where does the doctor press on you (tender spots) when checking for fibromyalgia?

Answer 1

This is taken from WebMD:
There are 9 pairs of tender points. Each pair has one point on each side of the body, for a total of 18 points. These pairs are located:

At the back of the neck behind the ear, where the neck muscles attach to the base of the skull.
About halfway between the base of the neck and the tip of the shoulder.
At the spot where the back muscles attach to the shoulder blade.
On the front of the neck above the collarbone.
Just to the right and left of the breastbone (sternum) about 2 in.(5.08 cm) below the collarbone.
On each forearm just below and to the outside of the crease of the elbow.
Just above and to the outside of each buttock.
On the outer upper leg just behind the bony part of the hip (this point is easier to find when standing).
On the inside of each knee.

There is a picture on the website to show you, too.

Answer 2

A doctor checking for fibromyalgia will press firmly on specific points on your head, upper body and certain joints so that you can confirm which cause pain.

Answer 3

Wherever the pain is.

Answer 4

to see if they are getting firm or tight