My future Mother in law sent out invitations to my wedding rehearsal dinner that she is paying for. It really ticked off alot of my family and friends that she felt the need to "invite them". is it really tacky that she sent the invitations or is it appropriate.???? Any manners/ etiquete web sites would be helpful too.
2006-07-18 15:05:11 · 10 answers · asked by Just a girl 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
It was tacky of her not you. Rehearsal dinners are wedding party & those special people invitied. The mother of the bride never needs an invitation. My daughter got married recently with over 250 guest. The groom's family did the rehearsal dinner but they did not send out invitations & they rented an entire resturaunt - it was up to bride & groom to invite the guest. It was beautiful & our families are good friends now.There are several websites - just type in
wedding etiquette in your search train Yahoo or google to pick the one that fits you.
2006-07-18 16:11:21 · answer #1 · answered by Wolfpacker 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
While it is frequently the case that the groom's family hosts the rehearsal and the rehearsal dinner, this is not required, it is voluntary. Since they were so thoughtful as to relieve the bride's family of this social duty and financial burden, the bride's family should be expressing gratitude, rather than feeling "really ticked off" about it. So long as the rehearsal went reasonably well and the dinner was pleasant, what harm was done by issuing written invitations?
2006-07-18 22:14:17 · answer #2 · answered by kill_yr_television 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honesty, I got an invitation to my OWN rehearsal dinner. I thought the whole evening and everything associated with it was very tacky. (including the rehearsal...if I would've saw what was caught on video tape during the wedding, I would've been freaking...and everyone knew how I wanted it) then again, I think 99% of what my mother-in-law does is totally tacky.
2006-07-19 00:08:00 · answer #3 · answered by Gabby_Gabby_Purrsalot 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am helping my girlfriend plan her wedding and mine as well and it is tons of fun but it all depends on if the person wants to send invitations, she does not because everyone is so close but I have to since mine are out of state. It is not necessary to send out invitations for the rehearsal dinner it is just up to the people who are throwing it. Go to the websites I have sent to you and you can take your pick as to your liking and preferability.
Congratulations and have a wonderful wedding and a fabulous happy life with your fiance.
2006-07-18 22:25:51 · answer #4 · answered by jennifer7228 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She should have consulted with you, but since they are paying for it, they do have a say. It is customary to send out rehearsal dinner invites if you are inviting people that are not in the wedding party, I think it is a nice gesture, especially if people are not sure where the church or dinner location is (like if they are coming from out of town). I don't really know who you'd invite, but maybe grandparents or people really close to the bridal party, maybe someone special that cannot make the wedding...
I think rehersal dinner invitations are just one more way for invitation companies to make more money.
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2006-07-19 16:46:13 · answer #5 · answered by plantmd 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not everyone is suppose to show up to the rehearsal dinner. It's not the reception.
I think she was well within her rights to send invitations. There's no doubt whether a person is expected to attend or not.
I should think they'd be glad they got an invite.
You could always check Emily Post's Wedding Etiquette out.
I wouldn't lose sleep over it.
2006-07-18 22:22:21 · answer #6 · answered by weddrev 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The rehearsal dinner is the responsiblity of the groom's family. It is up to them how expensive it should be. Those who are automatically invited are anyone who is participating in the wedding (this include parents of ringbearer and flowergirls), the immediate family of the bride and groom, and any out of town guests. Invitations (including dress and directions) should be sent to out of town guests. Any other invitees should be discussed with the hosts (the groom's family) and approval given by the hosts before inviting.
2006-07-19 00:58:20 · answer #7 · answered by stseukn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not necessary to send invitations to a rehearsal dinner, but totally appropriate to do so. Your family needs to chill. We sent them out for my brother's rehearsal dinner and it was just a backyard cook out. I would say your people are just looking for a reason to find fault with your MIL and it's not attractive.
2006-07-18 22:28:33 · answer #8 · answered by maigen_obx 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if it cost more no but yes to remind everyone
2006-07-18 23:34:33 · answer #9 · answered by DJ Spinbadd 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2006-07-18 22:12:18 · answer #10 · answered by niecy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋