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Question

Ok I't goes like this...
I babysitt my two little brothers all the time. My dad is a parts manager, and my Mom is going to collage for her masterates degree. I'm supposed to be the resposible one but it never turns out that way.
When ever I babysitt someone is always yelling, crying, or caring on. To make matters worse my youngest brother has autism. It's just really frustrating and I don't know what to do. I want to be a better person and treet them nicer but I always end up yelling at them and treating them like crap.
My question is, is there any tips on being nice, friendleyer, and a more toleant person, also any activities to do while baby sitting (nothing that makes a mess) Please don't respond to this question unless you have a really good answer!

I'm not over my head and im 16years old. I am irresponsible though, i just add in the fighting and i want to stop!

Answer 1

I'm the mom of 5 kids and the oldest of 4 girls.
What really helps keep me cool under the collar when things *almost* get out of control is this:
1. Leave the room and don't go back until I am in absolute control of myself.
2. Look down the road at the memories your siblings will have of you because of what you are now doing for them.
3. I agree with a previous answer - it really works - do things that *they* like to do.
4. Proper diet (less sugar & carbs) make a HUGE difference on attitude and behavior.
5. Plenty of good sleep for everyone - the body heals itself when you're sleeping between the hours of 10pm and midnight.
6. Don't ever think that you're at a dead end, because you're not.
7. Try not to stress about messes, they're kids and life goes on, it's the end of the world when we lose control of a mess - not when there is a mess.
If your parents have a problem with messes, hopefully your relationship w/them is strong enough that they will listen to you.
8. When you're not babysitting Do Something For Yourself Without Feeling Guilty! Even if it's off the wall, different.........
9. Mentally go to your "happy place"....picture something that makes you very peaceful and relaxed.....
I really hope this helps!

Answer 2

Its true, kids can get very very frustrating! And seeing as how you have an autistic brother im sure that does not make things any easier!

Babysitters usually understand and love children. Children tend to know whether you like them or not so make sure your friendly and pleasant.

Be self-confident when babysitting. Children judge you as much by the way you look and act as by the words you say. Be sure of yourself and make sure to be your self. This it will make them listen to you much much better!

You need to be matured and act calmly. You have to maintain authority and take control.

You should have basic understanding of the stages of child development & behaviour. Count to 10 when they make you flustered! Or before you go and yell rethink what you are about to do and try saying it a normal tone.

Try and get on their level about things, you may want them to stay in and watch a video, but if they have been inside all day, and want to get out and run around that could be why they carry on! Realize what the problem is and try and find the easiest solution possible!

As for activities to do why dont you try:
-sidewalk chalk

-taking them to a park

-Have them put on a play

-Play pretend (kids love that) ex. house, cops and robbers, grogiery store

-go swimming

-go run around in the sprinker

-Make a scavenger hunt and have the ending prize be some sort of candy, or treat

-Hide and seek


hope this helps! let me know how things go!

Answer 3

Maybe you could find something to keep them more active. It sounds like your brothers are bored and are trying your patience. Maybe you can get your dad & mom to give you some pointers on how to keep them content. Maybe watch movies some, get a pool for them to swim in some of the day, get them puzzles, coloring books, anything to keep them busy. I feel sorry for you if they carry on like this all day long. It would be hard for me to me nice and tolerant if they were screaming and crying all the time. Good luck to you. Your parents should try to help you solve this problem. Because it is their responsibility to train you.

Answer 4

Every time you start to feel frustrated, stop and count slowly from 1 to 10, taking a deep breath and exhaling between each number.

B the time you get to 10, you'll be more relaxed and able to deal with the situation better. It works for me, I hope it works for you too. Good luck.

Answer 5

try asking the kids what they want to do, just make sure that it is also fun for you. They will think you are the best brother in the world. Or take them to the park or some kind of board game could be fun... maybe:)

Answer 6

have you thought about some like twister or hide and seek . you colud also watch tv if you moved another one to the living and put in a movie for the kids. And give popcorn it wolud keep them occupied and if it is still hard have a friend over so you can talk and watch the kids .

Answer 7

My first question is....HOW OLD ARE YOU? Having to care for a child with Autism should not be left for another child to do, let alone having another child in the mix. You are being responsible and you are asking a caring question but I have to question your parent's responsibility in this whole thing. It sounds like they have you in over your head with this.

Answer 8

It takes more than being responsible to care for an autistic child. I don't know of your preparation for caring for your younger siblings. Without preparation an hour would/could be exhausting.

Answer 9

Attach hooks to the ceilings and fasten the kids on bungee cords.
When they get tired of that you can always sell them to the circus.

Answer 10

put them in a bubble bath give them something fun to do they may be bored .you poor thing you are to young to be having to spend your young years being a mother