Parent problems?

Question

I am 12, & i have my 1st bf (13) right now. We have been together 4 about 2 months.
I really like him & he really likes me....I ♥ him more than he ♥ me. his parents won't let us hang out unless we are 100% adult supervised. My mom doesen't like him @ all. He is my bro's best friend, & was b4 we ever got together. I constantly get lectures about how "I could do so much better....."
I know I could do better than him, but 4 some reason I ♥ him SOOOOO much.
Anyway, I don't know how 2 deal with our parents. My mom doesen't like having him over, & he doesen't want me 2 go over 2 his house cuz he's afraid his mom will question me.....& were not allowed 2 go anywhere alone!!
So we never get 2 c each other. It seems all we do is talk on the phone ( 1 time we talked 90 FREAKIN' hours in 1 month!!!)
HELPPPPP!!
I'M SO DANG CONFUSED!

My mom has no prob. w/ us hangin' out....it's his parents!!

Answer 1

You are too young to have more than your present sort of relationship with a boy. At 12, the only sort of "boyfriend" you should have WOULD be the kind you talk to on the phone, send notes to, see in school. You should NOT be hanging out at each other's houses, supervised or not, much less going anywhere without a chaperone!

You are lucky your parents have allowed you to spend this much time with this boy. My daughters are 14 and 16, and there is NO WAY that I would let them have a more serious relationship than just talking with ANY boy. Period!

Answer 2

It's a tough age you are at, isn't it sweetie? Being 12 is not easy. Do you have an open, honest relationship with your Mom? Can you talk with her easily? If you can, why don't you ask her. Believe it or not, she knows you better than anyone else right now. Here's the thing. If the parents are allowing you to see each other if someone, and I'm assuming an adult, is around. Go out chaperoned. You may not believe it right now, but both your parents are only protecting you and him. Six or seven years from now, you'll be thankful that they did. But until then, go light on the parents. They are only doing what they believe is best. And under no circumstance, get sneaking or begin lying. You will only hurt yourself in the end.

Answer 3

You are not going to like what I have to say so you can stop reading right now...

You are 12 and your parents have been where you are. They just don't want to see you get hurt. 12 is very young for a serious relationship, you should be hanging out with your friends and doing 12 year old things.

Bottom line they don't want you having sex at 12. They know if they leave you in situations were you two are alone a lot it will eventually happen. They care a lot about you or they would not be making this situation so hard on you. If you two want to be together you are going to have to do what your parents say. Deal with it, it won't get any better as long as you are living in their house. I'm not saying run away or drop out of school, they just want the very best for you and don't want you to miss out on being a teenager and having to deal with adult issues.

Answer 4

Ist of all, if you are only 12, you can't be in love. You are confused because you are not mature enough to handle a relationship with a guy. Your mom probably knows best about this guy and she is just trying to protect you from ruining your life. Because the first thing you know, you will pregnant, fall out of school, and have to live with this mistake the rest of your life. Parents know that if their kids get together with the opposite sex, what will happen. If you were mine, I'd set right in the middle of the two of you every where you went, if I even let him come over in the first place.

Answer 5

Just hang in there and keep talking on the phone..email, text message, IM..whatever. Your still too young to really ask for more privileges so just hang in there for a few more years and then you'll have proved how good of a girl you are and how trustworthy you are and then you'll get more privileges. trust me though when I say...do not start pulling crap with your parents until well after you turn 16...by then you'll have all the freedom from earning their trust and the smarts to cover your own butt. Your teenage years will be much more fun...I promise.

Answer 6

This is confusing as you are 12 and beginning to have all kinds of feelings. It sounds all your parents want is for you to have a wonderful life and finish school and then college. Parents want the BEST for their kids, and if left alone together, your hormones will get the best of you!!!!! Its hard, but slow down and be a kid for a little while longer!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 7

Honey..I hate to break it to you but parents know best. my friest real boyfriend was when i was 14. he was 16 and i thought I loved him..it was a huge mistake and i didnt even see it

keep you roptions open or just don't date. the parentals are perfectly right to have you uspervised and restricted. you two can get in so much trouble alone. wether you think you can or not.

You parent slove you...you are only twelve. ther eis so much more in store for you. the right one in all seriousness...not him...so i would put off the dating for a few years, kay

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good luck sweety.

Answer 8

well i am the parent of am 10 year old boy and you are to young to be dateing in the first place.if your parents and his parents have a problm with the two of you seeing one an other then maybe it is best you bouth lay off for a wile and in a year or two if you still like one an other than give it a nother try.by the way noone will ever be good enof for you in your parents eyes trust me i know thats how i feel for my son and one day you will find the one who makes your hart skip many beats and you will know he is the one for you.

Answer 9

You know what ... in 10 years you won't even remember this guy. Don't worry about it. Listen to your parents ... they really really really do know what's best for you. I know it seems hard, but they really love you and would do absolutely anything to protect you from things. I guess that includes icky yucky boys as well. Besides, as a parent, we really don't like our children's friends. We tolerate them. Therefore, find a boy that isn't so close to the family ... someone that they don't know quite so much about already. Sorry :(

Answer 10

what u r not saying are the reason(s) ur mom does not like ur b.f. And also what is ur bro's reaction to ur friendship with his best friend. anyway u must not hurry in trying to win ur mom. Over time if ur b.f. acts resposibly then she would start to rethink her position. I mean whats the hurry, after all u r only 12 yrs old.