He says he is not gay and he really loves my sister. He just likes to mess around with guys occasionally. It would be completely "no strings attached". At first I was offended but then I thought. Hey, maybe this could be a regular thing. Sneaking out during family gatherings to make a store run and getting buzy on the sly and then coming back to the gathering with our own little secret. It's all so very hot and twisted. What do you think?
2006-07-18 08:04:25 · 21 answers · asked by JoJo Pnuckle 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I am disappointed that the thought of taking him up on it has even crossed your mind. But I am more so disappointed that you didn't mention telling your sister. If the situation was reversed wouldn't you want her to tell you. It is unfortunate that there are so many down low men out there who are not man enough to admit that they are gay or even to give there partners the opportunity to decide if they want to continue in there current relationship. I think that you should tell your sister about it. What if one day your sister comes back to you after marrying this man and says she has A.I.D.S., and that she got it from her husband who had been sleeping with men unprotected. How bad would you feel that you never said anything. Now it isn't to say that she will be receptive to what your saying, but why not be honest with her, even if you decide to go for it. Be a man about yours and let her know the real deal with her fiance.
2006-07-18 08:23:09 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 6⤊ 0⤋
You are just looking for trouble.
Regardless of how you feel about flesh and blood, that is a boundary that should never be crossed.
Let alone the Unhealthy "Gay" sex issue.
This is so wrong in so many ways it's insane!!!
If for no other reason, show the world that you a a "Gay" person with morals...if that's even possible...no to "Secret" encounters with your sister's fiance!!!
2006-07-18 08:09:03 · answer #2 · answered by warequalspeace 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all- that is completely assonine!!! do you love your sister? does she love you? have some respect for your sister and let her know about what happened and then if they split up- go for it but taking a family members fiance out to a back rode and getting some is trashy, nasty and just plain WRONG- have some balls to do the right thing and find your own man!!
2006-07-18 08:20:28 · answer #3 · answered by RDonut 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that it is your choice. Just remeber that, that is your sister whos heart your going to break if she ever finds out that your messing around with her fiance. Also that affiars always leaves someone with a broken heart. They always end up desaterously. On the other hand though it is a chance to have a little fun the naughty way. Well anyways it is your choice.
2006-07-18 08:12:33 · answer #4 · answered by Vandela H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think if you care about your sister you would let her know about it. If she's about to marry him you should want her to know the whole story about him. And there are far too many other guys in the world to mess around with than one your sister is involved with. Be a little more selective.
2006-07-18 08:08:52 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How much do you love your sister? Enough to betray her trust in the entire family (and yeah, it does involve the restof the family- you're a partofit so you represent it- if her sister could why not her mom? and why stop questioning there?) just for the sake of your own pleasure?
yes I can definitly see the appeal, but have you really thought about the consiquences? If he is willing to be such a man whore foryou how easy was he for the lastgirl, or the girl before that?
Do you really want to chance it?
I don't know you so I can't blast you like maybe you desearve to be blasted, but I can question you.
I figured you posed the question so maybe you want to be battered about, or maybe you just want to play a bit- had a moment of free time so asked a question you've already decided on but here goes:
What kind of person allows themself to be used so cheaply? You said you were offended- Ask yourself why you were offended.
Why? Was it because he treated you like some cheap trash that hadn't been raised better? He treated you like you had no moral foundation, like you don't even care about how people view you or the examples you set for those that will find out later, and yes- secrets like that ALWAYS get out. Maybe not today, maybe not tomorrow, maybe not even in your lifetime, but it will be known by everyone eventually.
Hey look kids, here's a picture of me and your grandfather, this is your grandmother, and this is someone we don't talk about. When you're older I;ll tell you about that person, but for now remember we do not associate with trash like that.
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Imagine your own family, your own blood talking about you like that. People you love and should always love you. I don't know what your family is like, I don't know how close you are or how willing they are to knocking you down and pushing your face into the mud they piss in, but regardless they are your blood.
Even if they wouldn't show you the same loyalty maybe you should think about being the rock in your family.
I don't think whoever raised you taught you how to be a decent and loving human being, but you can start here.
If there isn't someone already in your family that has a working moral compass maybe you should consider being that person.
Showing them love (and starting with telling your sister about this person's purposal) doesn't have to leave you open to their attacks.
You can support and love them while keeping your distance if you don't trust them. The way I go about things is I am always there to help advise those I care about, but I would never go as far as openly inviting them into my own private life. I have my boundries, and I don't allow those I don't trust to get too close. For example if my older sister asked me if she could stay with me I'd open my home to her, but I'd make it clear it was a temporary stay and I'd be more than willing to pack her things up for her and change the locks on my home should she decide to try and make it perminent.
If you can give a bit of yourself for an extended period of time you earn the respectand love of those you give to. It maynot be apparent at first but depending on how dedicated you are itcould show itself in some very big ways....like if you brought the manyou loved so much you wanted to marry him and suddenly your entire family was dragging him out the door one night because they found out he made a pass at a family member, and the love they have for you makes them act accordingly- they want better for you so much they're willing to kick some serious *** in your name.
Touching scene isn't it.
Think about what you plan to do carefully, and never forget that you're better than that. You always have been.
Good Luck.
2006-07-18 08:45:50 · answer #6 · answered by superandy_83 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
very twisted is correct!
there are tons of other things that i could say, but i'll leave that for the other people to comment on, who will definitely say it for me...
if you truly love and respect your sister, you shouldn't have an affair with her fiance, i'm sure you could find another guy to have random play with...
2006-07-18 08:10:44 · answer #7 · answered by BabeeOreo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gee i sure wish my family loved me the way u love yours????
Don't be such a selfish pig. If u want to have sex with another guy then go find one on the street u filthy disgusting animal
2006-07-18 08:12:02 · answer #8 · answered by lanabird1fly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would pass. This guy may not always be in your life, but your sister will always be your sister. If you want to be with a guy, find one who's available.
2006-07-18 12:54:40 · answer #9 · answered by cryptoscripto 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you love your sister?
Do you care about her at all?
Then stop considering something that would hurt her so terribly she'll feel betrayed by both you and her oh-so-fine-fiancé.
Do you want to break your sister's heart?
2006-07-18 08:13:20 · answer #10 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋