how do i tell someone i hate them without actually saying it?

Question

theres this person in my life who likes to call me all the time and likes to chit chat and bullshit me for hours on end..
its not that i dont like chit chatting, i just dont like her attitude, her personality, her looks..EVERYTHING>>> i dont like about her, but she thinks we're best of friends

i dont want to hurt her feelings, but at the same time i want to tell her off and maliciously attack her with the harshest verbal assaults, but i dont want to make her cry

wtf should i do and how should i go about telling her?.... see, i work with this person, so i still have to have some kind of relationship with her

Answer 1

Send flowers. DEAD flowers.

Answer 2

Ok you already said it her,now all you got to do is tell her that you:

dont like chit chatting
just dont like her attitude
her personality

Then you say "i dont want to hurt your feelings, but at the same time i want to tell you off and maliciously attack you with the same harshest verbal assaults that you have to say about others.
Now that that is out in the open, can we move on and be cordial to one another. You are just not my type of friend."

Answer 3

It would be extremely difficult to work with this person if you told her off. I think that you might want to start screening your calls, if you have caller ID, or let your recorder pick up the calls. Don't talk to her as much on the phone, and you won't feel so irritated and trapped. She will probably question you at first, so be prepared to give a vague answer. (oh, i wasn't home, I was out with friends) Good luck.

Answer 4

1. Honesty; "Good news people like you, just not me."
2. Lie; Casually mention a few activities you've decided to take up on your free time. Don't mention specifics, get caller I.D., don't answer when she calls, when asked why you didn't answer, or where you were insert any aformentioned activity.
3. Get a new job
4. Why on earth would you give someone your # if you don't like them? Maybe don't do that in the future.
See Ya 'round

Answer 5

Well with caller ID why don't you just screen out her calls. That's the chicken way, but if you don't take her calls she'll get the idea sooner or later. When she tells you that she called, say, oh, I got busy and didn't check my messages. Yes, it's telling lies, but you really can't have a personality conflict with a coworker. Or you can answer the phone and say I can't talk now, I'll see you tomorrow. Bye. If she asks why, say it's personal. Got to go. Bye.

Answer 6

Because you work with this person you need to treat this situation sensitively. First try to put her off nicely like. Girl I can't talk right now I will call you back. She will eventually get the picture if you never do. At work stay just as "busy". Do not engage in any personal conversation with her at all.

Answer 7

Sounds like you can't really avoid hurting her feelings. The best thing you can do with a person whom you're not interested in becomeing "more than" co-workers with is just be honest w/her and communicate to her how you feel.
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Let her know that you're not comfortable being friends outside of the work arena or if you really want to be easy on her you can also say that you like to keep things professional and feel that co-workers stay like co-workers to you and you are not interested in making friendships outside of work. You want to keep a co-worker relationship-nothing more, nothing less.

She should be able to respect that and in return, she'll respect you for being honest and wanting to keep things professional.

Good luck.

Answer 8

You don't really have to tell them straight in the face that you don't want to talk to them.
1. Tell her that you are busy, and that you can talk.
2. simply say that your telephone bills are going up(cell phone).
3. You will call her back, you got a call on the other line.
4. telling her that she needs to stop depending on you, because she is a grown up now.
5. you simply don't want to talk that day.
etc etc.

Answer 9

Hate is a very harsh word. I would communicate that you have differences in your basic philosophy of life and tastes. Express the things you like in people. She will see what she does not bring to the table, and she will get the hint, that she is not one of your favorite people.

Answer 10

Grow up and tell her that you think although she is a very nice person, but you don't want to be friends with her anymore. Or you could just phase her out of your life, you gradually stop talking to her, cut your conversations shorter and shorter, stop going out with her.

Answer 11

hi... it seems like you feel strongly about this situation. One or both or you are being phony. maybe she feels the same way and doesn't want to hurt you either. be honest with yourself first then her.why go through life wasting time.