so... after two years of looks and smiles and being head over heals in love with my best friend, we finally made a connection over the weekend and cuddled all night (sober) and did a little making out and then again later the next day... however i get an email saying he loves me to death but doen'st want to **** up our relationship, so to take it slow for now, although will prob. be eating his words in a little while... what do i respond with, how do i handle this... he mentioned something about being nervous about getting hurt too...
2006-07-18 12:00:28 · 15 answers · asked by steady as we go 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
just take it slow then..it could turn out to be the best thing ever, and then it could be bad but u need to ask yourself if you are willing to ruin the friendship, cause you can never go back...I know me and my friend went through the same thing and now we are married so good luck
2006-07-18 12:03:40 · answer #1 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just talk to him and be honest about how you feel. You both need to decide what you want to do: stay friend or be together. Taking it slow is fine, but you have to know where you stand. Talk to him and tell him that you want a relationship with him and that you think it has a great chance of working out.
Just keep in mind that if you make better friends than lovers that your friendship might never be the same again. In fact, you might not end up as friends in the end.
2006-07-18 12:04:55 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
most likely he was being honest with you. because you guys are so close, you will be even more hurt if things don't turn out the way you want them to. take it slow, and think about how much you value his friendship, because once you guys hook up if it doesn't work out, then you may not go back to being best friends like you were ever again. but don't let this stop you, just be aware of what could happen. good luck
2006-07-18 12:06:57 · answer #3 · answered by Q the genius 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is absolutely dead on the target on this one! If you guys have been friends for what seems like ever.....you should definitely step back and ask yourself is your getting into his bed more important than you guys' friendship?? I think that's what he is doing at this very moment.
It may be hot right now, but what if you guys get together and figure out you can't "be together" in a bf/gf sense? Then everything is awkward.
Step back, and just stick to the friendship for right now. Don't take his hesitance personally.
2006-07-18 12:35:32 · answer #4 · answered by Dee M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is obvous that he has some resistance to you guys taking a step to romance. Respect him. If you make him uncomfortable he might avoid you. Just act like you usually do. Don't initiate any affection. Dont feel akward.
Give him the time he needs.
2006-07-18 12:05:39 · answer #5 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't respond with an email. if you two are really that close, there should be nothing that you can't talk about face to face. he wants to take it slow, so let him. lat him make all the moves. that way it will be at his pace and he will have nothing to blame you for later.
2006-07-18 12:05:14 · answer #6 · answered by redpeach_mi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he doesnt want to loose such a great friend and he doesnt want to get hurt so ya say ok we will give it some time but you will have to take a chance on getting hurt... you will eventually whether you like it or not and if it was meant to be then you will find a way to make it last
2006-07-18 12:04:32 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take it very slow. Don't jump right into "girlfriend" mode. Let it develop on its own...sounds like it will...the best relationships start as friendships first! Goodluck!
2006-07-18 12:05:34 · answer #8 · answered by sweetlittlepea2205 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your friend is being wise. There is no point in rushing things now, take it slow, let nature ( and desire ) do their thing, and it will all come around, better than you expect.
2006-07-18 12:04:26 · answer #9 · answered by wild1handy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just agree with him and take it slow for a while. He'll want more after a while.
2006-07-18 12:04:24 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋