i am in relationship for 5 months.my bf is a very nice guy.whenever he asked me to have sex i said no,i can see the dissapointment in his face.he always tells me he wants me so bad.but what if he only wants sex and leave me.
2006-07-18 14:22:01 · 16 answers · asked by skyrus 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
ur doing the right thing bcuz ur not ready yet. if he really likes u for u then he'll wait to have sex. always do what ur gut tell u, not him or anyone else.
2006-07-18 14:25:36 · answer #1 · answered by jaz 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Obviously, he wants to have sex. All guys want to have sex, usually as often as possible with as many girls as possible, so no surprises there. But this isn't about him, it's about you.
If you don't feel ready to have sex with this guy, don't have sex with him. He will either accept this and be patient or find sex somewhere else (maybe your coworker would give him some). That's the risk you take. Remember, guys don't see sex in the same way as girls. For them, it can be a physical release with no emotional attachment.
However, unless you're quite young or inexperienced (and there's nothing wrong with that) five months seems like a long time to be in a relationship without having sex. Are you sure you like this guy as much as you say you do?
One final word: don't do it because he wants you to; do it because you want to.
Be cool, B
2006-07-18 21:45:02 · answer #2 · answered by Bethany 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You guys could still do stuff together. Without penitration. He could rub your mussel or eat you out. You could B J him. But its best to wait for sex in a relationship. I don't know what level your with him or not. Has he seen you topless? My friend use to have a gf that would make out with him without her shirt on. Which I think is totally hot.
If you must have sex then make sure your using protection and are using a birth control.
Yeah most guys just want to bang a woman. So yeah.
Personally I'd just like to find someone that I click with. I love giving really long hugs to my gf. Hearing her breath and her soft long hair on my cheek. But I gotta find someone first. LOL :(
2006-07-18 21:32:37 · answer #3 · answered by Frak 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're not ready, you're not ready. He should respect that. How old are you? What do you feel is the biggest reason you are not ready? Is it him? Obviously you don't truly trust him...not that that is a bad thing, maybe your first instinct is the correct one and you should follow it. He NEEDS to respect your decision. If he can't, then the least he could do is break up with you before he cheats and opens other possibilities for you to get hurt. Sex should be about fun, exploration...not stressful or pressured. If you have anymore questions, please feel free to send me an email. Hope this helps, Matt.
2006-07-18 21:27:16 · answer #4 · answered by adtmatt 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ur concern that he will have sex with u and leave U ? I got news for ya, if u don't have sex with him he's gonna leave ya. He's gonna go to a girl who says ( yes) and she's gonna put a another kind of look on his face and it will not be a disappointed look, because ur( his 5 month) g/f keeps saying (no)
So either way Ur gonna be out of a b/f because u know how guys are if u give them sex they may leave if u don't give them sex they WILL leave.
So u withholding may not make a difference
2006-07-18 21:42:16 · answer #5 · answered by itspink22@sbcglobal.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it is not necessary to have sex for a boyfriend/girlfriend type relationship to work, you are a better person for waiting to have sex, I hope you wait untill you get married, that is the best way to go about things.
2006-07-18 21:26:49 · answer #6 · answered by Mr. No 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not necessary, it's a very emotional and wonderful thing to do...especially if you want to get a deeper connection with the person you're with.
I dunno if he just wants sex from you. If that's all he wants...well, he would have left you a while ago after you've said no to him so many times. Obviously he cares more about you than just to have sex. Unless you just started turning him down.
The point is...he is attracted to you...he doesn't want to just take care of himself alone anymore...he wants to do that with you...and he wants to help you take care of yourself too...
I'd say go for it...but only if you really care about him. :P
2006-07-18 21:32:54 · answer #7 · answered by angelbabycriz 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ima put it this way . if you dont do it he will find somebody who will. and when he does you cant get upset because its human nature to want to have sex.hes been around for 5 months so i doubt all he wants is sex cause if that was the case he wouldnt have stuck around so long.but is there a good reason for you not wanting to have sex with him? If so you need to discuss it wit him.
2006-07-18 21:32:09 · answer #8 · answered by Beau-Ti 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
at least he is being patient. that is why women are always pressured into having sex because guys do not know how to control their hormones.
2006-07-18 21:32:30 · answer #9 · answered by Kelsey G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you know you are not ready to have sex, don't give it up. Simple as that. No means no, and if he can't deal with that, it's his problem and not yours.
2006-07-18 21:31:58 · answer #10 · answered by LostIndian 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋