Why my bf rarely able to complete the job while he's really really close to me. Why he has to masturbate himself and then get back close to me. Is he not satisfied with me or something wrong with our relationship? PLease help.
2006-07-18 11:00:53 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He probably has been masturbating for quite some time and has trained himself to reach orgasm through masturbation. He can reach orgasm more quickly through masturbation because he knows exactly what feels good and he probably tries to speed up the process so that he won't get caught. He is probably not thinking about you while he is having sex and is only able to reach orgasm by thinking of pornography or something that stimulated him previously. Sexuality is very much a learned behavior. Right now by having sex with him you are training yourself to respond to his style of sex. By the time you meet someone else you will not be able to respond to their style of sex because you have been training yourself to respond to his style of sex. After a few more boyfriends you won't know how to respond and will probably have an almost completely selfish response to sex, because you will have trained yourself in so many different ways that won't correspond to which ever person you are with. You will need to have sex your way and will not be able to be intimate with the person you are with. It will be more like a drug. It will just be a urge you will have to fill without the ability to relate on an intimate level. Also is he going to take care of the child that you can still have even if you are on birth control and wearing a condom.
2006-07-18 11:09:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think there is anything wrong with you. When men have to perform sometimes Mr. happy won't join the the fun. There can be a few reasons. Maybe he is nervous. Maybe he has erectile dysfunction. If he watches alot of Pornograhy then that can warp his mind and affect his performance. Also when a man masturbates he knows EXACTLY how to make himself hard, so don't feel bad, as long as he Loves you and is willing to work on it.
2006-07-18 18:04:49 · answer #2 · answered by Cool Guy in Cali 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
With all due respect to him, and please understand me, I am not being mean at all; but may I ask if that was because "biology fails him"?
Is his hormone level normal? Is he under a lot of stress? Are there any physical or emotional issues may cause this performance issue?
I don't know anything about your bf. But I do know that there are other reasons that may make the job completion difficult.
2006-07-18 18:05:33 · answer #3 · answered by knitting guy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he has this trouble all the time, he may need some help, like viagra. If it doesn't happen very often, don't worry about it. This happens from time to time with a lot of guys, especially as they get older. Women usually get worried, but they shouldn't take it personally.
2006-07-18 18:03:13 · answer #4 · answered by merlin_steele 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's been using his hand too much that a woman's vagina just aint doing it for him. Tell him to lay off the hand jobs for a few months to get some of the sensation back.
2006-07-18 18:02:54 · answer #5 · answered by bodinibold 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
most men are unable to take the presssure of performance and therefore resort to external stimulation such as masturbaton and watching porn etc. This is very normal. relax
2006-07-18 18:09:44 · answer #6 · answered by ICE 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say that you have probably done something or said something that offended him deeply, causing him to only try the motions.
or
You have changed physically and he just no longer desires you sexually, just emotionally.
or
He is having physical/mental health problems you are unaware of.
2006-07-18 18:06:17 · answer #7 · answered by Cranky Old Goat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he is just not satisfied. Need to find out how to make him satisfied.
2006-07-18 18:04:04 · answer #8 · answered by Nelly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Probably he is masturbating excessively.Ask him not to masurbate , particularly in your presence.What are you for if he masturbate in your presence.other imagery is taking your place.And human immagination,even in real life ,is amazing.Take Hitler for example!!!!!
2006-07-18 18:07:44 · answer #9 · answered by mustafaalnagar 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he has a medical condition that requires a little blue pill.....
2006-07-18 18:03:57 · answer #10 · answered by net_at_nite 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋