he's super nice, we're very much the same and he supports me wen im in need of a friend. only my cousins know and i know for a fact that going public isn't an option. with that said i still feel like we can grow to be more than just a "new thing" to each other, but i constantly have this age thing on my mind...should i stop over analyzing the situation and just let time reveal things to me as they come?
2006-07-18 14:47:47 · 20 answers · asked by katrina c 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
he just turned 27 last week and im 19...
2006-07-18 14:57:25 · update #1
we have lots of stuff in common, we're very similar...he's a genuine guy and i can see myself being with him for a long time...he makes me feel good and he hasn't given me any reason to doubt him...
if my cousin had thought he weren't good for me then she wouldn't have hooked us up...im just stuck with my feelings....
2006-07-18 15:03:59 · update #2
My husband is 7-years old than I am and we've been married 17-years now. Unless you were a minor, which you are not, rarely does age matter. It's all in the mind is what it is. If he's good to you, you enjoy him, and he's a good man with his feet planted solidly on the ground, I'd say just enjoy what you have now and see where it goes next. I am curious though, why at 19-years old you cannot go public with your relationship with him?
2006-07-18 15:21:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
um it all depends..how old are you? I mean if you're in high school and this guy is 8 years older than you..believe me it isnt going to last. Things may start out fine at the beginning, but eventually the age gap will created problems. Now, if ur in college...and ur not a frosh or soph, but like a junior or senior..then yea i could see this maybe working out. You have to make sure that he is a genuine guy though and not out to just use you and get u into bed. Make sure you guys have enough in common too.
If the age gap really bothers you that much, then maybe u should take that as a sign to break up.
2006-07-18 14:52:10 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with you dating an older man, nowadays age is just a number, it doesn't mean a heck of a lot unless you are under 21 well I guess I should say 18 but I'd say stay with him and see where it goes, because then at least you can look back at what you did and say I tried and found out rather than asking yourself where it could have gone.
2006-07-18 14:53:52 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dated older men for a long time and it was fun while it lasted. I ended up marrying someone only 2 years older and I am glad. Though, I do not consider 8 years to be that much of a difference--it could work out. If not, you will still have gained invaluable relationship experience. Just enjoy and see what happens.
2006-07-18 14:51:36 · answer #4 · answered by HCH32 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are you? If you're not at least 25, you're foolish to continue with this relationship. Such an age difference is enormous if you're in your teens or early twenties. The fact that it bothers you constantly and you can't "go public" should tell you that something isn't right. You should feel totally comfortable in the relationship, or you should back off.
2006-07-18 14:53:09 · answer #5 · answered by MOM KNOWS EVERYTHING 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have found dating older men is more interesting and fun than guys my age for alot of reasons and see nothing wrong with it unless you are underage and then there are legal issues that could become a problem. So as long as you being with him isnt going to send him to jail or break up a marriage i say stop worring and enjoy a man that understands you and can actually have conversations that arent immature like alot of younger guys.
2006-07-18 14:52:37 · answer #6 · answered by starrmerlan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that is a huge gap, unless you are 17 and he is 25. There is a level of life experience that is so important before a teenager would seek out a older man to date. If you are 24 and he is 31, I don't see a problem with it. As long as you are happy then that is what truly matters. Please, if he is older and you are young, don't do it...find someone within your peer group first!
2006-07-18 14:52:13 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It all depends. A 20 year old is way, way too old for a 12 year old. A 24 year old is way too old for a 16 year old. A 29 year old is not too old for a 21 year old. A 35 year old is not too old for a 27 year old.
So it all depends on the age of the younger. If the younger person is not of age, then it is always way too old.
2006-07-18 14:52:55 · answer #8 · answered by pshdsa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess it all depends on your age now. If you are 16 and the guy is 24.. then.. I can understand why going public is not an option. I dont have enough information to make an honest opinion. Please reveal your ages.
2006-07-18 14:53:00 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You didn't say what your age is but if you're under 16, you are playing with FIRE and it's really stupid for someone your age to mess with a guy who is 8 years older than you because you could get very, very hurt... in more ways than one.
2006-07-18 14:55:09 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋