I am a stay at home mother and I can't go as far as to use the bathroom without my 20 month old screaming for me to pick her up.
2006-07-18 08:15:18 · 11 answers · asked by k p 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Its a normal stage of development and the worst thing you can do is leave her to cry. Respond to her. She will grow out of it, she just needs some time.
If you were afraid of something would you be happy to just be left to cry?
Treat your children the way you would expect to be treated.
2006-07-18 08:23:10 · answer #1 · answered by xyantiana 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just don't pick her up. Let her cry and scream all she wants to. Tell her you want her to be a big girl and play on her own for a little while. Give her things to do that wil take her mind away from the fact that you're not there. And if she keeps trying it, get down to her level, tell her in a firm voice that you're not going to pick her up, and she needs to be a big girl. If she pesters you, say it once more, but then don't react to her. she'll thrive on the attention that you give her if you keep reacting to her tantrums. It's hard, but it'll be worth it in the long run. Good luck!
2006-07-18 22:09:14 · answer #2 · answered by jadevandersee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you are talking about is Separation Anxiety. Here's some advice on Easing Separation Anxiety...
...these are some things I read and some of my suggestions:
At 20 months your lil one's memory is limited so you are going to have to REPEAT yourself over and over.
Reasoning, begging and/or threatening doesn't work at this age.
Make sure your lil one isn't sick or under emotional distress... (children can get clingy for these reasons)
Accept it is a stage and it will pass.
Don't get angry or allow yourself to feel trapped.
If you have to leave a room quickly for a short period, keep chattin' to your baby so hse knows you are still around. Then return to show your lil one isn't neglected.
Don't vanish when she's not looking!
If you are leaving and Dad is there, reassure him he didn't do anything wrong and the baby isn't taking sides. (Dads can feel left out especially when separation anxiety is at it's worst!!!)
I play peek-a-boo with my daughter and I read that shows her just becuz she can't see me, doesn't mean I'm not still there.
If you need to leave your child, make sure she gets to know that new person well first...it will help her settle in.
HTH.
Take care and God bless you and your family!
2006-07-18 15:54:32 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
all kids go through that phase she will grow out of it .. but to help her along i would find a babysitter for 30 mins a couple days a week if u can go do errands and she will learn when u leave you are coming back .. had the same problem with my son
2006-07-18 15:23:56 · answer #4 · answered by cailey17 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Three words for you "Over Protective Mother"
2006-07-18 15:19:24 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well what my mom use to do is dont always do what they want!! Let them get mad, because they'll get over it!!! Also try to keep other kids around alot so they wont think your their only friend!!!
2006-07-18 15:21:48 · answer #6 · answered by M3DIC@L AS$ISTANt '08 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ignore her (unless of course there is something wrong, like she's hungry or needs a nappy change).
2006-07-18 15:19:36 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
honestly, this is what my parents did to me
when I started to cry, they put me in my crib and let me cry my eyes out
when I stopped, I was usually asleep
then i sooner or later realized that b!tching get you nowhere
a great life lesson
2006-07-18 15:19:17 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds perfectly normal to me. but they grow out of it gradually.
don't worry about it. it's normal.
2006-07-18 15:18:33 · answer #9 · answered by BonesofaTeacher 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
put her outside for a while, that should teach her.
2006-07-18 15:18:24 · answer #10 · answered by shove it 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋