Why dose it seem like it's bad for a guy to have a fat girlfriend, but it's okay for a girl to have a fat guy?

Question

There seems to be an unspoken rule that girls need to be super thin; like they need to have super model figures. If a guy has a girlfriend who is on the heavy side, it's bad. But no one seems to have a problem with model girls having big 'ol fat guys hang'n around them. Why is that? I just don't get it.
(Please not this is based upon my observations and may not be entirely accurate.)

Answer 1

I agree with you to an extent and I think it is because of the stigma that women have to be these paper thin waifs. Most of the female stars are trying harder and harder to reduce themselves beyond skin and bones to these skeletal creatures with lumps on their chests. Today's society gets some much of its status quo from the media so it just trickles down.

Now with men, it seems, Hollywood keeps us around longer well into middle age or further ( Sean Connery, Harrison Ford, Mel Gibson, etc.) and they are still considered sex symbols. Whens the last time you saw Judy Dench or Meryl Streep as a sex goddess. I am sure some do but if you compare the too groups, the men can gain wright and age as much as they want while the women find it harder and hard to get roles in movies.

It seems we have the same roles in real life. Women are forbidden to age or gain weight while men can drink beer and grill steaks with their friends and put on a few pounds and still look sexy.

I think it really depends on the two involved. Who cares what you are "supposed" to look like. Screw Hollywood and the media. Even Paris Hilton (as hypocritical as it sounds) says "Skinny women are gross" so there ya go.

Answer 2

Honestly, this has been going on for a long long time. I have tried to figure this out myself. I am a thin girl dating a not so thin man and I wouldn't trade him for the world. However, he has often said that he would never date a girl that was fat. I think that the whole macho thing plays a huge role in this bias. Not to generalize here but most men live their lives by "status quo". (Again, this is an observation not a generalization). It is important to have a nice car, nice clothes, (thin girlfriend) IE: arm candy. This is the case for some women too. It is unfortunate but the important question is if you are willing to ignore what people say if you like the girl enough. Screw what society thinks.

Answer 3

Because of the stereotype people out there. It's OK for a guy to eat a lot but a girl like that is frowned upon. I'm thick, but I don't eat a lot I just have a low metabolism. My boyfriend is used to dating skinny girls, but we go to know each other before we dated and whether his friends have a problem with it, I don't care. I think that people should be looked at for what kind of person they are not by what they look like and that sad part about it is that is not possible in the world we live today.

But I can't explain why people judge that way.

Answer 4

because guys get their fill of FAT right between their ears..
most guys dont love with their heats.. they love with their eyes and other "organs".... Girls dont mind larger guys becauce many girls are looking for the all around good guy more so then MR. Gorgeous... and when a person, male or female is over weight or not physically considered "hot" then they are more likely to develop a stronger personality, they rely on internal beauty ...the Skinny girls and Buff dudes think they have enough in looks and they dont realize the importance of a pretty soul... the beauty many times only goes skin deep.. Thats not to say there are NO skinny nice girls or sweet buff guys.. but well there is deffinately a shortage of them!

Answer 5

I obviously don't know where you're from, but for the most part, I have oserved the same thing in my location (Mid-west.) Not all guys are shallow and think they have to have a girl that is super thin. Thankfully, I met my husband. With myself not being super model thin, and my husband being 6'5'' and only weighing in at 204, We've gotten some looks. Don't lose faith, there are guys out there that like the girl for who THEY are, not what they look like entirely.

Answer 6

societal bias.

its okay to have a HEALTHY lady
we are all fat just not overweight

Trust me Older men could care less
they get good meals, they know there woman will work, and no disease like hiv and such, or crack users.

So that can be a welcome sign a big woman.
Plus the best a$$ I had was from a big girl in high school. Aint that right Layney Lane.


So get over what other people think and do whats best for you.


I see dudes with big girls all the time. The dudes are fitted and fed.

Answer 7

Well there isn't as man "men's magazines" around with pictures of the "PERFECT MALE" in them and men seem to think they are all wonderful, where as girls are a lot more insecure about themselves unfortunately.

I thank god for the one guy I used to know that when one of his GUY friends had the nerve to make the comment about the size of his girlfriend he didn't think twice about his response to his stupid buddy "did you ever stop to think for just one minute that just maybe she needs that big of a rig to haul her heart around in?" His g/f was probably the NICEST woman, kind and generous and gracious to EVERYONE, and thank GOD there was at least ONE man that could see through the "fat" to the beauty she had INSIDE. He eventually married that "fat" woman and she went on to lose 75 lbs and run marathons and they are STILL together after 15 years and 3 kids because he fell in love with the INSIDE not the packaging.

Answer 8

I think it is simply because guys and girls think differently. It is not always the case but females usually look for a deeper connection than just physical attraction. Guys have all that testosterone and can't help but let sexual attraction be the first thing they notice. There are a few exceptions. Not all guys are like that and not all girls can get beyond the looks either. but what it boils down to is our brains work differently

Answer 9

Guys are gonna be shallow like that, & like to make up their own fantasies of how a girl should look. It's not the outside looks that should count in the first place. If your girlfriend is on the heavy side, you shouldn't care. I mean if she's wanting to lose weight, encourage her & be there. But other than that, you can tell all the other guys & spectators to shove it :-P Everyone is special, no matter what they look like.

Answer 10

OMG that's the best question of the day!!!!!
I wonder that myself!!
I've been 15 lbs or so overweight my whole life ( not fat, just thick and chunky) and have struggled and worked my tail off trying to be perfect!!!! Why is it some men won't give me a second glance because of this, when they look like they're pregnant with a watermelon their dam self???? I'm currently trying to find a press locally to print me some t-shirts that say
"I HATE SKINNY B!TCHES!"