WWYD in my situation? I'm stressed.?

Question

I'm a single parent, I'm pretty irate right now because I'm having babysitter problems. I pay this girl to watch my kids from 6am til 2pm, $70. I asked her to do me a favor and watch them til 5 just this one day cause I was in a huge bind. She said she cannot watch them past 3 because she is going to a friend's house. Then I told her I would give her $80 if she stayed til 5 just this one day. She said it still wasn't enough!!! come on, she's already making $70 a DAY from me on a regular basis for babysitting. That's alot, don't you think? I'm so mad right now, I want to just tell her I don't need her anymore but I have absolutely no one else.

Answer 1

First of all, hats off to you.. I don't know how single parents do it! This girl is ridiculous. Try contacting your local YMCA/YWCA for help finding a sitter. Look in the want ads. Anything! Good luck!

Answer 2

The only thing I wonder about is if you have allready asked her many times to bend your agrement about her hours of service. If you are allways bending the hours and arriving late and not compensating her as it is. She could be just sticking to the agreement. It could also be that she has some other obligation at her friends house and she's be hurting someone else who depends on her.

It could be that she's got another customer at 2:30 or 3:00 and she doesn't want to be late for that client. Would you feel right if she showed up 3 hours late saying that the other customer wanted her to stay late for another $10. You'd be up a creek if she did that!

Other than that I'd be calling in favors from anyone who could watch the kids from 2pm to 5 pm. You might need to take more drastic steps like that. Or pay her time and a half ($13.13/hour) for those extra hours past the first eight.

Answer 3

Thats too much. I know that daycares are only allowed to charge $13 a day for kids being helped by the government. So I wouldn't pay no more than $20 a day. If it is a family member I charge $1.00 an hour.. a friend is $1.50 an hour and then some one I dont know depends on the ages anywhere from $2.00-2.50 an hour unless it needs more attention then $3.00 an hour. So I would get rid of her because she really must not care that you have to care for your kids on your own and she probably is doing it just for the money and dont even really pay attention to your kids. If your kids are old enough to understand I would talk to them about what she does all day.

Answer 4

You don't have a right to her time - just like your employer can't insist you work overtime, whatever s/he offers to pay you.

It sounds like you need help getting a schedule down that you can cope with. You are paying a huge amount in babysitting, which must be putting a strain on your budget.

See if you can develop friendships with other mothers, find support groups, or relatives that can help out sometimes, to help you reduce the current stress, then work on getting your schedule to a point where you can become the primary care giver for the child.

Answer 5

Tell her how thankful you are for her service then
explain to her that you may need her for a bit more time every now and then. You are depending on her. Break up the amount you give her into an hourly rate. $70 / 8 hours = 8.75. She would probably expect about $8.75 per additional hour. Keep this number in mind then ask her how much more she would require for the additional time.

Answer 6

i would say have a talk with her and tell her that you didn't like how she handled the situation. how you had to work late one day, and you really needed her to stay, and you hoped how the extra money would have persuaded her to change her mind. and tell her how if this issue comes up again, you'll have to find other means of babysitting. i'm sure there are other ways to find a babysitter, relatives, or maybe invest in a daycare, even though there are lots of germs and everything, it sometimes is best.

Answer 7

First find a good day care, it will be much less money, then dump the baby sitter...


PS Ill watch the kids for 50 a day and ill stay untill 5, and the house will be claen and dinner will be ready when u get home..

Answer 8

I would tell her that you really need a sitter who is somewhat flexible and that if she can't accommodate you, that you will either lower her pay because she really isn't filling your need or you will find someone else.

Also I know daycare is expensive and you might have your reasons for not wanting it but there are government programs that will help you pay for it.

Answer 9

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Answer 10

WOW I TOTALLY HEAR YOU, AND THAT IS ALOT OF MONEY!
I THINK YOU SHOULD KEEP HER THOUGH BECAUSE IT IS TOUGH TO FIND A BABYSITTER THAT YOU TRUST. MAYBE YOU SHOULD CALL A LOCAL AGENCY THAT COULD HELP YOU TO FIND SOMEONE A LITTLE MORE FLEXIBLE. YOU MIGHT ALSO WANT TO RUN AN ADD IN THE LOCAL PAPER WITH SOME GUIDELINES. GOOD LUCK