Ok Yahoo gang I'm pretty worried here. It's like a guys worst nightmare. Ok here's the thing I recently went to Costa Rica to visit a girl that I have known for 4 years over the internet. I mean we know everything about eachother. During the time I was out there I really think I fell in love with her or atleast the closest to love I have ever felt. But now I'm home in England we BOTH agreed to move on with our lives. Now 3 months later I am with this icredible girl who just amazes me in everyway, we talk all night, go on holiday at the drop of a hat, when we get close it's incredible, but I still can't stop thinking about the girl in CR, I've told my gf about this and she's fine and understanding about it. The problem is sex =/ When it comes down to it I just can't get it up thinking about this girl in CR =/ it's not like it won't come up she sucks it or touchs it and it's stands to attention but the condom goes on and it's down. HELP! I was thinking viagra maybe? I'm 19 =/
2006-07-18 12:35:53 · 28 answers · asked by mikeyrocking24_7 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Btw I am in full contact with the girl in CR we are both finding moving on hard. But we are both trying...
2006-07-18 12:36:39 · update #1
maybe your just to nervouse, or too much caffine
2006-07-18 12:40:51 · answer #1 · answered by crazylarry88 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
stop talking to the cr girl if u r serious about the england girl. U don't need viagara b/c u r having brain problems, not pants problems. U need to take just a little bit of time to let go of the cr girl, mentally, then delve in it w/ the engl. girl. Have u had any problems w' erection involving condoms b4? This is a common problem for many men, try having her put the condom on u. U could try not trying to do it for 1 or 2 months, then by that time i bet your body will cooperate! Good Luck!
2006-07-18 19:45:13 · answer #2 · answered by lizardlover150 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That sort of problem is usually caused by anxiety. Most commonly it's anxiety about whether it will happen again (a nasty feedback loop), but maybe in your case it has to do with anxiety about whether you're being unfaithful to this girl in Costa Rica.
First thing you need to do is get relax and get past your anxiety. If the girl in Costa Rica is one of the things that's making you anxious, you need to get past that. The two of you either need to both decide that yuou had something good and that you want to get together, or you need to move on and just be good friends.
Assuming you want to be friends, why don't you discuss the problems you're having with the Costa Rican girl? She might have some good suggestions, and if she tells you that she's OK with you dioing it, you might feel better.
Just don't spend your time having sex with one girl and imagining that it's the other one -- that's not going to wok out well.
You might also want to bear your current g.f.'s feelings in mind -- this is a pretty tough situation for her to be in, try not to make her feel unappreciated (and dson't leave her sexually frustrated, you fingers and tongue still work fine). With luck, she'll take it that your a prinicpaled guy who doesn't just think with his penis - an unprincipaled guy wouldn't be having this problem, after all.
Get you head sorted out and the rest should follow. Good luck with this.
2006-07-18 19:51:51 · answer #3 · answered by Roger D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have got to let go. Right now you are feeling guilty about moving on and this is why you can't fully commit to the other girl. You may have to stop contacting the girl in CR too. I know this is will be difficult, but that is the only way you can really say that you've moved on. You also have to consider the girl you are with now. You need to consider her feelings. If she likes you.....then she wants all of you....Now is the time to let go of the girl in CR and give the girl you are with your undivided, full blown attention......this will also help you to know for sure if moving on was the right thing to do.
2006-07-18 19:47:44 · answer #4 · answered by lisaisbizness 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is your good conscious that do not let you go on with another love until you DECIDE which one and you TELL the one not chosen that is over.....This could mean the costarican girl needs to know from you that you have feelings and almost sex with another girl. and the girl in England is not right for you, she would probably need to give you time to make up your mind. Obviously when you cannot perform. is your heart and mind that gets in the way, I will know for sure the guy is not in me, but thinking about the other girl....so do not cheapen your soul, come out clear with both and then accept the outcome.
2006-07-18 19:44:39 · answer #5 · answered by Pi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems like you might be suffering from performance anxiety. Afraid you won't be able to please your girlfriend, or that you'll climax too quickly, all the worry causes you to go floppy. Try and relax and enjoy some foreplay with your girlfriend before you put a condom on, and see what happens.
If you still keep going soft at a crucial moment, have a word with your doctor. I doubt you'll need Viagra as your problem might be psychological rather than physical.
2006-07-18 19:46:24 · answer #6 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can't stop thinking of the girl in CR because you wanted more then a trip, you should of told her that and seen if the relationship would of changed if the sex would of been there. but since you didn't get none then your always going to wonder about her.
2006-07-18 19:40:50 · answer #7 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your in love with your Cr girl emotionally and not in sexual way, try to see if you can masturbate by thinking about her, if that work your OK and fine, if that doesn't work you have to come up with a new figure that makes you hot and horny, your to young to think about Viagra or anything else, good luck and have fun.
2006-07-18 19:50:34 · answer #8 · answered by Zarzoorner 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Break all ties with the girl from the CR, then your problems will heal them selves, you jumped into another relationship to soon after, now you are stuck with all those memories effecting you. Go see a hypnotherapist in your area, ask him to cure this for you and he will.
2006-07-18 19:41:00 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you need to focus on whats in front of you if you are moving on then do that mentally and physically if it was ment for you to be with ms cr then that's who you would be with ask yourself this question where you moving in with cr or give up your life in England if not then let cr go and move on don't let your England life suffer for someone your not going to be with get with the program Friend.
2006-07-18 19:49:15 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you really love this girl and she loves you...I would go back and see,If you 2 can work things out and become a couple...until you do this,You will always have problems in the bedroom...It's called unfinished business...You need to settle this so you can either move on or stay...
Clowmy
2006-07-18 19:45:24 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋