I love her, but she wants me as a friend. She told me somthing can happen in future. Shall i say her I LOVE HER or wait for her. I am scared may be i wil loose her. She is same age of mine 22. We hang around once a week. She works with me. I told her my feeling before, but after having break up with her EX she doesnt want to rush in relationship. She wants to finish her collge 1st. What u people think shall i ask her again how she feel about me and say how i feel for her? Shall i say i love her????>>>
2006-07-18 10:08:03 · 14 answers · asked by Moh 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Dont say I LOVE HER .. just let her u know that u like her .. and start asking her out and do lot of fun things. U will notice how much she will draw to you more and more.. plus she just got out of a relationship .. give her some time becz maybe she still have feelings for her EX .. it would be conflict if u sauy" i love you" to her ... so wait until shes completely over with her EX first then .. see what happens from there ... Fate will guide you the way u should have .. it may be her or someone else for you .. so keep urself in the open book with her .. maybe she decided to go back to her EX then what ABOUT YOU? so be smart in this area and be caution of what it can happen next ... So be true to urself and let her see that for herself ... 5 times is lot but how much commuicatoion do u have with her?? if she acted like a freind. then its not the right time . if she acted like a date for you then keep asking her out until she falls for you.. about feelings, let it go on the flow .. dont pressure urself in this situation or she may flee from you .. even u may lose her or not .. but be the man for her and do as much as u can .. GOD has a plan for you ... so dont let that damage your ideal thing by force in ur way!
2006-07-18 10:18:45 · answer #1 · answered by sunnya4life 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
What you haven't said is whether or not you have kissed yet.
Kiss her. Don't try to think things through until you've kissed. After that, everything else will make sense. But if you both try to rationalize things first, the moment will be lost.
Now, on to your question: Love is an over-used word. Love takes time. After only 5 dates, I suspect you're still feeling infatuation.
She's right about not wanting to rush into things. A good relationship has to have a bit of "tension" so that you keep each other interested.
Don't act in a way that could be interpreted as needy or desperate - you could scare her off. Slow down, take it easy.
Take care!
2006-07-18 17:21:03 · answer #2 · answered by Song2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, your rushing into a trap that so many men fall into with women. The friend trap. Look. You apparently like her alot, and that's great. But think about it. You want someone who likes you with the same amount feelings as you do, if not more. If she had those same feelings you did, she WOULD rush right into a relationship with you without you even asking. She's only using you while her mind pursues other men she encounters to date. You've told her your feelings before, but yet still she doesn't comply with your feelings. That means she's not interested in dating you. If Brad Pitt came up to her, you think she'd tell him, uh I'm not ready to date now, I just got out of a relationship and I don't want to rush into anything. The bottom-line is, she's not interested. Flush her number down the toilet, save your money, and go out and find a girl who's worth your time. Remember guys, if a girl gives you excuses on why they don't want to go into a relationship with you or out on a date, then don't waste your time. Find someone who feels the same as you.
2006-07-18 17:29:18 · answer #3 · answered by TheRealHitch 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've only dated her 5 times and that was once a week...that isn't love, just infatuation.
She's doing the right thing by focusing on college, which is what you should focus on also.
Ease up with all the desperation --- women don't like it...and be careful with work-place relationships.
Don't tell her that you love her..until you receive some indication that she feels the same and is ready.
2006-07-18 17:17:36 · answer #4 · answered by sunshine25 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love takes time and you will know becaue you will feel it and light up. If you arent ready then dont rush it. You dont want to come off to pushy either because it may push her away. Give her time to get over her past love. The best things in life are worth waiting for.
2006-07-18 17:13:52 · answer #5 · answered by hodgesandguy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her you love her but don't expect it to change her feelings for you. She already told you she likes you as a friend. I think she just told you that something may happen down the road because she likes hanging out with you and wants that to continue and she thinks if she outright told you nothing is ever going to happen you would not want to hang out as friends anymore. I would not wait for her.
2006-07-18 17:11:59 · answer #6 · answered by melissa_anne_maison 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here's the thing:
Get to learn her periods.. Menstruation I mean...
Just 3 to 4 days BEFORE the bleeding starts, she'll be most sentimental. Tell her THEN that you love her.
2006-07-18 17:12:55 · answer #7 · answered by Roland 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well,let her finish college first,& u say she's 22,u pick the right time to tell her u love her.if u think she's the right one 4 u then,u tell her how u feel and tell her u love her.
2006-07-18 17:16:03 · answer #8 · answered by da sexyest 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NOO. Bad idea. Experience. One guy said it 2 me and he was in the same boat as and I totally freaked out and left him. Hold ur horses. I don't think u r in love.
2006-07-18 17:12:06 · answer #9 · answered by funkymonkey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u could tell her. but maybe she'll be scared off by that. just wait a little, get closer to her and when you think the time is right tell her those three little words.
2006-07-18 17:12:31 · answer #10 · answered by tormented_666_soul 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋