My boyfriend tells me that he loves me, but yet he wants to have sexual relations outside of our relationship, and he wants to play while I watch. Is this normal? I actually believe he love me.
2006-07-18 08:00:14 · 38 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
he's a freak
2006-07-18 08:03:17 · answer #1 · answered by h_wallbanga 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When a boyfriend/girlfriend cheats on their mate, it's an act of betrayal. You trust someone to be honest and faithful in a relationship and if your partner is the opposite of the two, then really...what do you have?? If he is openly telling you he wants an open relationship, then you can't be mad that he's being honest with you...He's literally telling you how he feels, which doesn't mean you have be involved. If you leave, he'll just find someone else who IS into the same things he is. As far as the playing while you watch...are you talking about masterbation? I personally don't see anything wrong with that. If you two are alone, it's just one more way of spicing things up...He obviously feels comfortable enough to do that infront of you with no shame. I would say he probably truly loves you, you just view things differently. If you're not ok with the open relationship part *sexual relations outside your relationship* than you need to express this, the masterbation...you never know...if you're willing, you should give it a shot...
2006-07-18 08:09:42 · answer #2 · answered by Monica S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not one to judge because I have had my fair share of relationship debacles, however I do not believe this is normal. I think that you may have to really stand back, look in the mirror and ask yourself if this is what you want in a relationship. You have to make the determination if you feel you deserve better. If the answer is yes, then it is time to leave, but if the answer is no, then stay. Good Luck!
2006-07-18 08:04:35 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A lot of men want to watch. I think it's normal. HOWEVER, ask him as if the tables were turned. Betcha he wouldn't like some other guy fondling his gf. Have a serious talk with him. If he insists, then he's not ready for a commitment. Then get rid of him.
2006-07-18 08:06:21 · answer #4 · answered by MysticHerring 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Coming from a guy, we can be fairly shallow and really think we are in love. But... When we really find it, it's like a brick upside the head, and we realize all the stupid things we've done to the women in our lives earlier, and feel really, really bad about them.
If he ~truly~ loves you, the idea of another women would never enter his mind. Yes, he loves you, but not as much as he is capable of, and he doesn't know yet how much he is capable of.
Good luck!
2006-07-18 08:05:42 · answer #5 · answered by LonnieW 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is probably telling the truth. He is loving you to the best of his ability. But you will find that you can't bring someone else into your relationship. A love relationship is only between two . You would wind up losing yourself
2006-07-18 08:04:05 · answer #6 · answered by Legalia G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There isnt anything wrong with spicying the relationship a bit by wacthing others. I dont feel that is actually cheating either. Cheating is a bit different. Its when he is having sex with another person without your knowing and if he does that without teeling you its obsivious he doesnt care about you enough ....
2006-07-18 08:04:07 · answer #7 · answered by kjoh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All he's doing is using you, if he wants to have sexual relations with others, then he's doing the same thing to them, they're just too dumb to do it. Be the smart one and lose him, go find someone that wants to be with you a only you. Face it, the majority wins, lose him.
2006-07-18 08:06:41 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be a fool and learn to see the light. I know its easier said than done but if you want someone who's going to love you and care for you you'd better get out of that relationship if you know whats good for you..
2006-07-18 08:04:56 · answer #9 · answered by poetchicka2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont listen to him. if he loves you then you should be the only one for him. please listen to me i have been in your shoes its not cool what hes doing to you and its all a mind game. becareful you sound like you really care for him and he might be an ok guy.. but you can do better and what hes doing to you isnt fair. and it could really hurt you. i say get out of that relationship really fast. im only thinking of you right now.. why would he want to have a sexual relationship with someone aside from his gf?
2006-07-18 08:06:27 · answer #10 · answered by tessie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's not normal first of all. you need to leave. when someone love you. you don't go around and cheat and have relationship someplace else. he don't love you or does he know what love is. so if i were you i would dump cheating A.....** and move on and get someone better who respects you and your feeling. there a lot of good men out their. good luck
2006-07-18 08:34:05 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋