What are my chances of finding an older man ? I am 43.?

Question

I am totally turned on by older men who are mature, intelligent and sexually capable. I don't mean a man who still had kids at home, but someone in their 60-80 yr old range. I am totally turned on by older men. They are so sensible and polite. . Is it ok to advertise for a man with those specifications?

I am not a gold digger, Actually, I am a registered nurse and work full time. I am not looking for anything but great sex and someone who is polite and willing to be monogomous. Hows that?

Naaa. You would not believe the older men who would love to be gettin it on, but cant because their wife is in the nursing home or died. I was actually propositioned about 2 years ago by a much older man, but turned him down because he was with his wife

Answer 1

I have looked a lot at cases of older men with younger women. In the USA, it is not common, because the society is essentially biased against older people.

Here in Mexico, I see lots of much older men with younger women. Two years ago, a man a couple years older then I (I am 64) had a live-in who was 17, and she was actually pretty -- and he sure isn't. I did not understand why she was there. A friend has been pushing me to take up with a 32 year old woman, half my age, but as I say below, I am already married.

But, in really poor parts of Mexico, young women actually often take older men, because it gets them out of extreme poverty. My wife's great-uncle near Cordoba is around 90, and his wife is well under 60. They married, um, maybe 30 or 40 years ago, and his youngest daughter is 16, the same age as some of his grandkids.

A friend knows a retired engineer here in the mountains. When he was 78, he was still vigorous, and healthy, and he has two babies with a woman in her 20's, and she seems content. He has a wife, but he decided when he retired to return to his roots, and at his age, his family never once thought he was going to start a new family. So, he lived here and went home to the city once in a while. At Christmas, he was so engrossed in his love nest, he forgot to go home, and that was a really stupid thing. So, he got nailed, and his wife moved far away with another son.

Some years ago, there was a US Supreme Court Justice, Douglas or O'douglas, I don't remember, he was 80 or so and married a 20 year old girl, who according to friends, actually loved him very much.

I realize not everybody here can understand this, but she loved him, because she, too, was an intellectual, and she loved him for his intelligence, for his friends, and for his interesting life.

So, in my opinion, that much age difference works best when there is an intellectual rapport, not something common between men and women of any age. I have that with a niece, no romance involved, but we are very intellectually connected, a very special relationship, so I can well understand how an older man and younger woman with that relationship can have a very good marriage.

As far as sarcastic comments about older men, I am 64, and since I started the Atkins diet and lost 35 pounds, I can tell you I am confident I could keep up with a very young woman -- not that I will, because I also believe one practices fidelity in marriage, period.

I would recommend to questioner to look for a man of some education, which may or may not be the same as schooling. That "Mature, intelligent" is really important. And, try to look for that intellectual rapport, that is really special and wonderful if you can find it.

And, Look for health. A healthy, vigorous man of 60+ will be with you for a while. If he has trouble walking, he won't be there long.

Answer 2

Wow! 60 to 80 yrs old and sexually capable? That will be hard to find...the combo of the two that is. I can't say it's hard to find a male in that age range since they do not have a whole lot of picks themselves. Plus, they're usually lonely, married, or widowed. I hope you're not looking for a relationship with them because I'm not sure if it would be long term....

I think it's ok to look for a man with those specification but I'm not sure how many of them would read your ad since most men of that age is NOT looking for women by that method. You can meet alot in a retirement community (florida) or old folks home. Good luck!

Answer 3

A sexually compatible 60 - 80 year old? Are you kidding? A 43 year old woman is still very sexually active and not at all compatible with a man twice that age.

Viagra can only do so much here Honey...........

Answer 4

I think you just did!
But of course it's ok! Long as your not a gold digger, lookin' for a smoker with a short lifespan. Butt if you liek older guys go to the yacht club (or bar, which ever's closer)

Answer 5

Yes you find one just keep on looking in the right place

Answer 6

pretty good my dad who is now 57 or 58 has found himself a girlfriend in the dame town and it didnt take long.

Answer 7

YULK!!!!