I'm sorry to hear your heart has been broken. I know it hurts like hell. Beautiful girl, never stop moving forward, not even in your deepest pain. Try this. Every day, as often as you need to, sit down, take a piece of paper and start writing. Just write and write and write. Write about your anger, about your sadness, about the humiliation. Write until you're spent. Then tear that piece of paper into little pieces and throw it away or better yet, burn it. DO NOT REREAD IT! Do this as long as you need to. Also, don't do as I did and pretend everything is alright. It is not. Cry, scream, fall down. As I write this to you, I too hurt over someone who dumped me years ago. Last piece of advice. When it's really bad, put your hand over your heart and take deep, slow breaths. Imagine you are breathing in light and love. Now you take care of yourself, you hear.
2006-07-18 09:41:34
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answered by suki's mom 4
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If you mean doing something as in hurting yourself than My advice is hurting yourself will never solve anything. Life is not worth losing over a guy that treats you that way. I am sorry that he cheated but the only thing that you can do is try and get over it. Sure, you can lock yourself in your room and cry as long as you want and scream till you loose your voice, but as for hurting yourself, I think it would be stupid to do such things. Everyone has gotten cheated on and they have survived. I have. One day you'll look back and think how stupid you were when you were so hurt by this guy. Mourn your pain and move on. You'll find someone who will be that perfect someone for you. And you may also run into more cheaters but the best thing to do is hold your head high and be a strong women and move on. I'm sorry this happened to you. I wish you the best of luck
2006-07-18 15:47:39
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answered by Anonymous
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Don't do anything extreme. I have felt this way before, and I bet most people have. It WILL pass, although it's hard to believe it when you're in it. You'll be stronger because of this.
You need to find something that will get you through the initial pain, without harming you. What I do: sleep, shop, find a new guy to go out with just for the fun, attention, and distraction. Just get through the first few days and it will start to lift. EVERYONE goes through this. In a while, you will be SO GLAD you didn't do anything to hurt yourself because you'll have great things in your life that you never imagined.
2006-07-18 15:50:42
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answered by goatluvver 2
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I am in the same boat. My boyfriend of 4 years and 3 months just cheated on me and I felt it. I told him there was someone else and he said good bye. I know exactly how you feel. God, the pain and you just want to die. You know their are men out there that don't do this to you. I am going to try some church groups to meet a God fearing man that won't do this to me. I know it is hard to get over. I am crying my days away and I can't eat or sleep but we will get over it. Don't do anything to harm yourself. Believe me this will pass. I keep telling myself that. I know it hurts so bad right now. I feel for you. Hang in there. I am trying to.
2006-07-18 15:47:36
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answered by Kimgreeneyes 2
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Don't punish yourself because he was the idiot.
You wanna know how to get back at him???
Move on, and find you someone who really cares about you. When you're able to keep a smile on your face in spite of the pain, that's true strength. When you're able to see him and speak to him in spite of the urge to kick him in crotch, that's true confidence! When you're able to pick up the pieces and mend your heart back together, that's true beauty!
You'll find the guy you were meant to be with, and that other jerk will know what he truly lost, and the best part is, he can never get you back!
It's okay to be sad for a minute, but don't cry over someone who's not crying over you! Get up, dust yourself off, and prepare for another round of life! You might just win in round two!!!
Keep on keeping on, best wishes!!!
2006-07-18 15:46:57
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answered by BabeeOreo 3
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Yeah heartbreak hurts, but honey no body deserves the satisfaction of knowing your dead over heartache. Really it goes like this, if he can't respect you enough to stay with him then it's better that he's gone. (Not what you want to hear) Just get yourself together and when your stable in yourself then either you'll find a new person or better, they'll find you. Cheer up. It'll happen. :)
2006-07-18 15:44:01
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answered by thoughtsofastranger 3
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I feel ya, i went through the same thing, something that helped me was knowing that i was not the only person in the world this has happened too. Meeting new people really hurts but won't help if you are not willing to let go, if he does'nt care neither should you.
2006-07-18 15:42:05
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answered by Jimmy35 2
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well honey, look, that is how things work. i mean yah, guys can be really shallow, TRUST ME!! especially if it is someone you care about. i am soooo sorry to hear what happened to you, but it happened because he wasn't right for you. it will take a long time to get over, especially if you guys were really close, and you thought you loved him. all i can say is that the right guy will come along soon and you will be so happy, but things like this will take time, and i wish you the best!!!!! if you need help, email me at joedirt0708@yahoo.com
2006-07-18 15:47:08
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answered by Kyrsten 2
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His loss. He's not worth the hurt.....
Good luck.
2006-07-18 15:41:37
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answered by D 2
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its life get used to it and move on
2006-07-18 15:41:26
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answered by lou k 1
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