Well, i love a man for over a year only to find out that he just used me to get over his real love. Yes, he succeeded; he loves me now but it's difficult for me to give him my full trust anymore knowing he betrayed me at the start of our relationship.
2006-07-18 08:17:16 · 9 answers · asked by vesper lynd 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I happen to find out about it just now. I accidentally read mails of him. He is keeping correspondence with her during the first weeks of our relationship :-(
2006-07-18 08:28:25 · update #1
If he loves you now what's the big deal? You're lucky that his rebound ended up as a relationship that has been relatively "stable" for over a year. I know that knowledge might have hurt you, but I say relax and enjoy the love he's lavishing on you now.
2006-07-18 08:20:32 · answer #1 · answered by bibliophile_1976 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We all use people to a certain point and you have used him for the same reason. Did you not start to date him to have fun and to go place together. If you look at it he did the same to you he just might have had more reason for going out and for not being alone.
If you and him now love each other and plan on making a go of it then what really is the problem of how you two go together. If this does really bother you then you need to find out why it is so hard to handle. He has not broken any trust with you cause at the start of your relationship he had no reason to tell you why he really wanted to date you or at any time has he lied about why he started dating you.
2006-07-18 08:27:49 · answer #2 · answered by justduh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No matter what you do (stay or go) You need to clear the air with him - tell him how it made you feel that he used you all this time. He probably hadn't really realized that he was doing this since he was so wrapped up in his own drama. And since you were so in love with him, what started out as you supporting him, you became his crutch. But if you don't speak up about this, he won't think twice about taking you for granted again.
2006-07-18 08:31:47 · answer #3 · answered by Pask 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
THERE IS NO SUCH THING AS USING SOMEONE TO GET OVER A PREVIOUS LOVE! If he loves you, what is your problem? It sounds like you are just looking for an excuse to end the relationship.......or you're just a malcontent and can't stand being happy. Relax and go with the flow.
2006-07-18 08:22:22 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
stay with, ok so you were used on the rebound, i know that is a hurtful feeling, but realize this, it was something you did taht not only made him get over hi ex, but also he wants to be with you, he may have started off to get over the old on and leave, but it was something about you that changed all that, and did he tell you that, because if he did, he is letting you know that he wants your trust and he doesn't want to hide anythign from you.
2006-07-18 08:23:02 · answer #5 · answered by Paktown 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well just start over clean slate. Forget the past.
Leave the past in the past because the past already passed by,
2006-07-18 08:25:17 · answer #6 · answered by babe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if i were u i just wouldnt know what to think. if u do love him u can still try to trust him. and be glad that he does love you for sure now. so i guess stay with him but just talk it over.
2006-07-18 08:21:10 · answer #7 · answered by Miss Carlino 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Anything started on a lie will end on a lie. Period.
Move on...
2006-07-18 08:21:19 · answer #8 · answered by LonnieW 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd drop him so fast he wouldn't know what happened...he's slime......
2006-07-18 08:20:52 · answer #9 · answered by honey_bear_21_1999 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋