Ladies-Girls. Do you Feel like a Guy should have to approach You?

Question

If so, are you saying you don't want to be equal anymore?

Equality would mean you have to get some courage yourself and do 50% of the approaching and risk rejection too.

brookie: so then women should get paid less for the same job?
Since you dont like equality?

Nikki B; thanks. Also, the reason men think that about you is probably not your looks but your attitude. women confuse being confident and bright with acting 'shi-tt-y'. There is a difference.

yowhatsup2day: thats the same reasoning men use when trying to explain to women that it isn't "double standards' when men sleep around and get high 5's and when women sleep around and are called 'sl.uts'?
Its biological and hygene factors.

Answer 1

I dont think a man has to approach me first some men are shy and wont make the first move. But I dont think woman who prefer the man to approach them are giving up their equality. I think your missing the point of equality. We didn't half everything or you would be having 50 percent of the babies. And believe me approaching a woman instead of her approaching you is alot easier than having a baby. We make sacrifices for men and they make some for us.

Answer 2

I usually approach guy's not the other way around. I say if i want something i should go after it but it could be the same for guys. And by the way if girls would rather be approached be guys than vice versa then thats ok too. Most young girls spend there days fantasizing about the right guy and in there minds the right guy approches them. you are pretty small minded if you think women who would rather be approached by the guy do not want to have equality to men.

Answer 3

It is not about being "equal" I mean, women do not have a prostate and men do not have a uterus. Men are instinctively more aggressive in the "chase" of (pursuing) women. When they know what they want, they go for it. And they like it. And women like when men know what they like and want. There are always exceptions of course....

Update: elisiolloyd, not sure you made sense with your comment back to me. Nothing is ever 50-50 in relationships. It is give and take. People can and do ask the opposite and same sex out and are set up on "blind" dates....all are fine. It seems the bigger issue is you wanting to be cranky about it! ;)

Answer 4

No...I'm very ambitious and go after what I want. If I see a man that I'm attracted to regardless of race I'll approach him and I've never been turned down. Men actually like it because it takes the pressure off of them. In my case, not to sound conceited, but I'm more attractive than your average women, and a lot of men are intimidated by my looks. They automatically assume that I'm an unapproachable bit*h, which I'm not.

Answer 5

If I met a guy I liked, I may give some thought to approaching him. Although, when I have done it, I find most men are seriously freaked out by it.

Sometimes, approaching them has more amusement in it than anything else.

Answer 6

its not about being equal. men do and usually always have been the first to approach woman. some woman will go to the guy, but for me personally i perfer for someone to approch me, its the confidence that i like. but dont worry us woman will get equal once in the relationship.

Answer 7

Yea 50/50 should be how it is. That way if one of the two are shy, the other could make the first move and then continue on from there.

Answer 8

i think it's a bit of everything really, but if i had to weigh it on one factor that would be charm. When you charming that means you're a little humorous as well as confident and than that determines the physical likability. It really isn't all about the physical appearance, if your looking for a serious relationship, which all of us are in the end.

Answer 9

Not all the time. I find it uncomfortable for a guy to randomly come up to me on the street, but then again i'm not that outgoing with just going up to a guy i don't know

Answer 10

I would have to agree with you. I don't believe that the guy should have all the responsibility of approaching us women. Heck, I never would have met my husband if I didn't approach him!!