i cheated, what do i do now?

Question

i cheated on my man and now my guilt is killing me. should i tell him or just break it off with him? help!

Answer 1

You're in a tough spot. You need to ask yourself some questions.

Why did you cheat on him? Was it a one-time drunken mistake? Or, did you do it consciously? Was it because your needs are not being met within the relationship?

If it was a one-time drunken mistake and you know you won't do it again, what will you gain by confessing? You will feel better, but you will hurt him very badly.

If it was a conscious decision, then something is wrong with the relationship and you need to fix it. And, in this case, you probably need to tell him.

Good luck.

Answer 2

If you want to keep your man, and you just made a onetime mistake, then dont dare tell him, because your relationship will never be the same. But if your cheating because you dont really care then leave. Dont torture the guy for nothing, its unfair to let someone believe whats not real. I dont think its necessary to reveal your cheating behavior in any situation actually. It can result in some longterm hurt for some people. Like I said either keep your skeleton and love your man, or get the hell out and take your skeleton with you. But watch yourself. Reconsider being a cheater. The karma is nothing nice.

Answer 3

If you're cheating on your man, then perhaps he isn't really the man for you. There's obviously something lacking in your relationship that perhaps you were trying to fulfill with your illicit encounter. Then again, it could have just been the heat of the moment or the thrill of the taboo.

If you think your man could handle it, I would come clean with him, and fess up. However, if you're thinking that your two choices are tell him or break up, it almost seems as if you don't really have a lot of emotion invested in this relationship. Perhaps you'd both be happier if you just went looking for someone else.

Best of luck!

Answer 4

I think you know what the answer is. Tell him and accept the consequences. If he breaks it off then you will just have to learn from your mistakes and make better choices next time. Whatever the outcome, be honest because it will eat you up if you don't. Good luck.

Answer 5

if you love him and you know it was a great big mistake say nothing ever. If you cheated because your not sure about the whole thing break it off

Answer 6

Honesty is always the best policy, its the right thing to do. My boyfriend cheated on me 4 monthes ago, but because of his honesty, i forgave him. The real question is though, what made you cheat? Examine that first, you may come up with your own answer to your question.

Answer 7

now, i'm not gonna sit here and pass judgement on you, but if you tell him, you better be ready for a lot of fighting and a real bumpy ride--that is, if he doesn't break up with you. so, if you don't love him enough to face the consequences that are to come (and i'm talking months of it), then you should break up with him and spare both of you the head ache. or, just don't tell him and consider it a leason learned. there's your three options.

Answer 8

tell him you did and break up...you might as well just end it or it will takes years or a life time to get his respect and trust back. also to be respectful, the next guy who you date you should tell you cheated on your ex...it shows good faith that you can tell him that, you'd want to know if your new bf has cheated be4 right?

Answer 9

Do you really love him ? if you are , do not repeat the mistake again and keep quiet about it. The guilt will slowly fade away if you promised yourself never to repeat it.

If you unhappy with the relationship then change it.

Answer 10

Why did you cheat on him in the first place? If you think the friendship won't work out, dump him and go for the other guy.