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ok well my family/mom in particular is gone all day and I keep the house as clean as I can with three dogs and a little brother constantly making messes and my mom just comes home and complains about how she has to come home to a messy house. Its just so frusterating to be wasting my summer cleaning the house and babysitting/dogsitting with absolutely no reward whatsoever. I really want to tell my mom that she may have to come home to a messy place, but she didnt have to sit in one all day slaving to clean it up as much as she can. this probably would work, but since my sisters arent home all day either they just take her side to keep her happy so i am stuck all alone fighting for happyness and everyone blames me for this messy house issue. and because she is upset as soon as she comes home, my mom stays that way for the whole night and just complains and argues on and on. well, I just really needed to express my side to someone who would listen so thank you! (advice is welcome)

2006-07-18 12:53:25 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships Family

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I'm sure your mom feels like she is providing for the family and all should help to make it easier. But I dont feel it's fair that all of it is left on your shoulders either. You are a kid and deserve to have a childhood. Chores should be a must but not when you have siblings that sit on their can and do nothing. It doesnt sound like talking to your mom will help matters. If your going to get griped at anyways I would slack off a bit.

2006-07-18 12:59:55 · answer #1 · answered by Loo 3 · 0 0

It sounds like you are being treated like Cinderalla. I'm sure it is very frustrating. Everyone should have a part in family responsibility even though it doesnt seem fair sometimes. Try and look at the positive side of this as far as the experiences you are gaining. When you have your own home, you will know how to make it beautiful and clean. And when you have children you won't be so clueless as mothers who have never had to help care for siblings.
Try and understand how hard your mom must work to support everyone and sometimes that might make her tired and edgy. Talk to her, explain to her you want to do your part to help out but you just feel unappreciated. You shouldn't be made to feel like a slave but a very important aspect of your family.
If it's hard for you to talk to her in person, write her a letter respectully and honestly letting her know how you feel.
You sound like a young lady that has a lot going for herself. Just keep your head up and know what a great help your being to people who really need you.
God bless

2006-07-18 20:20:23 · answer #2 · answered by lilmissy 2 · 0 0

Honestly it takes a family to keep a house clean and presentable, it's not a job for one person. The question is WHY are you the only one doing it? I would talk to her about my stresses and ask for help. If you are going to clean all day just to have dogs and kids and sisters and everyone mess it up then why do it? It takes everyone to help out around the house. Your mom is blessed to have you there to help out, instead of bytching about it, she should be thanking you for being there and helping out instead of being ungrateful. As far as your sisters go, they are just as guilty as your mom for buying into that crap, they are all lucky to have you. Even Cinderella got a break! If there's not anyone who will do something nice for you, I say do it for yourself. Hopefully they will listen to you if you sit down and tell them how you feel. I think if we all helped eachother out a little more than alot more families wouldn't have so much stress. JMHO!

2006-07-18 20:01:36 · answer #3 · answered by dixi 4 · 0 0

I would tell your mom, if you want I won't pick up and you can see how messy it is with a dog and kid. it could be that she is just tired my mom use b*tch about dinner being made she use to tell me you're here all day and you can't cook dinner I was like what you don't even cook dinner at all so what are you b*tching about I told her when your on vacation you don't cook dinner she's like that is my vacation and I said well this is mine. after that she has not said anything, but just keep in mind she is just tired and maybe stressed out at work. As for your sisters just ignore them

2006-07-18 19:59:47 · answer #4 · answered by ~Ms Eli~ 3 · 0 0

All I can say is do what you have to do and just as long as you know that you did your best, be happy and just let everything out in your own way. Your mom will soon realize that she can't do without your help. Good job and keep up the good work and know that things will get better for you soon.

2006-07-18 20:00:19 · answer #5 · answered by momokitty 2 · 0 0

Sounds like she is just taking out her frustrations on you because she can. She may be having a hard time at work and can't express herself there. Just take it in stride, it will all work out in the end.

2006-07-18 19:57:59 · answer #6 · answered by Joey 5 · 0 0

that sucks. I'm sorry. maybe try to complement them on something they are wearing right before they come up with a compliant. It will either change the mood or make it awkward to insult you. Hope it works. Have a good one.

2006-07-18 19:57:32 · answer #7 · answered by scrdudie7 3 · 0 0

word- mom's suck sometimes
hang in there and know in your heart that you're doing a great job. :-)

2006-07-18 20:02:25 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

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