How can I get my husband ex to stop having us pay for airplane ticket plus $1100 child support?

Question

My husband spend a lot of money on lawyers and he never files to reduce child support even are paying the same and we have 4 kids since then. we pay airplane tickets and his ex change the date and the time or ask her son to call us and pretend to be sick or busy.
I am so frustrated when i talk about it he gets mad and live the house.
what can I do to save my marriage and get my husband ex from manupilating us and distroying my life.
we pay airplane ticket to go to courts + hotel + gifs to my step son and when my husband is there he can't see him cause his son is busy.
when he visit he lack himself in the room, watch TV or sleep until his dad return from work . Never play with his brother's who adores him.
do you think this is fair.
please help me I am going crasy.

Answer 1

It sounds aggravating, but even though you are married to him this situation is form before your marriage. Your husband needs ot take care of his son, and if your husband feels he is being taken advantage of HE needs to do something about it. You have to relax, and nto let it upset you so much otherwise you are letting his ex win, and destroying your relationship. Just get off your husband's back about it he probably feels awful enough as it is. Sorry if this advice sounds harsh, but don't let her win!

Answer 2

Unfortunately, your husband had another family before he met you. He is obligated to them just as he is obligated to you. I can understand you wanting all of him and his attention but it just can't be. You have to share, you knew that when you met him. As for the financial aspect, he is going to have to renegotiate with his ex. If the kids from the previous marriage are angry with him he will have to work on that with them. I hate to say it, but it doesn't have much to do with you except that you get the short end of the stick. You can choose not to go on the trips, which would save alot of money. Also, don't harp on your husband. Try to be supportive or you may be the ex to some other woman down the road.

Answer 3

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She will not want you even more. You need to show her that you don't need her and can live your life without her. She still cares about you I am sure. Maybe try "flirting" with other girls around her to make her jealous. I know its bad, but if i saw my ex flirting with someone else it would make me REALLY ANGRY. However, you still need to show her you care about her too. Show her what she's missing and remind her of it. Be confident and don't show your broken heart. Try ignoring her? Girls hate that. You want her to come to you. Once she does this YOU have all the power.

She will realize what you mean to her and she will hopefully come crawling back. (I am in the same situation as you, except I am the girl trying to get my ex back). Try not to be so clingy and give her space. But try to be around so she sees you, but don't talk to her much. Keep convos short and if you txt her, which you shouldn't, then also keep it short and bland. This will be hard to do because you just want to let her in your life again, but you can't. If you show her that you are desperate to get her back, she won't go for it. Make her come to you and REMIND her of all that she is missing out on. Hope this helps. And trust me, I know how you feel. Girls usually come around easier than guys so you should be lucky. ughh wish i could say the same.

Answer 4

First of all you need to put your foot down to your husband, let him know how you feel and if walk out that door, tell him don't come back. I guarantee he want walk out that door. In a calmly manner explain to him that there is no sense in all of this out of pocket expenses. Which ever parent moved out of the state should pay for the plain trip. The child support should be reviewed. You need to let your husband also know that he is married to you and not her. You need to look him in the eye and ask him does he want to be married to you or his ex-wife. If chooses you tell him that there are going to be some changes and let him know what they are. The child that is suppose to be visiting with the family, go on an outing or do something that has to involve everyone and getting out of the house and corresponding with each other.

Answer 5

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Once you do that then you can start to worry about getting back together with your ex, other wise you will find that you are fighting about all the same things and getting no where. Do what it takes and I promise things will work out in your favor.

The funny thing is I came to the realization that I had to change a little too late. After I was kicked out and after I was about to lose the only things that truly mattered to me - her love. A funny thing happens when we truly love someone and lose them. We do what ever it takes to get them back. For me I had to drop bad habits that had caused not only our relationship to sour but practically every other relationship I had had in the past. Not only with women, but with friends, co-workers, family, you name it.

Which is why I say to you as my ex at the time said to me, the only thing you can do is change yourself. Work on yourself and improve on the person that you already are. Drop the negative things in your life that don't belong there and you will see all of your relationships start to take off to new heights.

Answer 6

Kids are expensive.

His son may just be going through a phase where he doesn't want anything to do with either parent. It happens. Especially when they're teens.

Answer 7

I can understand how that upsets you. If he is not willing to do anything about it, there is not much you can do but let him know you are unhappy with the situation. You knew he had this obligation when you married him.