I am trying to get back with this guy, and we both liked each other a yr ago and so we took it farther, what should i do or say to him that will let him know that i want him back and i miss him very much and have been thinking about him alot. He keeps on bringing up the past and what i said to him and also the words that i said to rub in his face. From his point of view........those were the words he told me. I just want him back. Anyone out there that could possibly help me......any females?.......
2006-07-18 11:43:49 · 20 answers · asked by fryeindustries2002 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Hey Adriano i guess its not all about you then is it? Plus sucks to be you.......
2006-07-18 11:51:41 · update #1
well....first of all you need to make sure he is still interested in you.
If he is.......when you guys are talking about the past,apologize for whatever it is you did.And give him a hint!.....like:"if i could do it over again i would,i never meant to hurt,i care about you too much"...and stuff like that...u know what i mean?
......Tell him that you would rather put the past behind you and start a new.Give him hope that you won't hurt him again.If he's afraid of you doing the same thing again, let him know you won't make the same mistake.Reassurance is what they always need.It's up to him at that point.
good luck!
2006-07-18 11:53:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
First, ask yourself why you want him back now. What was so different a year ago when you didn't want him? Has that reason changed? Maybe you're just lonely and looking to fill a comfort void. Ex's are often a security blanket even though you already know they're not your ideal mate...but they're comfortable and safe because you already know them.
If you decide that he is really the one and you were just to blind to see it the first time, be honest and tell him how you feel. His backlash is a natural reaction to the very real feelings of being hurt. It would all depend on his ability to get past that bitterness.
2006-07-18 11:51:58 · answer #2 · answered by Syrann 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing you can do is just tell him how you feel and if what happened in the past is an issue, explain it to him and ask him to forgive you. Invite him for dinner or a movie - do something where it's just the two of you and you have quiet time to talk. There is no quick fix when you hurt someone, all you can do is apologize and let them know you really need/want them in your life.
2006-07-18 11:47:52 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in your boat not too long ago. I said some pretty horrible things to the guy I was seeing at the time. I went back to him begging for forgiveness. He did forgive me, but he didn't fully trust me. But the thing is, they won't all forgive you, most men will hold it over your head and expect things of you. My best advice is move on sweetheart, it more than likely won't work out, no matter what you feel for him, you hurt him. Deal with it. He won't be able to fully trust you ever again. A lot of us make that mistake.
Guys are not toys, we cannot pick them up and drop them whenever we feel like it. Men may be emotionally retarded at times, but they too have feelings. Try and remember that.
2006-07-18 11:51:51 · answer #4 · answered by silver_rain112 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he keeps bringing up the past obviously hes hung with whatever you said to him, if he hasnt grown up and realized who you were then, and who you are now, it might be better to just give up and leave the past in the past!!
2006-07-18 11:52:25 · answer #5 · answered by asher0974 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him how you feel. tell him your truly sorry for things you may have said. a way to get back into his life is be a flirty friend, get the air clear. Compliment him , not extremely, but enough to be a confidence booster. Be a positive influence to him.
2006-07-18 11:51:02 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You simply state that you made a horrible mistake and you know that what you did was wrong, but that will never happen again. If you were able to, you would take it all back and would never hurt him all over again.
2006-07-18 11:46:24 · answer #7 · answered by RainCloud 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
After a year has come and gone tell him to leave the past in the past. tell him how you feel now and remind him life is to short to live in regret. and if he can't find love and forgiveness in his heart than now it is time to move on.
2006-07-18 11:59:54 · answer #8 · answered by Angel & QueensKnight 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him u will give it up 3 weeks a month if he takes u back!
2006-07-18 11:47:09 · answer #9 · answered by hotgirlwholovesboysbutneedshelp! 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell him your sorry for how you treated him in the past and if he could find it in his heart to forgive you and start a new relationship and if he says no then move on and let him be
2006-07-18 11:49:19 · answer #10 · answered by sexy_enchanted2320032005 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋