2006-07-18 14:33:54 · 29 answers · asked by Rochelle 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
This is hard, I know. But with each day you have to look forward
to what you want out of life..and trust me it will ultimately NOT
be just to have a boyfriend....there are plenty of things you can be
doing to lift your self-esteem so it will never be centered around
the man/boyfriend in your life. Keep your chin up and be proud
of all that you do...this too shall pass my dear and in the meantime stay busy with things/people you enjoy and who love
you....You'll do great and someone new will come along some
time sooner than you think when you have your mind so occupied
on bettering yourself you can't help but attract a wonderful guy
who will value you for respecting your life enough to make it a
success with or without someone beside you to comfort you
all the time..and as for him being your first..every woman has
a first and each woman's story is unique...cherish yours, learn
from yours and do great things with your life !!!!
2006-07-18 14:41:14 · answer #1 · answered by ljean 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I just dated this incredible girl and we had nothing but an awesome time together. She used to date this guy (who was also her first bf) who was controlling and verbally abusive. They broke up about 3-4 times over. Everytime they broke up he said he was sorry and that things would be different this time, and gave her the "wounded dog" look. Of course it was all bs. Now she's friends with him again and we've broken up. I know she still misses me, but instead she's doing this weird limbo between him and I.
I really miss her and wish she would realize what this guys doing to her, but there's not a lot I can do. So please, don't do this to yourself. If you meet a guy who treats you right and you love and have alot of fun with don't back out on him just because you think he might do something bad all on the basis of the past, or because you think you might be able to change your ex (or have another chance with him). If you don't get over the past you're never going to have a future.
2006-07-18 21:37:56 · answer #2 · answered by Jon J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing to do is get involved with a group or social club somewhere and don't sit around dwelling on what could have been. If he is your ex, he's that for a reason and I promise you that someone better will come around. Just get out there, in the right places, and be yourself and Mr. Right will come along. Good luck
2006-07-18 21:36:12 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
After just getting out of a relationship (esp. one with your first love) the worst thing you can do is bury yourself in doubt. You do this by surrounding yourself with guys; entering right into another relationship; or going out partying every night. Eventually, it will hit you... hard.
My advice: What you need now is time to yourself. Time to reflect. To think about what you got out of the relationship; what went wrong? how can you do things differently next time.
This is a very important thing to do so you don't enter your next relationship with baggage. Just take some time to relax...reflect and release. Cry if you need to. You don't need a shoulder.. a pillow will do just a well. Sometimes friends or even family don't know what to say or can give you the wrong advice. Just take some time to yourself to get your head together. You will get over him with time.
Best Wishes!
2006-07-18 21:43:43 · answer #4 · answered by PseudoQuasiX 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's a first to everything in anyone's life! It took me 4 ex's till I found the right one for me and it's been 5+ years...! Sooo move on and explore the world and enjoy meeting ppl & friends... you will get over him soon!! There's soo many big fishes in the sea... you will eventually meet someone you'r destined to be with..
2006-07-18 21:42:29 · answer #5 · answered by Spicy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it takes time. allow yourself the time to heal. He will be the guy you remember fondly later. Try to be grateful for how much you learned about relationships while being with him. Take things one day at a time and surround yourself with people who love and care about you..who want you happy healthy and safe. It's pretty rare for people to stay with their first love forever. Don't make any major decisions for a little while. Make yourself go out and do the things you normally do. Act as if you feel ok until you actually do. Good luck!
2006-07-18 21:37:43 · answer #6 · answered by Ms_E_Bunny 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It takes time to get over people that you are really connected to, but know that you will get over them. I know from experience it isn't wise to jump into another relationship right after you finish another but spend time reconnecting with self. Maybe you and your ex can be friends one day but right now that isn't wise. The less you see of him the better, it will make it easier to get over him. Good luck and don't worry it is normal to not be over him.
2006-07-18 21:58:45 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can get over him by realizing he is the first and that there willbe others to follow.Find a good friend to vent to, write it down, stay busy or just work out. Think positve thoughts. One day you will look back and think how silly it was that you thought about this!
2006-07-18 21:38:27 · answer #8 · answered by nene 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it just takes a little time to get over him. you're probably thinking you'll never get over him but you will. and i'm pretty sure you're going through this thing where every little thing you see reminds you of him. all i can say is it just takes time. to me talking to a friend was kind of upseting because they always said oh you're better off without him and i didn't like him anyways and he's no good for you and it doesn't help at all when they say that.
2006-07-18 21:38:57 · answer #9 · answered by Blank 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You never really get over your first boyfriend. As time goes by you'll get over him because that's how life works but a funny thing happens....he becomes almost perfect.
2006-07-18 21:38:05 · answer #10 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋