like clothes, childhood stuff, and other random stuff in my old room. well i got a call from my mother today which basically was to tell me that a distant (the 16year old daughter of my mothers cousin) relative from europe will be living in my old room for 6 months. i am kinda irked by this, just because there is still alot of very personal stuff in my room, and i dont want some teenager who i havent seen or spoken to since i was 12 living in my old room. but my mothers point is that im not living there so what should the problem be, and i agree with her to an extent but im still very bothered. i dont know this girl... i would be different if i knew her, or at least had met her more than 1 time, but that is just the case. i have only met her 1 time.... am i wrong to be bothered???? regardless of how i feel this is going to happen, any suggestions on how i can feel more comfortable about this? eww....she is gonna sleep in my bed, use my closet & shower, use my dressers....
2006-07-18 09:21:57 · 22 answers · asked by miss me! 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
btw the furnature in the room is mine, my grandmother passed and left it to me, i havent taken it to my new place becuase of lask of space
2006-07-18 09:40:58 · update #1
Hey I totally agree with you 100%, I've been there. And you feel dumb for letting it bother you, but you can't help it. It's just a territory thing I think. Like whether I live here or not, this is still my room. And it's really not fair to think like that, but I'm guilty too. My only suggestion would be to go pick up all of the things that you don't want her using and tell yourself that it's just a room after that. Nothin more you can do!!
2006-07-18 09:27:34 · answer #1 · answered by 2good2Btrue 5 · 3⤊ 2⤋
Breathe... it's just furniture she is using. I understand how you feel, because I've been there, but now is the time to be an adult and get over it, it's times like these that make growing up suck just a bit. If you left a lot of personal stuff at your parents house you are lucky they didn't throw it away because they are not your personal storage unit. If you have a lot of stuff there that is private, you should have taken it with you. If your cousin has been living in your own room for six months, you either don't visit your parents or talk to them that much, otherwise you would be aware of the situation. Go pick up your personal belongings, there are other things in the more important to worry about than this.
2006-07-18 09:32:52 · answer #2 · answered by jtj 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your personal stuff is that important and private, then I would go and get it. As far as her using your closet and bed and shower, that's just being a little childish. Where do you live now? An apartment has been used before ... a dorm has been used before ... the ammenities don't really matter. I think you're believing that your parents are choosing her over you, which they're not. I would go get your most favorite personal things and bring them home with you. And try to remember that this girl is going to be staying in a house that's scary and unknown to her ... maybe it would be nice to have some girlie things there and to know that another girl had been cozy and happy there. It might make her feel more comfortable and at home.
2006-07-18 09:28:29 · answer #3 · answered by cutengraceless 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, first of all...Feelings are never "wrong". They just are. Second, you say she will be sleeping in "your" bed, be using "your" stuff..etc.. But, really, they aren't "yours" anymore! I understand that people get sentimental with things, especially when you have childhood memories attached to them. But, there comes a time when you need to let go and make new memories. Also, it really isn't fair for you to use your parents' home as a storage unit. I think that if you get your things and take them to where you're living now, it might help you to move on. Last, she's 16. It's not like she's 4 or 5. I'm sure she's old enough to respect your property...even if it doesn't belong there. ;) Good luck!
2006-07-18 09:30:52 · answer #4 · answered by rsamboragal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, even though it has always been your room, you have grown up, and moved out to be on your own. While it is always nice to have your room at parents' house, that happens seldom. It could have already been turned into a guest room, so be thankful your stuff is still there, but understand that that is technically not "your" room anymore. If you are that possessive over your things, move your stuff out so none of your things are there for her to use. Obviously you have a new bed and furniture, so those things belong to your parents, as does the shower. Be happy that you have your own independence!
2006-07-18 09:34:09 · answer #5 · answered by Tangled Web 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're well within your rights to be bothered. However, I think that what vexes you about this is that your personal effects are still in the house. Would you feel more comfortable if your things weren't there? Honestly, mom didn't have to tell you that she was coming. The room is no longer yours and your mother is entitled to do with it as she wishes. It should be comforting to know that your mom did give you a heads up as an opportunity to come and get your things. Wouldn't you rather that as opposed to coming over and finding that your things have been shoved in the attic, or worse put out as trash?
2006-07-18 09:31:36 · answer #6 · answered by choc_sin 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well the room isn't technically yours anymore since you moved out. my suggestion would be to go to your parents home and pack up things that are personal to you that you would not want her to go through and mess with and put them in storage, your parents attic, or at your new place. i can understand that you are still protective over all of this because it is still your home, it's where you grew up, but you have moved out and it's time your stuff did too. things like furniture that you will want when you have kids and a family, but you don't have room for now, its ok to leave that, but small trinkets form school and childhood should be packed up and moved somewhere else.
2006-07-18 09:28:49 · answer #7 · answered by angelcdm228 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you should Make one more trip to the OLD room and ask you mother what you should keep if she say take what ever you want than go through it than you should give up the room and let some one else grow up there!
2006-07-18 09:38:06 · answer #8 · answered by Mr. E 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If each thing in there is yours as you state. it is going to have been moved out 2 years in the past once you moved. in case you have a concern with all this now then you definitely would desire to lease a storage storage and stick all that stuff in there for the subsequent 6 months. i do no longer think of this has something to do with the room and it is contents. i think of your basically being jealous and think of this would be a useful factor to particular it by. it is so straightforward if it is her utilizing those issues that hardship then you definitely circulate them out. positioned them in storage and replace them while she leaves.
2016-10-08 01:44:02 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's normal to be bothered, but you haven't lived there in two years. Perhaps you should go home and gather any personal belongings, and also get to know your thrid or something cousin. Be like her big brother, and perhaps if you get to know her better, you'll feel better about her living in your old room.
2006-07-18 09:28:26 · answer #10 · answered by Linds 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋