2006-07-18 11:54:30 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
pick your battles carefully and stick to your guns when you do
that way you will go head to head with him less often and so he is more likely to listen to you when you insist
and also when you do have to insist - make sure that actions back up what your words have said as that speaks louder to him than words alone
2006-07-18 12:00:30 · answer #1 · answered by Aslan 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I try to limit spanking to when they have endangered their selves through the stubborness. The good thing about stubborn children is that their mistakes are their own! You don't have to worry about them succumbing to peer pressure quite as much! Can you tell I have 2 really stubborn children?
It can be difficult dealing with stubborn children so make sure you get lots of breaks from him so that you can be consistent in your expectations and discipline.
Were you a stubborn child? was your husband? What did your parents do that worked? My husband always had to be led with the carrot rather than the stick as a child. He is the same way today--Heaven help me if I tried to force him into anything! I guess my mother in law could of broken a spoon a week on that kids butt if she had relied only on it. Gentle bribery was the key for him.
I find natural consequences is really a good way to go and less stressful as a parent! You didn't eat your dinner--you will be starving by morning. Wouldn't get dressed this morning? You don't get to come with Mommy or boy don't they look silly at the grocery in their pajamas! Make sure outtings include something for him to look forward to so that if he doesn't cooperate that part of the trip is going to be dropped because of the extra time his stubborness took.
Try to hold in your heart and talk to him about how that stubborn nature can turn him into a good leader or entreprenuer. If it is tempered with good sense.
2006-07-19 02:21:40 · answer #2 · answered by psycho-cook 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's hard with a child that age, but I feel your pain. I've got twins that will turn 7 soon & they can be all kinds of stubborn (no clue where they get it! hehe). I've learned that more than spanking, which I don't hesitate to do, you have to find something will get through to them. My son is almost as big asme so spankings stopped working for him. He is a big penny pincher & is proud of his piggy bank full of coins. When he does things like destroy property in some way (drawing on the walls, etc.) he pays to replace or repair those things. Also, he loses his allowance for that week. Money is his weakness & I use that when I need to. For my daughter, she is very hard headed & stubborn just like I was her age. But luckily for me, she is also scared to death to disappoint her mother like I was. So usually all I have to say is "Sara, I'm siappointed that you would think it's okay to do something like that." & she responds better than she would to a spanking. She is a real girly-girl so when she is good for an extended period of time, she gets new shoes or new clothes or a new "purse". She's smart enough already to realize that good things come to good people & that you have to earn those things as well.
I hope some of this was helpful to you. If not, just know you're not alone!
2006-07-19 05:09:00 · answer #3 · answered by h-e-a-t-h-e-r 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DISCIPLINE HIM. Is it that hard? Woosey mothers. Spank him when he is disobedient. IT'S NOT BAD TO SPANK! It's not bad to get physical as long as you don't hurt them IN ANY WAY. I get sick of hearing how mother's can't "figure out" how to keep their kid in line. Ever hear of "spare the rod, spoil the child". I'm not saying abuse, I'm saying let him know who is boss.
2006-07-18 12:43:55 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Spanks!
2006-07-18 11:57:19 · answer #5 · answered by DJ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be firm. Give him rules and stick to them. Give him clear consequences when he breaks the rules and never give in.
2006-07-18 11:57:31 · answer #6 · answered by optimistic_dr3am3r 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
watch Supernanny.
dont let him be the boss. make sure to reward him when hes right, punish him when hes wrong, and never bribe him.
2006-07-18 11:58:06 · answer #7 · answered by Eileen 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
time out
2006-07-18 11:57:59 · answer #8 · answered by Jennifer W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't. And just wait til he's a teenager! LOL Good luck, you'll need it.
2006-07-18 11:57:39 · answer #9 · answered by Hot Pants 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
spank him, its the only thing that works!!! u gotta whoop his as$ if u want him to learn a lesson. it worked for my parents!
2006-07-19 00:55:55 · answer #10 · answered by dyboy34 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋