Don't spank them at all. It honestly encourages them to hit you and other children when they are upset and/or disagree with you. (I didn't use to believe this until I saw it time and again with many of my patients.) Try time outs (one minute per year of age), removing privledges, or even having a calm, rational discussion about why their behavior was inappropriate. After a while with yelling and spanking, kids tune you out and they are not necessarily less likely to repeat the behavior. Also make sure to reward good behavior with praise. Positive reinforcement works better than negative.
2006-07-18 10:17:35
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answered by Dr. W 2
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The best way to me is to make them understand why they are getting a spanking. You dont need to yell and you for sure do not need to be angry when you spank them, if you are make sure that you take the time to cool down first. Also I suggest do not make spanking a first resort. I do believe in spanks and my child will get them but I just think there are some other forms of punishment that you should try first. Good luck Hope I have helped
2006-07-18 17:21:58
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answered by ga_lynn84 2
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of course your gonna get the stupid answers like "spanking is child abuse"..but those people are the same ones whose kids are gonna grow hitting them when they get older...
anyway to answer you questions..there is not a spanking that will ever leave a lasting impression for a child.....maybe abuse ..but NOT a spanking....you just have to make an impression with your actions..if your child is really hard headed..no amount of time out, or stand in the corner, or spanking is gonna solve anything.....
nope you have to show them you mean business by your actions...depending upon their age...you will know what actions to take that shows u mean business...spanking doesnt always make kids understand...i know some of my friends would laugh if their parents even mentioned the word spank......it all depends on the kids....
2006-07-18 17:21:30
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answered by outspokenone 3
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ug spanking should not be a form of punishment for children, all u really need to do is be firm, put them in the corner, be *bigger* then they are, and dont let them think that they can control you and do as they please. All you need to do is let them know that u are the boss, and if they dont like it they can sit there, until they know whats right. or take the tv away or something... I dont think you should ever hit your child. like a few others have said, it promostes violant behavior, and problems later in life...Ive seen it in a few children i used to babysit awhile ago, the 2 boys were spanked and stuff by their father, and now they are horrible trouble makers, and th elittle girl was never hit and she is sweet and innocent.
2006-07-18 23:50:07
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answered by lalachick78 2
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Actually if you want to make a lasting impression take all of there toys away and give them back slowly as time goes by and you see that they are improving. If they do not improve them Put them in there room , shut the door listen to see if they are trying to open the door if they are say in stern voice "you better not be touching that door knob" they will scream they will cry so turn on some music and let them have a fit in there room the more you acknowledge them when they have a fit the more they will give you one.
2006-07-18 17:20:46
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answered by Tara S 4
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Don't.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Spanking#Arguments_against_spanking
2006-07-18 17:15:38
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answered by Anonymous
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Go for the buns. Avoid the head, limbs, and back. Just spank their tushies, and they'll learn. But always try and talk with them before you take physical action.
2006-07-18 17:16:39
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answered by Anonymous
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Spanking promotes violent behavior, I have three grown children that were never spanked, but reasoned with. They are people I am proud to know. Two of my children have children, and they are showing their children the same ways to deal with frustration etc. that my husband and I taught them. IT REALLY WORKS! I see it in my children and my grandchildren every day. Hope I have helped.
2006-07-18 18:28:34
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answered by Anonymous
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spanking is passe. They've discovered far more effective methods of disciplining children than corporal punishment. Take out some child-rearing books from the library and brush up on more effective, and less violent methods of discipline.
2006-07-18 17:15:33
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answered by lily 4
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What!!?? children dont need to be spanked, there are better ways of handling things
2006-07-18 17:14:43
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answered by Anonymous
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