i want to keep him in my life ..i feel this is the only way. But he may not give me the chance 2 get pregnant .. he says he never got a girl pregnant cuz he knows how not to. if i loose him i might die i havent ate in 2 weeks and i have no reason 2 live. I cant stand life without him ill do anything. HE says he dont love me but i love him and cant live without him. i will be miserable for the rest of my life and i rahter be dead than wake up and feel like this everyday and every minute.
2006-07-18 12:30:10 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
we never had sex cux he wont get an aids test.. is this a problem i want 2 get pregnant
2006-07-18 12:33:09 · update #1
NO! pregnacy is more than just "keeping a man" it's caring for a new life! And you will have the responsibility of raising teaching this new life. But he will either leave and you'l lbe stuck with the child, or he will help raise the child and resent you even more.
You are going to have to get over it. Breaking up is PART OF LIFE.
2006-07-18 12:35:36 · answer #1 · answered by nWo_Spon 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Koolcat,
I know your heart is breaking right now and I feel your pain, but honey if you have invested 5 years into this relationship and he has nerve to tell you he don't love you, then you should move on because if he doesn't see the wonderful, beautiful person you are and all the love that you have for him then he is not the ONE.
You want to get pregnant by this guy? Why, would you degrade your self so. He is a man and he will have sex with you if you let him even though he has told you he don't love you because he is not after what you are after. You want that special love, You want the fairytale he does not, (also let me say that if any one tells you he knows how not to get a girl pregnant he is an idiot, there is only one way and if it is going to happen it will happen there won't be any stopping it.) I know your are dying inside right now because your heart is breaking, but any day you wake up with breath in your lungs is a good day, trust me you would not rather be dead than live without him. It may seem that way but death is final. You don't feel anything when your dead. I know it doesn't seem like it now but you will love again and who knows the next one may be your prince the very one to love you the way you were created to be loved. Embrace each new day with faith in your heart that this could be the day that could change the rest of my life. Move on, be free, and walk with your head up high, because he is the one losing out on you. You have alot to offer, look at your self with confidence knowing that you are o.k. you do not need a man to make you complete, you are amazing just the way God created you.
2006-07-18 20:12:58 · answer #2 · answered by praiseprincess 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
O.K..you said it yourself "he says he dont love me"..so WHY???
WHY??would you even consider getting pregnant?????
Hello??You wont "die" as you stated. You just got your heart broken. Yes, it's painful i know. But, You cant hang on to a person who does'nt want to be with you anymore. You will not be miserable the rest of your life, trust me. Time will change the way you feel right now. It is true what they say, "time heals all wounds" and it WILL heal your broken heart too.
Having a baby from a guy who does'nt want you is simply selfish and ridiculous and you will only bring more heartache upon yourself in the future if you do. As hard as it may seem right now, take care of yourself, eat, get sleep, live the day to day routine until you can start to function normally again once your heart heals..Before you know it, you'll realize you lived through it and someday will find someone who loves you back. Move on and let him go, It will prove to be the right thing for you later on, even though it hurts now. Good Luck sweetie.
2006-07-18 19:44:07 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't...it's unfair to him and the child you are thinking of bringing into this world. If you were that child would you be okay with knowing that your mother used you to keep a man? What happens if he splits anyways? Are you ready to a be a parent financially, emotionally etc.?
Also, getting pregnant doesn't guarantee that he'll stay with you, that he'll love you, and/or that'll he'll be faithful if he stays with you.
Besides why give up the opportunity to meet someone that will love you and truly want to be with you without the need to blackmail them because that's what you are considering on doing to your ex.
Being left after so many years is hard, I know from personal experience and it feels awful, but if you need to make the effort to move on...reach out to your friends, family, activities...if you feel suicidal then get professional help. It's normal to cry and to be sad. You have to mourn your loss and it's a process that once you experience it will make you a stronger person and allow you to meet someone else.
Love yourself and good luck.
2006-07-18 19:47:05 · answer #4 · answered by Blah2Blah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow. I am sorry to hear this. It sounds like your heart is broken. I know how that feels. My last girlfriend just turned on me one day and 2 weeks later dumped me. It really hurt. We dated on and off for 6 years. It feels like your life is over. It doesn't have to be tho. I know you are feeling desperate right now, but don't go overboard. Just take one day at a time. I know everyone is gonna tell you that it gets easier as time goes on, but sometimes it doesn't. But, someday you will meet someone new and you will forget about this person. Don't try to get pregnant. He will just get angry with you and it will turn your life upside down. You should only have a child with someone who will be there for you and your child. Killing yourself won't help either. You will just hurt everyone in your life, especially your family.
2006-07-18 20:27:07 · answer #5 · answered by chris42050 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No dont think about killing yourself i know what your goin through i know yal been together for five years and you love him but you jus got to let it go maybe he is jus goin through something and need some time jus give him the time that he need and maybe he will come runnin back to you im not sayin that he will but please dont try to get pregnant while goin through problems like this it will only make things worse thats not a good ideal jus go to family and friends for comfort, you will make it through jus be strong and try doin things to keep your mind off him and babygirl you got to eat dont let him stress you out he want you to cry and beg for him that make men happy trust me once you get yourself together and get back out on the dating scene you will find the perfect man who loves you unconditionly and who will never leave you for nonething jus remember to be strong it will be alright
2006-07-18 19:42:51 · answer #6 · answered by classychick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
getting pregnant to keep a guy around is the worst thing you could do.....half the time it doesn't work out that way anyways! you still lose them....especially if they don't love you anymore! If you don't love someone then you don't...simple as that. get some help & get over him!
2006-07-18 19:35:17 · answer #7 · answered by §uper ®ose 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no don't get pergant to keep a guy cause they don't always stay i had a bf we did have kids 3 wonderful boys after my last one i found out he cheting and has another baby so see what i mean guy dont care they still move on dont hurt a child to be unhappy
2006-07-18 19:46:49 · answer #8 · answered by angeleyes12181@sbcglobal.net 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be mature. grow up. stop being so selfish.
if you don't respect yourself enough to let go, respect the future child you will have. why would you want your baby to grow up in a relationship that is not obviously working.
do you want your baby to be miserable and grow up to pick miserable relationships?
can you think of someone else besides yourself?
2006-07-18 19:35:12 · answer #9 · answered by Eileen S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's horrible. Why would you put a child in the middle of your issues. They will have to pay the rest of their life!
Let it go. Why be w/someone who doesn't want to be w/you?
2006-07-18 19:36:08 · answer #10 · answered by chill'n 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋