Is watching porn at 13 years old normal?

Question

My son's turning 14 on Oct. and I just learned that he's starting to watch porn movies. How can I stop this before it becomes a habit? I know it's normal but I believe at his age, he should concentrate more on other things.

Answer 1

You should stop him. It will only get worse. He should be out playing sports or hanging out with friends, not spanking his monkey to porn.

Answer 2

I say let him, it makes for having a sex talk easier.
you can inform him that what he sees in the movie is really not how it is done.
I think you are given a good thing and I hope you make the best of it.

To all the people here that say block the porn I say what bad parents you are, I was one of those children that my parents shielded me from all the "Bad stuff" in life. then I was let out into this cold world thinking white picket fences and little pink houses. Boy was I in for an rude awakening. I had little interaction with people because of all the bad that was out there, I never had a sex talk *ever* and I needed to have some questions answered.
I know now that parents think schools should teach children about sex but they tie teachers hands by not allowing what the (what I call dead beet ) parent decide what they should teach.
Some parents do not feel comfortable talking about or letting a child see sex. People get inquisitive about sex and if they do not have the input they need at a young age they will find it themselves, you could very well not like how they reach an understanding.

So do as my parents should have and use this as a reason to sit and talk, show the good from the bad, show what is disrespectful to a partner and what is OK. be a parent and not a dead beat. You will only feel uncomfortable for a short time and you will be glad you did for a very long time.

Answer 3

Once again here is another question concerning male behavior, and yet all I see is women answering. That is funny, Look I promise not to answer questions about post-partem depression if you could please not answer questions having to do with male behavior.
1. The young man is curious about sex, and porns are alot more exciting to look at then your 9th grade health book or a national geographic magazine.
2. You have no idea what happens when the powerful hormone called testosterone starts flowing through the body. For example, when cattle ranchers want to find out what cows in the herd are in heat and ready for breeding, they take a female and inject her with testosterone. She then goes around with a special marker strapped to her chin, and mounts any female cow in heat. The point is testosterone unleashes a sexual beast, that many men struggle there whole lives to acquire the discpline to control.
3. The whole "women as objects" thing is just funny to me. Women's bodies are attractive and cause men to be aroused, hense the existence of heterosexual men. Not only that, there are gay men that...oh you will never believe this...look at gay porn. Oh my goodness, those men are just looking at those other men as objects!
4. Your son is discovering how to give himself an orgasm, and he will do it as much as he can. Yes, ladies it will even continue after he has gotten married. Chances are he will do it everyday.
5. There will come a point when he realizes that an orgasm is an orgasm, weather it is with your hand or different women. Untill this is realized he can better concentrate on the non-sexual aspects of relationships. *Warning* Some men never figure this out!
6. Your son will be curious about all forms of sex, you should not be worried unless you notice that his taste is getting increasingly more and more taboo. I don't mean girl on girl or a gang bang, I mean truly depraved like watching sex with animals. One visit to a web page, might just be curiosity, like look at a bad car wreck. But constant visits means the lad is twisted, and needs some help.
By the way I have been married for ten years, I have three children, and my wife is the only women who I have had and will ever have sex with.

Answer 4

A boy watching porn at 13? Normal.

Answer 5

It is normal for your son to be curious about sex, but pornography does not express a healthy sexual image and is not the best source for learning about sex. It is also unhealthy if your son is obsessed with pornography.

You didn't mention where you live, but in most if not all states in the U.S, it is illegal for you to allow your minor son to view pornography. Some areas have a specific category for it, while in others, this would fall under contributing to the delinquency of a minor.

As his mother, it is your job to make sure your son learns about sex in a healthy way. One step you can take is moving the computer to a public area in your home where you can monitor his online activities. While software programs like Net Nanny can help, they can't take the place of a watchful caring mother who knows that sometimes privacy has to be invaded to properly raise a healthy kid to a healthy, well-balanced adult.

Answer 6

ok its verry normal, is he watching at your house?if so get rid of the movies and give him a magazine or just keep a closer eye on him. as for the habit part, its already there, every guy gets it. but promote sports, model car building or other hobbys if he finds soomething more interesting it'll lessen the amount of porn hes into, also monitor his computer usage

Answer 7

Set a limit, like only one video a week or something. But remember that it's because he's leaning towards the land of PUBERTY. This is just the works of those hormones that are building up. Monitor his watching level. And dont stress out; this is normal.

Answer 8

No that is not right. I know that guys do get into that stuff at that age, but it a big sin especially at his age. All it is is bodily lusts that could only make him a whoremonger in the long run. I don't thing any one should look at anything that has porn in it.

Answer 9

eh... that should not be normal just because society says so. take them away from him and tell him that he cannot watch those. if you wanna set an age limit, then that would be a good idea. say 'you can't watch those till you are old enough to buy them yourself.' you should also find out where he got them and make sure he has no way to get more. good luck and thanks for making the world a better place (one person at a time)

Answer 10

That's about the age when boys start getting interested in girls. I think when I was that age it was probably Playboy & Penthouse (didn't have the internet and cable didn't really have porn). I do think it's a problem if it starts interfering with his normal life and activities.

Answer 11

yes it's puberty at it's best.. though it's normal, have a talk with him about whats happening to his body.. if he's renting porn on your cable you might consider putting a block on certain channels but that wont' stop him from watching it at a friends house or finding other ways around it.. a good talk about the birds and the bees might help some.