am i wrong to be bothered??? im 21 & i moved out of the house i grew up in 2yrs ago but i left alot of things?

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like clothes, childhood stuff, and other random stuff in my old room. well i got a call from my mother today which basically was to tell me that a distant (the 16year old daughter of my mothers cousin) relative from europe will be living in my old room for 6 months. i am kinda irked by this, just because there is still alot of very personal stuff in my room, and i dont want some teenager who i havent seen or spoken to since i was 12 living in my old room. but my mothers point is that im not living there so what should the problem be, and i agree with her to an extent but im still very bothered. i dont know this girl... i would be different if i knew her, or at least had met her more than 1 time, but that is just the case. i have only met her 1 time.... am i wrong to be bothered???? regardless of how i feel this is going to happen, any suggestions on how i can feel more comfortable about this? eww....she is gonna sleep in my bed, use my closet & shower, use my dressers....

i know plenty of people stay in hotels, but i have a sence of territory with my old room, the furnature in there is mine (passed on by my late grandmother), the reason i have left so much stuff there is cuz the place i live now (i live with my boyfriend) does not have enough space for ALL of my stuff

ok the ONLY thing that does not belong to me that is in that room is the room itself. EVERYTHING that is in the room belongs to me, including the bed. (i had to buy it myself becuase i wanted a larger bed).

Answer 1

Man, i kind of relate to what u're going through, but the truth is your things are in your parents possesion and bascially they kinda have the say over everything....and it's just an unpleasent fact... your parents are good.... it's been 2 years and they havn't turned ur room into something else..... just be happy they held on to your stuff and haven't changed it to the study or sewing room.hell be glad they didnt tell you to come get your @#$$$ outta your cousins way!! Suck it up and be a big girl... if i can do it u can too!


As for your furniture ... u probably can trust your parents to take good care of it since it was from ur granny and it has sentimental value to u and your mom and dad....maybe you can get with them and arrange to put some of your things in another room or area that no one else has access to....be reasonable remember your parents need space and have a life too,
*****SIMPLE SOLUTION..... Make your boyfriend get rid of his stuff and you move your stuff in.....that's what i did...

Answer 2

If everything in there is yours as you state. it should have been moved out 2 years ago when you moved. If you have a problem with all this now then you need to rent a storage garage and stick all that stuff in there for the next 6 months. I don't think this has anything to do with the room and it's contents. I think your just being jealous and think this is a reasonable thing to express it through. It's so simple if it's her using these things that bother you then move them out. Put them in storage and replace them when she leaves.

Answer 3

Yes, you are wrong to be bothered... You have moved out! You have not lived there in two years!! FINISH MOVING OUT!MOVE OUT COMPLETELY! You cannot expect your parents to keep a room for you... it is all part of growing up. You move out and they reclaim your old room. If you cannot fit all of the stuff in your new place, you have a couple choices. 1) Get a Storage Unit 2) Sell it 3) Give it away to charity 4) Let you parents keep it as their own.

Answer 4

Well, it's your mom's house, not yours. Even the property in your room belongs to your mother. She has every right to use it for something - especially if you're not there. And if that stuff was so important to you, why didn't you take it when you moved?
And, don't be so selfish, look at the bigger picture here. Why should she have to pay for a hotel when there is a HOME she can stay in, anyway?

Answer 5

If it bothers you, try putting your stuff in a storage unit for a while if you can not possibly fit it in your home. Or maybe another family member will store it for you? It really should not be at your mom's anymore anyway...unless you are keeping an open door in case of a fall out with your b/f.

Answer 6

I read what you said. Think about it. None of those things belong to you; they belong to your parents. It's your old room that's in THEIR house. Your old bathroom in THEIR house. If you didn't want anyone touching your stuff, you should have taken it with you. I moved out at 17. My cousin lives in my old room. You could have put that stuff in storage. At least your parents are charging you to keep your things there.

Answer 7

if your concerned about your things get a storage space for them and move them out. The room isnt yours anymore but the personal items are. So just get your things out of your parents house and no worries.

Answer 8

I think that you are being unreasonable. When you move out then it's not your room anymore. If you don't want people touching or going through your stuff then take what is yours to where you live now or stop complaining.

Answer 9

All I can say is go there and move out the stuff you want. If you really want this stuff you will find a place for it, maybe in storage if you have to.

Answer 10

Hey how about this. Only be concerned with the stuff you PAID for. You sound a little dopey. Either get your stuff and put it in a storage place or leave it.