a brief synopsis why:
he broke up with me for a black girl, because he's always liked them, and he was only going out with me to make his parent's happy, and now he said he was going to do what he wanted, and we had been 2gether for 2 years
anyway, he broke up with me about a week ago, and i'm hurt and i'm mad, but more mad because he was only going out with me to please his parents! so he never even loved me, and i lost my virginity to him!
so, about an hour ago, i went over to his house and slashed the tires on his audi. i know it wasn't right to do, but i feel liberated! i would've keyed his precious little car, but i changed my mind...
now, i think i'm demented because i want to go back over there and break his windshield out...what should do?
2006-07-18 10:05:26 · 14 answers · asked by Sharlize De La Croix 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
in my synopsis i told why he left me, these are the reasons that he gave me, i never knew he liked black girls or any other girl for that reason, i had no idea he was just dating me to make his parents happy, i thought he really loved me!
2006-07-18 10:15:06 · update #1
It hurts...a lot when we've been deceived. It's hard for you to realize that the fact that we love somebody, doesn't obligate them to love us back.
Yes, what he did was a sh*tty thing to do (not having the cojones to stand up to his parents in the first place and deceiving you consequently); and by slashing his tires you gained a little release of all the feelings you must be having like a pressure cooker inside of you; but you also lost some dignity girl, 'cause he'll probably know it was you and his ego will feel all high-and-mighty. Don't give him that satisfaction; and no you're not demented, you've just been wronged and you're hurt. Only time will heal this one.
Just remember, everything passes...
PS. I can't believe there's still people as prejudiced as your ex's parents in this day and age...
2006-07-18 10:17:56 · answer #1 · answered by cleo715 4 · 12⤊ 1⤋
enjoy your time in jail! seriously you are sick, you need some help. you said yourself that he was only with you to make his parents happy so you didn't really think that was going to work did you? if you did then thats your own stupidity and you have no business being angry with him because you are foolish. hopefully he presses charges and you get a nice legal lesson on why revenge is so stupid. you never own anybody, people dont' come with pink slips and they have every right to leave you whenever they darn well please and for whatever reason they might choose (and with you sounds like there are plenty of reasons to leave) and you better learn to deal with it. hec as psycho as you are you should be grateful he put up with you for 2 years, you probably won't find anyone else that will. get some counselling, you have some serious issues that are going to prevent you from ever having a successful relationship. by the way...you don't have a car that can be messed up do you? or a house? or a window? or a face? you'll get whats coming to you. karma is a b*tch! how about this, tell the next guy you like and want to date this funny little story of yours and see how fast he runs! nobody wants to be with someone like you and if it was a man doing it everyone would be screaming about his abusive, wharped behavior!
2006-07-18 17:11:03 · answer #2 · answered by dappersmom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I must say that I am sorry for what u r feeling. giving up 2 yrs 2 some1 is not easy n especially 2 some1 who did not love u. yes i do suggest venting but in a legal manner this man has already cost u 2 yrs don't let him cost u anymore nothing he doesn't even deserve ur tears much less ur money i Know how hard it is 2 let go but pls try u deserve 2 b happy but most of all u deserve some1 who loves u just as much as u love them. My mom always says wat doesn't kill u makes u stronger. This is only a chapter in ur life learn from it n the move pass it. Good Luck
2006-07-18 17:28:59 · answer #3 · answered by Rannet P 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG i love your story
i was in a similar situation myself about 2 years ago
im a white guy and was dating a fairly attrative white girl, when all of a sudden she dumped me for a black dude....needless to say i was pissed off!.... so i went over to her apt complex and keyed the sh.it out of her car....it was very liberating and i felt great about it until i was confronted with a restraining order and legal action was taken against me....no fun at all...it ended up costing me big bucks to fix her (tho i think it wasd worth it)
let your man be with his big-assed black chicks...
im sure u could do much better....move on, move up, live life without this loser
2006-07-18 17:10:49 · answer #4 · answered by C. D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the FIRST thing you should do is to replace the tires on his car that you slashed...that was just a TERRIBLE thing for you to do...the second thing you need to do is to come to terms with the fact that he obviously wasn't in love with you....too many young people today don't realize the difference between 'having sex' and 'making love'....there's a HUGE difference one involves purely the physical act and results in nothing but short term physical gratification...the other involves intimate feelings and love for your partner and in my opinion should wait until you're married......plus you have to consider all of the DANGERS of 'having sex' these days....the best advice i can give you is to first off ABSTAIN from any further sexual activity unless you want to wind up on the growing list of people living with diseases such as HIV, Herpes, etc. and secondly MOVE ON....i know it hurts but this relationship obviously isn't going to work if he was only dating you to please someone else....he wasn't doing it to make HIMSELF happy....so i don't see there being any reconciliation....i'm sorry but that's how i see it ...and for Pete's sake don't go getting yourself into trouble with the law by damaging his property.....that's just SILLY and JUVENILE.....you have to be the 'BIGGER'...."MORE MATURE" person here and just move on with your life.....
2006-07-18 17:15:17 · answer #5 · answered by CountryBourne 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a grip on yourself before you do something that lands you in jail. Then, write him a letter and really vent all of your feelings. You don't have to mail it, but if it doesn't contain any threats, you can if you want.
Then, move on. Find someone that respects you.
2006-07-18 17:09:27 · answer #6 · answered by Otis F 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok, 1st, that dude was wrong. He shouldn't have gone with you only to please his parents and he shouldn't have done those other things. well, you did what you did (though I don't agree with it). my advise is for you to move on. There are many other guys out there that would go with you because of who you are, not to please his parents. Here's to a better life and God bless u.
2006-07-18 17:10:14 · answer #7 · answered by 3 nails 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
call your mom and vent this situation to her. she should be able to help you. plus you might need some anger management classes because you are seriously troubled by this man. trust me he'll know it was you and you really should own up to it when you are accused!
good luck!
2006-07-18 17:10:16 · answer #8 · answered by JerseyBleu 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
break his window take a key to his car get even girl
2006-07-18 17:10:00 · answer #9 · answered by angeleyes12181@sbcglobal.net 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to get control of yourself! I know that would feel better...but it's psycho! Find more productive ways to get over it!
2006-07-18 17:08:56 · answer #10 · answered by green is clean 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋