why do people think they have a right to push in front of mothers with buggy's?

Question

i have children and i'm sick of people ignoring them, they have been hit with bags, had fags thrown into their buggys, and pushed to the back of q's then they wonder why kids have no manners these days!

Answer 1

I call this the I B S ............ invisible buggy syndrome!!
I'm quite a vocal person where my kids are concerned and don't hesitate to point out how rude people who do this are, my partner on the other hand will tilt the buggy slightly and get them in the back of the ankles with the foot rest ( It does hurt too 'cos he did it to me once!) and funnily enough no one has dared say anything to him ................ probably helps that he is 6 foot summat and looks like a thug lol

I get fed up of telling my older girls to look where they are going cos no one else will, even my 9 year old gets pushed and hit with bags but she is like me and will complain to the person who did it to which I get looked at like I'm a bad mum and my children should be locked away!
I have taught my girls that you don't have to put up with atrocious behaviour like that and that its ok to stick up for yourself after all manners are free and don't hurt anyone!
Please don't think that I encourage them to be rude and obnoxious they are polite well mannered girls and will only say something if they feel they have been put in the position to complain!
Someone should manufacture a pushchair with ankle ripping spikes that will stick out of the wheels when you press a button on the handles lol I'm sure after a while people everywhere would start to show a little courtesy to pushchairs and children!
Thanks for letting me vent my frustrations :o)

Answer 2

Sometimes folks are just mega slow and thats why other people don't want to wait. Other times it's just that the other people are so arrogant and inconsiderate that they think the rest of the world delights in allowing them to go to the front of the queue, have the last TV in the sale, pinch the disabled seat on the coach (when they are obviously not disabled), and just generally push their way around and make a huge nuisance and annoyance of themselves. But one thing I would say it that they don't only do it to mothers with buggies - It has happened to me many times without buggy or children. I find that for me its just that if the kids are there and are catching the raw end of it, my nerves get more jangled that if it was just me that got hit and pushed etc. I don't see why the kids should have to take it. It really got to me one time when this stuck up women pushed her way in front of me in the queue for the bus. It was an hourly bus but I had been waiting for more than an hour because the one I wanted to catch didn't turn up. So I've been stood there ages at the front of a long queue, and she had the nerve to walk up about 5 mins before the next bus was due and go in front of me. Then another woman came and went infront of her and the first queue skipper went absolutely berserk!
I wish folks would go back and have some lessons in basic manners and etiquette before roaming free round the streets and shops. It would make life so much more pleasant for the more civilized people around wouldn't it?

Answer 3

Since having a baby I have discovered that it seems mothers with babies + buggy are an inconvenience to others. I have never ever been selfish towards mothers and kids even before having my own baby. Always used to open the doors for them, give up my seat etc. Not everybody is that considerate. Generally people who've had kids are considerate because they know what its like. In the first couple of weeks I used to get out of everybody's way on the pavement so as not to be a 'nuisance' as I have a pram (like a truck!). Nobody ever thanked me for it nor did they even attempt to slightly move out of the way to accommodate my needs. So, I changed my tactics and now I keep to one side of the pavement but in a straight line, and I AM NOT MOVING anywhere! I tell you what, people soon moved out of the way. Either that or they get run over. No more sympathy or tolerance.

Answer 4

I TOTALLY AGREE IT IS SO ANNOYING i was in a Q for a bus with a huge buggy then this woman with a stroller pushed in front of me in the q for a bus went where i needed to put my pram cause bit wont fit in any other i felt out raged tha t kid had to be over four mad then silly old buggers pushing on where i had to try and hold a baby my shopping and fold a pram all at once people dont have manners any more

Answer 5

Why do parents have to take up the entire pathway or shop aisle with their pushchairs? Why do they think nothing of their precious little child running riot but when someone tells them to stop, all hell breaks loose? Why do groups of mothers walk side by side so you have no choice but to go into the road to pass? Why are they not reprimanded when they scream at the tops of their voices in public places? Why should people not be able to push in front of mothers with buggy's if they are so flipping slow? There! Said my piece xx Love you all xxxxx

Answer 6

Everyone seems to be living there lives in fast forward these days! They dont take their time and they sure dont appreciate the little things life has to offer! These people who do that also cut off older people as well! Ive seen it and know what u mean! They are in a hurry and care about noone but themselves! They are self centered and shallow and totally selfish! They care about noone but them them them!!!! They r the same way with someone on crutches too. I had knee surgery and on crutches for 6 months and I was shocked at how many people just cut around me almost running into me. They feel like we are slowing them down from getting where they want to go!!! they are in the way! Sad isnt it???

Answer 7

I sympathize with you. I have a 4 year old and a 9 month old and I'm constantly getting shoved to the end of a line, jumped in front of, my son has been knocked over several times because people don't watch where they're going. That's when I flip out though- I don't stand there and let people be discourteous to my children. I'll let them know how I feel!

Answer 8

i wonder where you live?i live in Coventry and people are exactly the same when i take my nephews out.and I'm also 8 and a half months pregnant and i get people going to walk right into me-but i make sure i give them a bigger whack!!just run over their feet with the pushchair!!

Answer 9

I'm sick of a group of children running full stop and face planting into my grocery basket, then the parents cussing at me like *I* did something wrong. I'm sick of children cutting me off in line, then the parents justifying their childs behavior, "It's ok little timmie, you can do whatever you want." I'm sick of children screaming and wailing while the parents allow their child to disrupt everyone else around them while I'm trying to enjoy a nice dinner out with my boyfriend. I'm sick of parents purchasing their children those damn heelies, or whatever the hell they are, then their children constantly running into me in every aisle, with no apology or a second glance.

All of the above has happened to me, and continues to happen on a nearly day to day basis. One of these days I'm gonna snap and knock a brat into next week.

Just because you have kids doesn't really grant you much in the way of special treatment in my book, unless you and your kids are well behaved. Yes, you too. Which means no cussing someone out because YOUR brats are giving you a headache and you can't be enough of a parent to get them to behave in public. Don't stand there and look lost like a doe caught in the headlights if you don't want me to assume just that. Keep your kids close to you, don't let them run around. I don't see what's down at my knees, and if your kid is hawking by my knees, damn well he's gonna get stepped on. I don't have to look for your kids every time I move.

It's not just us, it's the way the children are allowed to behave, too. Parents do QUITE enough of allowing their brats to do anything they want without consiqence. Those of us without children have quite alot of complaints about how parents allow their children to behave in public. I don't care how they act at home, but if you're subjecting me to the misery of dealing with your brat, you will get no sympathy from me. I ignore your children because it's the only way I'm able to keep my sanity while being subjected to the torment of having to deal with misbehaving brats.

And no, I don't plan on having children. I value my sanity, it took me damn well long enough to be declared sane after the crap I went through in puberty.

Answer 10

Unfortunately the parents have no manners either and think they have the God-given right to take up the whole pavement.