This girl I'm seeing is always asking if I have any money. I often don't, so at these times she doesn't seem as interested in me. I'm trying to let her know that she's doing the gold-digger type stuff, and I'm sick of it.
But how do I tell her?
That's where you come in. What do I do?
2006-07-18 08:28:50 · 56 answers · asked by mikeburmeister@sbcglobal.net 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Dump her. Move on.
2006-07-18 08:30:19 · answer #1 · answered by kalsmom 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask her is she expecting to borrow or be given money, and if she says that she believes you should then tell her to not count on you becoming a human ATM anytime soon.
Be straightforward with her about why you believe money sharing/loaning is not a good idea and that you are not comfortable with it.
Sometimes people can make the wrong assumption that offering material goods makes a good impression or that it is okay to take advantage of someone if the person permits them to.
Either way once you are upfront about your "NO MONEY" policy , give her a chance to respond. If she's starts to ignore you then move on because she is an opportunist that wasn't worth your time anyway.
2006-07-18 08:44:28 · answer #2 · answered by anosey1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you bother to confront a gold digger? It is crystal clear what she wants and what her interest in you is, so now the only choice you really need to make is whether thats what you want or not. She is who she is and you aren't going to change her so your best bet is just to move on.
2006-07-18 08:32:20 · answer #3 · answered by dappersmom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't normally repeat answers already given, but: DUMP her already!
You're wasting your time if you think a confrontation is going to give her a change of heart. Maybe being dumped will get her thinking (but I wouldn't hold my breath.)
If you feel you must make some kind of confrontation, the next time she calls to get together ('cause you sure as heck won't be calling her first!), tell her (before agreeing to anything) that you think it's time she treated you. Chances are, that will be the end of it. Or, if she agrees to treat; perhaps you have just been letting her get away with too much for too long, and she needed someone to refuse to be taken for granted (I wouldn't hold my breath for that one, either!)
Good luck.
2006-07-18 08:39:15 · answer #4 · answered by M Huegerich 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be a man(not being insulting),
and come at her like.
"Look everytime I see you or talk to you its about money. It was cool at first but you think I got blow pop on my forehead. I aint have that. You fine and all that, but a fool has to be ready to hand over his check book messing with you and thats not me. Go find a white boy(for me thats what i say) or someone willing to pay your way through life cuz ut aint me.
chow
and thats that. Close the door and find someone less shallow with more depth.
Go to a library or college library, plenty of good looking hard working earning women there.
Unless you like the pre madonna model diva video hoe types.
2006-07-18 08:33:49 · answer #5 · answered by Xae 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that while you are happy to pay when you invite her to go out. It seems as if when you are in a pinch at least finacially she is not very supportive. She may be looking for a man to take care of her but if she only hangs around when you have money you are probably not the only one she is seeing.
2006-07-18 08:33:49 · answer #6 · answered by Suesan W 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
listen man, dont get sucked in by those gold diggers. I mean they may be the girl of ur dreams but trust me man, u dont want to deal with that shi t. Ive had two gf in the last two years absolutely use me for my money, they honestly never liked/ loved me for me. It feels soo bad to be used, dont let it happen to u.
2006-07-18 08:32:16 · answer #7 · answered by Fluv u long time....69 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont lie and tell her that you dont got no money like alot of these ppl said to do cuz thats most likely y she is attracted to you because of your money and she KNOWS you have money lol a goldigger can smell $$$$$ a mile away!!But just dont spend ALOT of money on her.Like shopping sprees and fancy restaurants...nu-uh cut all that BS out and if you notice a change in attitude because of the money you spendin on her then break up with her!!
2006-07-18 08:56:37 · answer #8 · answered by kiss_shorty!! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be afraid, be very afraid of a gold-digger. Tell her to get a job and open up a bank account!
2006-07-18 08:32:44 · answer #9 · answered by I Speak TRUTH 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, that's pretty simple, cut off the money supply... tell her you had some unforeseen expenses pop up and you will be "tight" for a while. If all she is there for is the money and not because she cares about you, she will hit the road. If she does care about you, then she will still want to be with you...
BTW, I never accepted $$ from anyone I ever dated....
2006-07-18 08:31:50 · answer #10 · answered by tammette39 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You tell her you are not her personal ATM and if she needs money she needs to work for it on her own! If she tells you "Get Screwed" or something along those lines. Find a new GF that appreciates what you can do for her relationship wise and not monitarily! They're hard to find, but they are out there and would love a man just to show them respect, dedication and love!
2006-07-18 08:35:25 · answer #11 · answered by Fancygal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋