Any stay at home moms out there?

Question

I am chasing after my toddler all day and by the time my husband comes home from work I look like h--. Is it silly If I do my hair prehaps a little make up before He comes home? Im in a t shirt and jogging shorts all day . Do any of you straighten up before hubby gets home. what do you do? (ps my husband has never said anything to me about looking bad.) thx

Answer 1

I have done this. It is not silly -your man should be VERY happy that you are still into him so much that you care what you look like. I hope he does the same for you. He is a lucky guy!!!! Wait til there are more kids... it gets harder to do. There is nothing silly about wanting to look good for your guy.
I should take a lesson from you, I chase 5 around all day....it is really hard to care what anything looks like at the end of my day.
Maybe if I just take the time to make sure everything is in order, including my self just one day out of the week :) thanks for the question!

Answer 2

I stayed at home when my two were little and it's not silly to pretty up sometimes before your husband comes home. I always tried to pick up the worst of it before he came home. To keep it easy I kept bins were I would just throw the toys in. Never looked perfect, but you didn't fall over stuff.
Since your toddler is still up, fancy clothes are not really practical. If I wasn't too worn out I would put on special undies underneath and show him a peek. Short Jeans shorts and a tank top work too.
Try to find friends were you can swap baby sitting with, so once in a while you get me time or couple time even if it's only once or twice a month.

Answer 3

Hi Nicole,
Usually I stay in my pajamas (or t shirt and sweats) until about 4pm and then I run around picking up (if I feel like it) and then determine dinner. It would be nuts to follow the kids around ALL day long picking up because then that is all I would do. I get it done in one fell swoop.
As for tidying yourself up before he comes home, yup, I do that too. Now, I do it more for me than for him but for him as well. I don't usually get a shower before 4pm. It is just how our household works. IF I really needed to, I could gussy up earlier, but who is gonna see anyway? The mailman? So, I do the same thing you do. IT's not silly to fix yourself up...you feel better, hell, I usually feel awake by about then. But, I wouldn't feel like you have to. Shoot, taking care of kids is a full time and stressful job. We may not have to punch a clock but we have to be "on our toes" all day long and figure out the solutions to problems that would make a whole boardroom mentally defunct....my favorite was this
What is wrong with the dog (from far away)...wait a minute, what is that? There is something on the dog (closer up) and then, (closest up) there is honey on the dog and my son has systematically placed cheerios all over him.
Or how my son got toothpaste into the speakers? My husbands expensive speakers. HE still sulks to this day about it and that was six years ago. Or, how to get the kids to settle down or stop whining or stop crying or stop messing with each other or how to glean one minutes peace from the entire 8 or 10 hour day.
Hell, if you can even get ten minutes to do your make-up and gussy up thenmy hat is totally off to you!
You are the bomb!

Answer 4

I am a stay at home mom, I don't do anything before my husband gets home usually. Every once in a while I will though change into something else and do my hair or something. No I do not think it is silly at all, if it makes you feel good and helps your marriage at all then I think it is a great idea.

Answer 5

Sometimes if I'm having a really good day with my 3-year-old and I have a moment to myself, I'll throw on some makeup, change my shirt, and brush my hair before hubby comes home. It's rare, though. For that matter, I hardly even have what anyone would call a "dressy" wardrobe to change into anymore, and my makeup is older than my son! LOL

Answer 6

I'm a SaHM too. It's not silly. Good for you that you have the time and the energy! I used to do that...back when we only had 1, and back when I wouldn't let him see me in the bathroom (as kids have gotten older I've found I just don't care anymore cos they're always walking in on me anyway). XD
But now, after 11 years and 3 kids I just don't bother. :P By the time he gets home I'm about ready to pull my hair out not fix it. We all yell "Daddy's Home!" and I get to go take a shower or something. ^_^

Answer 7

I have been there done that. I have two sons that are 14 and 15 now. I was lucky to have a shower and have the kids fed, bathed and dressed, before he got home. Try to look your best if you go out, but at home, let him walk a mile in your shoes and let him see how much he gets done and how good he looks at the end of the day.

Answer 8

Ok, I haven't had my baby yet but being pregnant is kicking my ***. I still take time a few times a week to dress up. Not go all out but something cute, do my hair, wear make up. Yes I know my husband loves me with a splotchy face from throwing up but I think that both partners need to take time once in awhile to really attract the other person. Keeps that spark going...

Answer 9

Nope! I have a toddler too and I am 4 months along with our 2nd child. I don't worry about how I look. It matters what is in the inside. I love being a stay at home mom! Wouldn't trade it in for the world.

Answer 10

i hope you dant think of me as old but iv been a mum for almost 22 years. i have 4 sons and my youngest is only 6. i have been both a single mother and amarried one ....twice....after my house work each day i have a long hot shower cream my skin and put on alittle makeup......this i do for myself...its amazing the differance this will make to your day...take your toddler in the shower with you...he/she will love the extra time just being close to you.......and yes just before hubby gets home freshen up a bit he may not say anything but he will notice it...hug him tight tell him you missed him and ask him about his day...i know to some mothers this may sound old fashoned but if you love him nothing is to hard...good luck and keep smiling.