ok ok sorry for asking again ,reference pg 12 in relationship but no one seems to care to answer directly?

Question

or detailed enough, i mentioned she finds me unattractive and thats more than physically she says, everywhere i go people say we make a great couple, she doesnt seem to get it i already asked her more than once if im good enough to bang why not more she says always it wasnt her i initiated the moves and she went along for pleasures sake only, but ive already described her looks i find her gorgeous but i know the way modern dudes think and they probably wouldnt in fact a coworker called her fat thats mean please reference other question and sorry for askin again

actually sorry i asked some in here never bothered to read the original question so you dont know diddly about the situation and your just judging so sorry

Answer 1

Okay, so from reading the other questions I think that this is what you're saying (if I'm wrong just send me a message and I'll go from there)...... anyhow, it seems that you feel like you love her and she says she doesn't find you attractive, but you think she isn't "socially" pretty so she should just accept you and live happily ever after. If that's the case then I have to tell you that all species have a phenotype and a genotype in regards to their genetic makeup. The phenotype tells by outward appearance what ones genetic makeup might produce in an offspring. Since women are genetically programmed to search for specific phenotypes they have very clear cut ideas fo the things they want to pass on to their children (even women who don't want kids still subconsciously follow these patterns) so if she isn't attracted then she isn't and that's nothing you can control. If you really want to keep being rejected then you can spend your day and nights finding out what she really wants and accomplishing those things... that may win her over in 5-10 years. I hope I haven't offended you, I try to tell it like I see it is all. Best wishes

Answer 2

1. she finds you unattractive and she is referring to more than just your looks when she says this
2. everywhere you go people say that you would make a great couple
3. you’ve already asked her why she doesn’t want more than sex with you
4. she says that you initiated sex each time and that she just went along with it for the pleasure of it
5. you find her gorgeous but others may not, in fact a co-worker called her fat

I’m not sure what your previous comments were but it sounds like you’re pretty screwy to begin with.
A. If she says that you’re unattractive then why would you want to be with her? That’s just ignorant.
B. It’s completely inconsequential that others say you would make a great couple. So, who cares?
C. You said that you asked her why she doesn’t want to have more than sex with you and that she responded by telling you that she did not initiate sex. Well, that still doesn’t answer the question you actually asked, now does it?
D. It is possible to have sex with someone and not want to be with them. It’s called lust. Sometimes it’s not even lust. Sometimes it’s just wanting to have sex. Sex is fun. It’s good. It’s better with a partner.
E. The fact that you find her attractive and others do not does not make her a charity case and therefore mandate her to feel lucky you even grace her with your presence let alone your ovations. You’re feeding her self esteem by making her feel wanted and she likes that. The more you want from her - the more you’re feeding that need for attention and validation. However, feeding this need she has will not make her want you. It will only make her want more of what you provide.

You have a f@$# buddy. Deal with it. She doesn’t want more. Either take the sex as you look for someone else; move on; or, stay until she leaves the FB relationship for a permanent boyfriend that she stumbles upon.

Now, I've put way much more into this answer than I actually care so I'm done.

Answer 3

sorry but attractive doesn't establish a relationship always.. good lookin people dating doesn't mean a healthy , good relationship. why did you mention before a thought she might be the unattractive one and maybe she doesn't understand what a relationship is? what do you think a relationship is? .. it takes two to make love.. if she doesn't feel the same.. then find someone else instead of trying to get her.. you should be with someone who feels the same about you.. that's what a relationship should be like.. two people both caring for each other. it doesn't matter what the world thinks about anyone.. have self confidence.. and sorry to say but you're judging her and saying she's not that good looking because you said "i find her gorgeous but i know the way modern dudes think and they probably wouldnt " think about it and decide whether or not it's worth fighting for.. it sounds like you need to learn to move on

Answer 4

First of all it doesn't matter what other people think of you two together, you are being superficial in that fact, second of all why do you want her so bad, i get that you think she is gorgeous but you never once say that you love her, quit worrying about having a relationship and enjoy the sex for now, the girl you really need to be with is out there somewhere so have fun with this one enjoy yourself, and then move on.

Answer 5

I am not sure I understand what you are asking!
The coworker probably meant..."phat" pronounced fat!
It means pretty hot and tempting.

I am not sure what answers you are seeking, but it sounds like this girl, although beautiful on the outside, is not a beautiful person on the inside.

Find someone else. By the way, saying that you banged her implies that you do not respect her and if she did it for pleasure, she is not a person you want to have a relationship with.
I hope this helps. Good Luck

Answer 6

I know it's tough, but it sounds like she simply doesn't want a relationship (other than a friendship) with you. She probably really cares about you, but just as a friend. Sex is just sex to some people, and it sounds like that is what she is telling you it is ... it's just sex. So, if you really want to prove your point ... take the sex away. Then, take your cues from how she reacts. If she doesn't care (i.e., doesn't say anything or doesn't try to initiate), then she isn't in to you in the same way that you like her. However, if she does miss you/it, then you need to decide on whether or not you want to play her game.

Answer 7

well it doesnt really matter if other people think you are a great couple, it matters if you two both think you are a great couple, and if she stated that she did not find you attractive in a physical sense and any other sense for that matter, then she is not happy. you need to find someone who will like you for who you are, and going by what you wrote, she doesn't sound as if she sees your relationship that way. in my personal opinion, and take it for what you will, you should find someone who you are comfortable with, and someone who you find you dont even have these kind of worries or thoughts with. then you will truly be happy. hope this helps!

Answer 8

If she finds you unattractive then that's a clue that you don't have a relationship. Quit looking for her to change her mind, and move on.

Answer 9

I think it is time to move on, find someone who is into you. A relationship needs to be based on more than just sex, and if she is not wanting to have that kind of relationship, go find someone who is.

Answer 10

She doesn't want a relationship. Why you waste your time on her? Maybe she think she still young and wanted to wait for another guy to appear in her life. Its really obvious that you seems to love her more than she love you....