Tell them that you are not welcoming company at this time and that when you are ready to, you will let them know. You should stick up for yourself. If they give you crap about you living in there house, you can (and should) come back at them as a tenant and tell them that they can not just enter your house anytime they like. They need to provide written notice of intent to enter premises and for what reason. They are your landlords and need to be respectful of that dynamic. Good luck. I'm sure it would be hard but you are an adult and need to run your own life. It's time you lay down the law.
2006-07-18 08:58:10
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answered by Mykl 3
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Just because you are renting from them does not mean they have the right to drop in and stay whenever they want. You would not expect that from any other landlord, so why expect it just because it is your parents.(I rent from my mother)
It sounds as if you have already tried to be direct with your parents about them visiting. You can try to reiterate the fact that all of you would be more comfortable with them staying in a nearby hotel and hope that they agree this time. Other than that it seems your only options are to either cave in to them and let them stay, or conveniently not be home when they are scheduled to arrive.
Good luck and congratulations on your pregnancy.
2006-07-18 08:59:07
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answered by MELISSA B 5
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Be completely honest with them. Tell them that you don't want them to be there because things aren't the best right now (your classes, your pregnancy, the furniture issue).
They might be your parents, but that does not give them the right to just barge into your home, even if you are renting from them. Just ask them to get a hotel room so the visit goes more pleasantly. But be honest and upfront with them and make sure that your husband sticks by your word, too, and respects your wishes.
2006-07-18 08:55:29
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answered by Anonymous
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Tell them that if they want to come visit then they are going to HAVE to ASK you ahead of time in case you already have plans...otherwise they will not be seeing you. Then, when they do that just make something up. Also, after the baby is born just tell them that you would prefer them to stay in a hotel because you do not want alot of people in one house at one time...due to germs & whatnot. Do what you have to do & yes at the same time you most certainly should stand up to them. You do NOT have to put up with anything they try.
2006-07-18 09:03:10
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answered by §uper ®ose 6
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You have to tell them it's an inconvenient time for them to come. Something like I'd enjoy seeing you, but this time will not work out. Though the house rental may be an issue - are they giving you a great rate? If not - move - or tell them the truth and let the chips fall where they may - they are clearly people who enjoy yanking your strings, don't let them. That or be miserable.
2006-07-18 08:55:26
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answered by Anonymous
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Tell them that you are an adult now and you would like them to respect your home. Explain that you lead a life of your own and having them intrude on it without warning is unfair. Tell them that you understand they want to see you but its necesessary for these things to be planned out so it works out better for everyone involved and so they can take advantage of the best possible time to come.
2006-07-18 08:53:08
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answered by run like whoa 3
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Your parents were abusive to you and yet you rent a house from them and give them money. This doesn't make a bit of sense. If my parents had been abusive to me then I would be living as far away as possible and never see or speak to them again.
2006-07-18 15:01:50
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answered by Mollywobbles 4
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You're going to have to tell them. Say it nicely but be firm. For example,
"I would love to have you visit. Let's plan a time that is great for both of us so we can spend time together and do some fun things. The date you've picked isn't good for me because of my prior obligations. I need time to settle in, so how about this Fall?"
2006-07-18 08:54:01
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answered by That Girl 3
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Before you start to tell them anything, let them know that you aren't trying to disrespect them in any way. Tell them that you would like to settle into your new home before you have any guests. They might be a little upset, but they'll get over it. Tell them they need to understand that you're not a kid anymore so if they want to visit, it would have to be on your time, not theirs.
2006-07-18 08:54:46
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answered by Anonymous
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how far do you live from them?
I can understand not wanting house guest, but are your mom and dad really house guest that you have to look after and to entertain?
is this your first child, will you want help from your mom after the baby arrives? maybe you should make nice now in order to have the help later.
however, it is your house and you do get to pick who visits and who doesn't.
2006-07-18 08:55:06
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answered by ellisd1950 3
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