like those. This is not the problem. Problem is she is meeting guy after guy on line and not getting to know them very well before she agrees to meet them and even bring them back home with her. I think this is dangerous especially since one guy drove 300 miles to have sex with her. She is dating 3-4 guys a week and having sex with 2-3 guys a week. I am afraid that she is going to get a bad reputation with her friends and neighbors, get raped or attacked, catch a disease like AIDS or worse. I have given my "daughterly" advice but she says that she will not be an old granny knitting in a rocking chair with her cat on her lap. HELP!!!
2006-07-18 15:27:39 · 10 answers · asked by LittleMermaid 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I'm 29 years old.
2006-07-18 15:36:38 · update #1
Well, to me it sounds like she is worried she will never find anyone and seems to be going through a "mid-life crisis" of some kind. If you are religious, continue to pray for her. If you give her advice, do so in a loving manner, realize that she is not herself right now. She is probably trying her best to out-do your father, even if she says she is not. My parents have been divorced for 20 years and my mother went through a sort of depression each time my father got married (3 so far) after this. She ended up marrying a guy that she had dated for about 11 or 12 years about 6 years ago and she is happier. If you have ever broken up with anyone and they found someone faster then you did and you had a history of more then about five minutes and had children together, you would realize that this is a form of jealousy. Your mother probably wishes she married before he did so she could "win". She is probably going through guy after guy to try to find mister right and thinking she is too old to find anyone and jumping in too quickly. Maybe if you become more active in her life and become a friend more then a daughter, she might feel she can discuss things with you and will settle down if given some time. My mother and I have been best friends for many years and even though she and I both are happily married, we can talk for hours on the phone about absolutely nothing at all. You might also try getting her to a psychiatrist or something. She is most definitely depressed. Try the best friend thing either way. It really helps.
2006-07-18 15:46:53 · answer #1 · answered by braleygirl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you made a very good point about the kind of guys you meet on the internet, but if your mom will not listen to you there is not much you can do, maybe tell her that you don't want to be knowen as that type and you are not coming around her untill she changes, i'm sorry but that is the best i have to offer, good luck.
2006-07-18 22:33:47 · answer #2 · answered by citisat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whet she does with her kife is not up to you. She just wants to feel young again. Yes it is very dangerous for her and you. She should have the sence to go to a motel , for you. Try to tell her how dangerous it is for YOU and her. If she can not see it her life to live and not yours. For you go live with your dad or grand parents. Till then when she has a frind over lock your door.
2006-07-18 22:38:16 · answer #3 · answered by ldp999000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are a full grown adult now. she is no longer a mother except biological only. what she is doing is really none of your business. get a life of your own and focus on bieng the best person that you can be.
2006-07-18 23:34:08 · answer #4 · answered by teddybar67 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like she's got self esteem and self image issues. She wants to feel sexy and she doesn't care about the consequences... she sounds like a job for Dr. Phil!
2006-07-18 22:32:41 · answer #5 · answered by blkrose65 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how old r u? Don't bother talken to her, it won't work. Stop talkin to her for a while and see wht happens.
2006-07-18 22:34:25 · answer #6 · answered by Girl on the run 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you are doing the right thing...you care and hopefully she will get a handle on this
2006-07-18 22:33:03 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe you could try talking to her and try and calm her down!!
2006-07-18 22:30:45 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats not right. break her PC or set her straight
2006-07-18 22:33:38 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
she NEEDS to calm down!
2006-07-18 22:31:34 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋