What is the BEST thing to SAY when you decide to KEEP IN TOUCH with your EX again after 2 years?? I need ideas! Thanks everyone!
2006-07-18 14:53:54 · 33 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I meant "get" in touch:)
2006-07-18 15:21:25 · update #1
first of all, keep it casual...don't try too hard to impress him or make it seem like you've been thinking about him a lot (if you have). Secondly, don't burst out and say how much you've missed him or you still have feelings for him (assuming you still do)...that makes you seem so desperate and needy. Just say hello, ask him how things have been going in his life, career, family, you know, just simple things. Maybe offer to go out with him for lunch or something to catch up on old times and see how things are going between the two of you. Have fun and good luck!
2006-07-18 15:00:30 · answer #1 · answered by Cynicaldreamer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it depends on who you're saying it to...
Are you deciding whether or not that's what you'd like to do and are wondering how to approach him about the subject? If so, just let him know that you'd like to keep in touch and why. If he's comfortable with it, great. If not, well I guess that's that then.
Are you wondering what to say to friends and family? If so, that's going to depend on the situation.
Do any of your friends or family members have animosity with the guy for any reason? If so, say as little as possible and leave it at that. Something like, "I know you didn't get along so well with so-and-so, but we've decided that enough time has passed since our breakup and are going to try on friendship for size. See how it fits us." Something really casual yet informative like that.
No specific details are necessary-especially if you don't think the person wants to hear them.
Did people like him when you were dating and thought it was a shame when you broke up? If so, let them know that you've decided to try out the friendship thing and make it clear that there'll be nothing more to it by saying something like, "I ran into so-and-so the other day. We decided that just because we broke up doesn't mean we can't be friends, so we're gonna see how that goes." It doesn't lead anyone to believe there's anything going on and you also don't need to tell anyone anymore than you want them to know right now.
Is he dating someone else or married now? If so, it's his responsibility to broach the subject with his significant other, not yours. So don't feel compelled to say something to that person. But if that person asks you, say, "Sure, he and I are friends." Anything else will bring unwanted suspicion upon both of you which you don't want.
Good luck! :)
2006-07-18 15:05:12 · answer #2 · answered by this_isridiculous 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am in touch with both of my ex's - one I was married to and had kids with, the other I was not married to and no kids, but with both for 10 years. I am also friends with my very first boyfriend whom I had a child with when I was 16, and he never was a part of the child's life, but we started speaking last year after nearly 30 years! It is never easy, but it can be done. Talking about the past is not so good, but talking about old friends is a good safe start to a conversation............good luck!!!
2006-07-18 15:01:20 · answer #3 · answered by Troy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's hard to keep in touch with an ex... It all depends on whether you want to move on or be with them... Your willingness to keep in touch might be misconstrued if you're not looking to get back together... Avoid the nostalgia trap... Don't romanticize things. You broke up for a reason. Don't forget that.
I would keep things light. Just tell them that you want to know if they're ok from time to time.
2006-07-18 14:58:49 · answer #4 · answered by nkiblueeyes 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You didn't provide much detail, but I'd say talking to her would be a good start. Play some catch up. What have you been doing these 2 years? Then reminisce about fun things you guys used to do together. That'll stir up old emotions.
2006-07-18 14:58:13 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It all depends on what you expect you're keeping in touch to achieve. Do you want to get back together, or do you just want to be friends with this person because you sincerely enjoy their company. Either way I suppose you can start with, "I've missed you. I always had fun when I was around you."
2006-07-18 15:11:05 · answer #6 · answered by Speedo Inspector 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not really sure what u mean by "the best thing to say"..um if i decided to keep in touch with him, i'd just give him a call and be like "hey nerd, havent talked to you in a while"..i'd talk to him like any other friend.
2006-07-18 14:56:42 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't even bother, he's your ex for a reason. But if you still insist, reminiss about some special time you two had together. Get the conversation started on a good note.Good Luck
2006-07-18 15:02:40 · answer #8 · answered by brain d 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
KEEP IN TOUCH or GET IN TOUCH?
Umm why would you go crawling back to a man that obviously didn't want you and moved on with his life?
You are better than that, you are worth more than that, and you need to go and find a man that deserves you.
2006-07-18 14:56:18 · answer #9 · answered by Jennifer B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well..if my girlfriend starting talking to me again after 2 years...um..I wouldn't want to talk about love life..kind of opens..an awkward situation between the too...especially if it was a messy break up? But I don't know your situation...just..talk about....something fun you've done? Or something interesting that he's done, it will all..just keep going.
2006-07-18 14:57:24 · answer #10 · answered by Gorgeous;//♥=] 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋