My hubby & I are expectiong our 2nd baby, he has a son who's 10 & I have a daugther who's 6 & we both have a baby of 20 moths.. We would like for my step-son to know the good news that he is having a new baby brother/ sister..
He lives 15hrs away from us & this summer his mom dind't allowed for him to come( but that's another story).. We haven't talk with him either but since his mom is a little complicated we are thinking on giving him the news on December if he is allowed to come or should we tell him now??? The problem with his mom is that when we were expecting our first baby she used to tell the boy that his dad will not love him anymore & that he will be replaced, that's why we are scared to tell him cuz we don't want for him to get hurt by his mom, by the way he is kind of jelous of my son & my daugther too, but it is his mother fault that my hubby & him doesn't have communication(my hubby will be fighting for his custody in few months) What should we do ??? Any advices ....
2006-07-18 08:22:44 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
That's hard. You'd be better off telling him face to face. Wait until December, if you have to. When you tell him, let him know that you still love him so much, and give him lots of cuddles. Then take him somewhere nice where you can all have fun together as a family. Let him know that no matter what anyone says (don't specifically mention the mother), you still love him a lot.
Now onto the mother. Send that evil wench a letter (so she can read it in her own time, and it can't turn into an argument). Tell her that the things that she tells her son are just hurting him in the long run. By her telling her son that his father doesn't love him anymore doesn't make him think that is father is horrible, it just makes him think that he's not worthy enough to be loved by him. So all she's doing is giving her son reason for therapy!
Good luck wth everything, I hope your hubby gets custody!
2006-07-18 15:04:21 · answer #1 · answered by jadevandersee 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Since you already know what the ex-wife will do with the information you should wait and let the boy know when he comes. You and your husband need to explain to him he's still
special to you,no matter what his mother says.
2006-07-18 15:46:40 · answer #2 · answered by Alion 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't wait. Make sure he knows that since he's the oldest - he's the first one to know. Also ask him for suggestions for names (even if you don't use them) it will make him feel special.
2006-07-18 15:27:24 · answer #3 · answered by Bluedetroitgirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him when he's back with you otherwise it will look as though you just want the ex-wife to know.
2006-07-18 15:26:26 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋