From my sister and brothers because they are his bio.kids and today i talked to him and he said he luved me and want me to call him anytime. What should I do?
2006-07-18 10:03:52 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
call him! my dad found out my mom told me that I may not be his and he knew this and from that day on if I make a mistake he would remind me of that and then when i got married and had kids he told me they were not his grandkids.My daughter was 8 when he died and she cried more then anyone and said it was because she didn't know her grandpa before he died.If he says he loves you take him at his word he raised you and believe me if he didn't care you would have known this without being told.My question growing up was why does he treat me different.Well I was different but he still feed me etc. which was more then my real dad did and he knew i was his,
2006-07-18 10:14:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep the relationship going, dude. This man raised you as his own, and now that you know he isn't your biological father, he is worried that you feel differently about him. Just like you are worried that he feels differently about you. Clear the air with him, man. Tell him what you are feeling, and that you still love him like a Dad. I am a stepfather myself, and have treated and raised my wife's kids just as if they were my own. They are all adults now, and it makes my heart leap with joy when they call me Dad, and when my grandaughter calls me Grandpa. It's a situation that requires honesty and openness. Don't hold feelings inside and guess about what the other person is feeling. Talk about it, and get it out in the open.
2006-07-18 10:34:25 · answer #2 · answered by papag7222000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just because a man had Sex with your mom, that doesn't make him your Father. A Father is someone who raised you cares for you and loves you no matter what. The fact that he isn't your biological Father should make no difference in your love for him. Of course it will be akward, but be an adult about it and love him like your Biological Father.
2006-07-18 10:09:22 · answer #3 · answered by Cool Guy in Cali 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This situation is a delicate one because there's alot of pain involved emotionally. This man has a choice of whether he wants to continue to be a father figure because you are not his child. If he treats you different still show him love regardless. It's a matter of accepting that this man is not your bio. father.
2006-07-18 10:50:13 · answer #4 · answered by dooneygurl17 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Come on! This man is your father. He probably feels insecure about how you are feeling about him now that you know his little cell didn't light the fuse. If you love this man, show him and calm his insecurities. Tell him it doesn't matter, he is your Dad. He is the one who has been there for you.
2006-07-18 10:07:17 · answer #5 · answered by r0cky74 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its a quite happening thing nowdays as your father is carring u and wants to talk to u more you should talk to him and express him about how valuvable he is to u , i think he will understand you , and u will enjoy a happy home all the best
2006-07-18 10:09:16 · answer #6 · answered by kannanunni484 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u should understand how he feel s too. have you asked him how he feels about finding out you're not his kid? U should appreciate him for taking the time to spend with you, because it does hurt alot.
2006-07-18 10:08:22 · answer #7 · answered by DaNewGuy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe its hard for him to get past the lie and im sure he still love you the same
2006-07-18 10:07:28 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
call him. he treats you like your his own child
2006-07-18 10:07:06 · answer #9 · answered by sporty chica 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋