Me and my boyfriend have gone out two times before and this is the third time for us. He dumped me both times. The first time we lasted a little over a month when he cheated on me. I forgave him (long story) and a whole bunch of people hated him for it and still do, a couple days later he dumped me because "It's just not the same" Two days later we decided to get back together but we didn't officially until a few days after that and he dumped me the next day. We've been going out for over a month and a half and I don't know whether to stay or go. He promised me he wouldn't leave this time but I don't know whether or not to believe it. What should I do?
2006-07-18 12:42:52 · 36 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It's up to you
2006-07-18 12:44:38 · answer #1 · answered by Sexual Chocolate 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some guys do that to show a sense of control over the relationship. Breaking up and getting back together is stupid. If he wants to be with yu then he should not be playing games with you and your feelings. Everytime you take him back your telling him its o.k. whatever he did or is doing to you. I think you should leave him even though it may hurt for a while you will be a lot let stressed. You go find some one that will want to be with you and not break up with you every other day! Good Luck
2006-07-18 13:12:34 · answer #2 · answered by littlepussycat_05 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your boyfriend is afraid of commitment. My advice would be to dump him. I know you probably love him but it will hurt a lot less now than 2 years down the road when it "don't feel the same" to him again. Also, chances are if he didn't care about you enough in the first place to not cheat on you, he will probably do it again,,,,,, move on!!
2006-07-18 12:47:54 · answer #3 · answered by Lonely A 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know this is hard, and your heart is urging you to believe in him, but sweetie, he's just not that into you. but no one can convince you to leave until YOU have had enough. i've been in this situation more than once, and it's never easy. he's not showing any signs that he's in it for the long haul. I've read the answers, & there are a few that indicate that possibly you don't know if you love him. I don't feel that is even remotely the case. You wouldn't agonize over this if you didn't, but you need to love yourself first, and all he's doing is ripping your heart apart. Tell him to take a walk, and find a nice guy who will not be afraid to commit his life to making you happy, not in making you cry. I wish you happiness and hugs. Good luck.
2006-07-18 13:00:05 · answer #4 · answered by Angel Eyes 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You already know that he is a cheater. How many more time does he has to dump you before it becomes official?
My question to you is why did you take him back after he cheated on you and dump you.
Geez, don't you have any self-esteem. If you don't, I do feel sorry for you.
2006-07-18 12:46:50 · answer #5 · answered by SweetBrunette 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girlfriend do your self a favor. Dump the dude. Like my Mother always said "Once a cheater,always a cheater" Don't trust him. There are plenty guys out there for you, stay true to yourself. You already know the anser to your question, or you wouldn't be asking us. Stay away from him.
2006-07-18 12:49:35 · answer #6 · answered by GERRI B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl you should totally get away from him and if a guy dumps you twice you dont go back with him...he sounds like a jerk and a half and if he cheated even I wouldnt take him back
2006-07-18 12:47:41 · answer #7 · answered by SingleGirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why live in fear? Does he want 2 B with U or is he just hanging around til something better comes around? I think U should follow Ur gut. Sounds like U don't trust him and R ready 2 go.
2006-07-18 12:50:05 · answer #8 · answered by blueeyedcat28 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Either dump him or wait till he dumps you again. End result is the same, though better you dump him for self esteem.
2006-07-18 12:47:03 · answer #9 · answered by Cormac 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you suffered a blow to the head?? How is this even a question? NO. You should not be with him at all! Find someone that treats you with a little more respect than he does the crap on the bottom of his shoe.
2006-07-18 12:46:59 · answer #10 · answered by Jaime L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i admire you for being able to forgive so easily i would have never forgiven him in the first place. i say if he does dump you again or cheat on you then he is not worth it.
MajorAttitude
good luck
2006-07-18 12:50:39 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋