would you date a guy or be interested if he had social anxeity...aka needed time to get used to be alone with you or hang out with....wasnt the typical just come over to your house type....he would have to build his confidence and hang out for a bit then do more and more over a period of time? Also what if your bf had parents that didnt want him dating, so he couldnt have you chill at his house, but had the anxeity so he didnt chill at your house all the time..would you be ok with seeing hime not alot (maybe 2 times a week) and then talking on the phone? jw
2006-07-18 10:11:23 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
to answer alot of your Qs, i know my problem very well(had it for about 2 years) i dont freak out or anything..there are just certain situations and people that i have to get slowly comfertable with...im 18, Sr year in hs i just get overwhelmed in certain situations..its not a problem steming from anything persay, cause i just woke up with it one day 2 years ago...also i do see help...and think of it as a phobia ..i cant do certain things, and other things i can get comfy doing......its really hard on my life...but im slowly getting better. i cant just change myself back to normal over night either.....thx for all the support ladies
2006-07-18 10:23:30 · update #1
oh and its not that they are controlling me persay...they would just perfer i date when im ready to get married...i dont date for fun if i date its with goals ........and whats ironic is the problem MAKES me shy...im actually really outspoken and opinionated and outgoing....but cause i get nervous in certain situations, i become shy
2006-07-18 10:26:37 · update #2
Since it takes time to build a relationship anyways, i'd be cool wtih it. I also prefer the guy chilling at my place- so that works too.
As long as the guy was honest about the situation and filled me in on the parts that were affecting me - and said we cant chill at my place cuz.. blah blah blah.. etc...
Also, I dont know where people get the idea that because you are dating you have to see each other all the time. Currently I am working, in school and playing sports... My bf and me havent seen each other in about a week - but we talk everyday so its okay..
2006-07-18 10:17:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Personally that would be hard if you were really wanting to get to know someone. You need to break that shyness, because my brother had social anxeity and it took him a couple of yrs. to come out of that and he is really happy now. And your parents not letting you date they need to let go unless you are like 11 yrs. old or something. Do your parents want you do be like this forever? They are selfish, they are depriving you from life. Maybe you should get some counseling, you never know it might help!
2006-07-18 10:21:27 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, i would be cool with it. i would just hope that he would be able to talk to me about his issues. i sometime have anxiety problems when put into new situations, but in time i get better. talking on the phone is ok, and not seeing eachother is ok, how old are you? that is also a question that can change a lot of things i'm 22 and guys my age are independant (for the most part) but if i were back in high school i would really hope that my bf would make time for me! or that his parents would allow him to make time for me!
2006-07-18 10:16:55 · answer #3 · answered by JerseyBleu 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I find it really cute and attractive for a man to be reserved. It allows time for the two people to get to know one another without the pressures of sex and physical attratcion.It could lead to a more meaningfull relationship. However there is a time where the social anxiety could become a strain. If a lot of time has passed and you still have it!
2006-07-18 10:16:25 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That would be fine with me. I am a patient person and I could handle him gradually getting more comfortable with me. I wonder though, in other situations would he be too anxious to go out to the movies or other social gatherings? Would we be staying in all the time because of his anxiety? If so then I think I would be encouraging him to get some help to overcome his problem.
2006-07-18 10:18:22 · answer #5 · answered by Cheryl K 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It really depends. I would have to get to know you first. I don't date for fun either. My parents want me to date someone when we are serious about marriage. That has also been my choice too. I've never dated before. So...i can't really give you a yes or no because i would have to get to know you first and you would have to be a Christian. I would want us to be friends for awhile and if we got to the point of being more serious than we could date if it seemed like it was ment to be.
2006-07-18 10:36:26 · answer #6 · answered by mountaingirl88 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I won't date you but you sound like the kind of guy who could make friends easily. I think you could overcome this anxeity if you really tried, but maybe you should just start out being friends with some girls.
2006-07-18 10:37:30 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to be on some anti anxiety medication.That stuff will clear up a lot this stuff you want believe how much better and clearer everything will be as well as how how you feel and react to situations will also be changed.
2006-07-18 11:53:37 · answer #8 · answered by Zoe 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Baby i think you may need some help, you got a lot going on, and it may be stemmed from your parents. You are your own person, and if your going to get out of the box, you have to be convinced that its ok not to live in it anymore.
2006-07-18 10:15:43 · answer #9 · answered by snowflake9540 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
um seeing my boyfriends only 2 times a week?that's um..lets say bad
the girl might see him so little that she'll get tired and wont b able to go on..i woudn date a guy when his parents dont want him too,i wouldnt want to cause trouble
so it mostly depends,but the way i know myself..no i wouldnt do such a thing. me dating him might cause problems between the guy and his parents
so um..no
2006-07-18 10:19:09 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋