my dauhgters attitude it out of control, i think! when i act her to do something she tells me no. i repeativly tell her not to touch things and she will look at me smile then touch whatever it is. its like she does thing on purpose to get to me. maybe this is normal for a child this age but what can i do about it? i dont spank, and time out are not working. any advise?
2006-07-18 12:09:04 · 14 answers · asked by JESSICA G 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
i forgot to mention another thing, the reson i dont spank her are 2 reasons 1) i tried it for a short time and after i would spank her she would laugh and want to me do it again even though we both knew it hurt her. 2) how can i teach her not to hit if i hit her?
2006-07-18 12:23:11 · update #1
Call super nanny she is awesome. Either that or just watch her shoe and take notes!
2006-07-18 12:50:26 · answer #1 · answered by wisegal 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people call it "The Terrible Twos" i call it "you are driving me crazy" ha ha ha!!!
i have a 2 1/2 year old also.. Time out isn't gonna work well for a 2 year old but you do need to continue with it because after a while they do "get it" you just have to keep doing it.... NO and WHY are a two year olds favorite words.... but you are right she does know what to do to push your buttons so what you might want to do is walk away for a minute or two so that you can calm down and then go back and correct her and try time out that way you are calmer and more patient when dealing with her...
Trust me i feel your frustration.... Kids don't come with instructions if they did a Mom's job would be easy!!! Good Luck!!!
2006-07-18 12:21:07 · answer #2 · answered by DeeDee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A two year old acts this way because they have just figured out that they have a mind of their own. This causes all kinds of crazy problems. I have personally found that spanking is the only thing that works for us. The first time its a light pop and the second time if it an actual spank. We don't usually have too much trouble after that.
However, whatever discipline method you choose, you need to firm and consistent.
Good luck!
2006-07-18 12:18:13 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is testing her bounds and sounds hard headed and independent. I have a three yr old son with the same problem. It is gotten 100% better this summer. I found being consistent and I put him in his room for 5 min. There are no toys or anything to play with since we have a toy room so there is nothing to do in there. Now all i have to do is tell him to go to his room and you can come out when you can follow the rules. I found you have to be consistent. I think last year when he was 2 he was in his room every 10 min the first week. I cannot say consistency enough though. Good Luck
2006-07-18 12:30:51 · answer #4 · answered by twinsmakesfive 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your daughter is perfectly normal . You need to be reoriented . It seems you are a single mother i hope not as t is very diffcult . Take up some meditation and you have to understand that a 2 year child needs to explore the world and know why things are the way it seems . Never spank and scold , she will be retarded in growth ... . Give her love and all she is seeking by doing this is to grab attention from you .. HER MOTHER . " The most wonderful person in the world " for her . Give her unlimited love and let her indulge . Get her to play with children her age group and also take her out for walks and outings etc .
2006-07-18 12:22:35 · answer #5 · answered by loverindia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be persistant, let her know you aren't going to play her game, and if you tell her you will punish her DO IT. don't loose your temper, it shows you are giving in. don't yell, be firm. if you give her something to do, it may be as simple as she doesn't know how, so show her, do it with her the first couple times then slowly have her doing it on her own. give rewards for good behavior, an hour of tv, a sticker, a cookie etc. and take things away when she's bad...no dora today, no cookies, etc. with my god daughter a method that has worked since she was a little over 1 was "let's make a deal, if you clean up your toys we can go to the park" she responded very well to our let's make a deal game and she holds up her end of the bargin and doesn't let you forget your end of it either.
good luck! hang in there it will get better!
2006-07-18 12:20:56 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
try to scare her when you say no don't touch and she touches it just the same walk over to her right away get down and become her size clap your hands right in front of her face with out touching her be up close and say firmly mummy said no do not touch that and walk away. and if she keeps touching that try the time out but don't send her to her room send her some place safe IE bathroom some place where there is no toys and where she can not do harm to her self. close the door and say you have to stay here for 2 minutes. If she tries to leave the room. Get down to her size again and tell her right in her face firmly and say you must stay for 2 minutes. If she tries to get out again hold the door your self for the 2 minutes let her know that you mean what you say. you must stay firm
2006-07-18 12:53:33 · answer #7 · answered by Mrs Magoo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
make a spot for time out. Keep putting her there and explain to her why she is there. If she gets up just continue putting her back in the time out spot of your choice. eventually she will understand that you mean business. I do this with my 2 year old daughter when she disrespects me. Another thing that may help is make a game out of picking up toys. Or if she is getting into stuff then take her away from the situation and show her what she can play with. Explain to her that certain stuff is yours and then show her hers, play with her. Good Luck!
2006-07-18 16:50:59 · answer #8 · answered by itsmzbitch2u2002 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I have a 3 year old that use to be that way. I started taking away things that she likes. I have taken away the TV in her room, toys, going out to play. You have to stay strong if you decide to do this because it's going to take a cople of weeks but my daughter finally realized that Mommy is not palying. But be aware that will try to push up and make you give in but DON'T
2006-07-18 12:45:12 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
2 yr olds are hard to control on any level...lol...i have 3 boys and babysit 3 extra kids...8,6,5,4,2,and1...my best advice is that it takes consistency and firmness...dont yel or show aggrevation...they feed off that...calmly talk to her first then try the time out but make sure she STAYS PUT...even if u have to hold her...if that doesnt work pop her butt...everything has steps...it will be tedious for a while but just make ur way through it and it will get easier...good luck
2006-07-18 13:01:34 · answer #10 · answered by gypsy118 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would look her in the eyes and say NO very firmly. She keeps doing it because she sees it gets to you. After you have said no firmly , pick her up and take her away from whatever she is doing, then tell her in a calm voice that this has upset Mommy, so please try not to make Mommy unhappy again. Hope it works.
2006-07-18 12:17:35 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋