2006-07-18 14:38:50 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Try reading "Smart Women, Foolish Choices."
2006-07-18 15:17:31 · answer #1 · answered by Otis F 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Having been involved with in, and now working to help DV survivors. One of the main reasons is No Self Esteem. She does not feel anyone better would love her. She feels she does not deserve someone who is good to her, since she has never really had someone tell her how wonderful and beautiful she is without wanting something in return.
Years ago I managed a local "Fast food photography" studio and a young man came in with a new born baby girl. I smiled and said, "I know you have heard all the advice you can handle by now, but can I give you on piece"? he smiled and said yes.
"Dont be the kind of parent you want her to be, she will do that anyway. Instead.....Be the kind of MAN you want her to marry. Cause she will" To a girl I say "Be the kind of woman you want him to love and respect" 'Cause we as women are instinctive to adore and honor a man who loves us" IE: which is why we go for the abuser. He is the most charming man around. "Prince Charming"
A question to ask yourself when he rides up on his white HORSE (bike) :) what happened to Cinderella, Snow White and Sleeping Beauty, that he could now come here and dance with you? The doors close and nothing is said from then on.
Guys and Girls-You are all priceless. You are all gifts for one another. Learn to respect yourself and you will learn to have the relationship you deserve. Dont set your standards too high, just set them for a long and loving life of learning, dissagreeing and making up with love.
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2006-07-18 15:00:51 · answer #2 · answered by Edie L 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Theres a big secret to women that some guys learn eventually. and that is "The worst thing you can do to a girl is give her too much Attention, you have to ignore them sometimes" why? Because girls like challenges they like changing people mostley guys. how many time yu heard " I'll change him trust me" thats why you should ignorre them, that will give her the vibe that you don't care for her and like all women she would try to change you to like her. and voala you got her. Iam a decent guy I will never hit a women or touch her but i know not to be allover a women and try to get her cause that make you look like a dog, so give them their space, girlz are the best actors even if she don't look like she likes you she probably does.
Girls think about sex way more than guys, that why its allover their magazines that cosmos and stuff.
Girls lie way better than guys
Girls get away with more thing than guys
Girls would out yell a guy anytime any day
The first thing a girls think when he meets a guy is "Is he the ONE" The first thing a Guy thinks when he meets a girl "Is She the One, for tonight"
Girls will find a way to blame you for every argument that they start.
Girls Cheat way more than guys, we just dont catch them cause we too busy cheating on them.
Girls tell their bestfriend everything......Everything, from your size to how you perform........they will tell everyone after ya'll break up.
A pretty girl with a good pesonality, was an ugly chick before, those used to be ugly and now pretty are the best candidate for a wife, cause they fine and they got a good personality.
2006-07-18 14:59:49 · answer #3 · answered by King_Taiq da 3rd 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some women don't realize it's abuse until they are trapped. Sometimes when you meet someone and they are controlling, at first it may seems as caring. Most women who have been abused would tell you he would do stuff at first i thought it was love but it's later you realize it's actually control. It usually don't start out as abusive.
2006-07-18 14:44:02 · answer #4 · answered by Lady Mandeville 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because the decent men usually end up being friends..because they are decent
its a weird pull I guess. but I finally broke off of it! hope you do to
and to the 14 year old talking about sex
wow..just..wow..thats pathetic on so many different leveles..talk about kids having kids. sweety I'm 16 and I don't have sex. chilaxe a bit and be a kid while you can!
2006-07-18 14:44:52 · answer #5 · answered by Miss. Advice 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because we love sex. I'm only 14 and all, but we do love sex, and bad abusive guys love having sex more and decent guys.
2006-07-18 14:41:42 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that at first they don't appeal to be abusive but some of them are while others aren't !
2006-07-18 14:41:27 · answer #7 · answered by ChiefNickNameadvancer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Scared I think. or they like getting hit . Wouldn't know what to do with a good man if they had one
2006-07-18 14:46:33 · answer #8 · answered by CONFUSED 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's what they are used to. Probably from their father or another male figure in their childhood. It's hard to break from the usual.
2006-07-18 14:42:17 · answer #9 · answered by TMAC 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know....My mom did that & Bad boys have a certain charm but I married a total sweetie & have never looked back!!!
2006-07-18 14:42:58 · answer #10 · answered by Catcanscratch 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋