I am a 21 year old female with no kids, but I totally disagree with the whole "no spanking, just use time out" crap. I think that's why we have a bunch of kids raising the parents, disobeying their parents, and parents are going crazy. I HATE physical abuse (I was subject to some myself), but there is a difference between abuse and spanking, people. Sometimes physical action is needed so the child will know that you are serious and that what they did was very wrong. Sometimes talking just isn't enough, and kids take you to play with if all you do is talk. What do you think? Again, THERE IS A DIFFERENCE BETWEEN SPANKING AND PHSYICAL ABUSE!
2006-07-18 10:21:43 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I completely agree with you. I was raised in a military family. My dad spanked us when we deserved it and my mom just beat the crap out of us. Never the less, I firmly believe in discipline. That is why kids are so disrespectful of their parents. I think it is also society's fault as well. Kids telling their parents that if they touch them then they will call social services on them and adults are just as bad reporting parents who discipline their children, yet the abusers seem to get off clean.
14 year old girls are getting pregnant and the parents are raising them. Teenagers and kids alike talk **** to the adults.
My son is going on 7 and while I hardly ever spank him, I don't have a problem doing it if he needed it. I've just been fortunate to have a child that doesn't. Some kids don't need to be spanked hardly ever and some need it all of the time.
If parents would be parents then our kids could be kids.
2006-07-18 10:30:38 · answer #1 · answered by lc 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I can completely understand your point. Personally, I disagree. I use the timeout method, and have very well behaved kids. The reason that there are little monsters out there are because the parents don't know hwo to use the timeout method. But there's more to it aswell. A lot of parents are just scared to discipline their kids because they think their kids will hate them. If you explain to a child what they did wrong, and that it made you upset, and make them apologise whie using the timeout method, it'd work a treat. People just don't know how to use it. And they forget how well positive re-inforcement works. But well, that's why parenting classes need to be more popular!!! I was on a train recently, and saw a little boy swinging on a bar and he kicked another passenger in the head. The mother gave a half-hearted "Sorry" and then didn't tell the little boy to get down or anything. So the other passenger had to move. That's the problem with the world's next generation, no discipline!
2006-07-18 21:22:47 · answer #2 · answered by jadevandersee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
okay parent today have no rights at all, if you spank you kids even a light pop on a diaper is physical abuse, if you yell or even raise your voice to your child that is verbal abuse, if you put a child in time out when others are present it is supposedly degrading and humiliating therefore again abuse, if you ignore the behavior, it is neglect. after all this, you are still responsible for your child's actions. IMHO: let the parents decide how to discipline their own kids, let them be the parents. And yes, i do believe a spanking is necessary sometimes, but never while angry you can unintentionally harm your child.
2006-07-18 23:12:51 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I personally agree with you. I dont think that you should use spanking as the first approach to a problem but sometimes it is nessary and there is nothing wrong with it. I didnt get spankings when I was younger (also 21) but I will give my child a spanking if its nessary, but my sister is the complete oppisite she will never hit her child. She has a 7 year old and in my opion she could use a good spanking or two. Im sorry but I refuse to let my child run a round like a fool, never listen to me, hit me, and disrespect me Im the mother and he will know that you listen to me. I do believe that spanking a child out of anger is not right at all and you should always let your child know why they are getting a spanking and talk to them....I believe in spankings not child abuse
2006-07-18 17:30:12 · answer #4 · answered by ga_lynn84 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a 13yr. old & a 9yr. old & they have had spankings. The thing is I have tought them to respect what they are told and most of the time all I have to do is give them "that look" & they know it is time to stop what they are doing. When they have done something wrong I can always talk to them about it. I know sometimes a spanking is VERY much needed, but only on their bottom! I don't believe in beatings!!! You can get your point across without beating your child. I do believe that a lot of parents are to lazy to care about their children this day in time and they don't want to take time with their children to teach them respect & manors. It drives me crazy. My kids are the most important things in my life. When you show a child disipline they know you love them. But it has to be the right kind of disipline. If you take time with a kid you will find that most of the time you don't have to spank. The kid will listen to what you say. I could go on & on about this. I love all children and every child deserves the love of parents that care for them.
2006-07-18 23:20:58 · answer #5 · answered by Angel Lily 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, I spanked my boys and theyre just fine!! I dont play that time out crap, not even with my little nieces. I'll pop those legs or hands in a heartbeat!!! I feel that the government has taken away right of the parents to dicipline children. Still to this day if my 18 or 14 year olds smart off, Ill smack them in their mouths and dare them to say anything!
2006-07-18 17:34:28 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont believe in spanking and i will never spank my child. there are other methods of discipline that work just as well, if you know how to use them. a lot of parents dont and that is why there are so many disobedient children. my mother in law has had 6 kids, she does not spank them and they are all angels. they say "yes ma'am when she tells them to do something" when the 8 yr old wanted to talk to me she goes "Ms Krystal" and waited to talk until i acknowledged her. ive never seen kids as disciplined as they are, and they have never been spanked.
2006-07-18 18:01:29 · answer #7 · answered by krystal 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that sometimes a spanking can be just the ticket.....but only after the parent has had time to cool down.
2006-07-18 17:27:53 · answer #8 · answered by Perils of Paulette 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im 26 and spank my son!
I think kids these day are too free...they need disipline.
Parents are too scared or lazy to do that, you need to put the fear of god in your child or they will be sluts, druggies, losers or dropouts!
2006-07-18 17:28:30 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋