it hurts....?

Question

it hurts when i go somewhere and see other people enjoying their boyfriend/girlfriend, and i haven't seen mine since, school got out which was like two months ago....and he barelly calles, he won't give me his email, and he doesn't make plans to see me? we haven't been out yet but we've made out and had sex for 5 monthes? what do i do? i can't dump him i love him, but i can't stay any longer with him, he dosen't care about me, just what i can give him....

but it's not that easy....i can't dump him, you all didn't read what i wrote, i can't dump him i still love him, its like when you like somebody, but they don't like you back, and we haven't even seen each other, even for sex in two months....one more thing i'm 13 so i can't handle that kind of depression. i lost my virginity to him, i shared my first kiss with him, all my freind think that we make the cutest couple. and just looking at your awnsers of i should break up with him makes me burst into tears, so if i'm trying to break up with him , and i burst into tears, what is that going to mean? i can't break up with him, he has to, and i can't stand that he hasn't yet, and there is no way that i could ever even talk to him about breaking up, i just don't know what to do....


ps i CAN'T break up with him, i just needed to add that....

Answer 1

Boyfriend? Sounds more like your **** buddy. Move on already or keep being used.

Answer 2

I know you think that it would kill you to break up with him but you're wrong. All he's doing is using you for sex..he's already basically broke up with you if he doesn't speak to you or see you anymore he might as well not even exist in you life. You really don't need to get ahold of him and break up with him just go on with your life and don't pay any attention to him. This way you'll save yourself the pain of confronting him and he'll realize that it's over. Also you shouldn't be so willing to have sex with a guy, especially at your age. I'm not trying to offend you, but he probably got the idea that you were easy and that it would be easys to use you so he did. If you make it easy for them then every relationship you're in will be like this. My advice to you is to enjoy being single for awhile the right guy will come along and believe me you'll know that he's the one when he does.

Answer 3

I'm really sorry that this has happened to you. Maybe he took advantage of you; maybe he genuinely liked you back then. But now he's not thinking of you, for whatever reason. Sounds like "out of sight, out of mind". It's said that you're so forgettable in his eyes after you two have been so close.

This is why I don't think people should have sex until they are ready to commit to each other through marriage.

Leave him alone for now. If he becomes interested in you when he returns, go very slowly, and make sure he earns your trust again. I'd advise you not to sleep with him again. If he returns and he doesn't care for you, let him go. Concentrate on your own life, your own talents, your own person. Do things that build up who you truly are.

Answer 4

the truth is you have no relationship, he's not your boyfriend and you need to let him go. he doesn't love you and why would you want to waste your time or love on someone who doesn't deserve it. move on, there is someone else out there for you. in addition, do you actually think he considers you his girlfriend, hell no! he's out there playing the field and here you are waiting on him, letting your love life dwindle into nothing when you could be out there too looking for your own fun. the truth hurts but you'll get over it and thank yourself in the end when you are over this misery and mr right (now) comes along. don't let him play you for a fool any longer! you're smarter then that.

Answer 5

He'll dump you then. I know, it's sad and brutal, but that's what's gonna happen when you become an inconvenience to him (like for example: if he wants another girlfriend and she demands that she cuts you off). It's gonna hurt like hell, but sometimes we fall in love with people who are less than deserving. Remember, everything passes, and you'll find the worthy person; sometimes you just have to kiss a lot of frogs to get to a prince, you know?

Answer 6

Reality Check! He is using you.

Get out of there and don't prolong the pain. He doesn't care about you. He might even be cheating on you, or worse, cheating on his girlfriend with you. Go get tested at the health department. Don't endanger yourself any more. How can you love someone who mistreats you? Love is a choice.

Answer 7

I think you should move on. He has other things going on in his life right now, but doesn't have a pair big enough to tell you. Basically its over.

Go out with some friends & have fun, maybe you'll have some luck & find a new boytoy.

Answer 8

Give yourself a chance to go out and find your Mr. Right. He is not the one for you. He calls you when he wants sex. Forget him and find yourself a prince who truly loves you. Good luck.

Answer 9

FORGET about him. He's the reason you feel sad when you see other people who are happy. How can you think that you love him? He's hurting you. Tell yourself that you're better than him (cause you ARE), dump his sorry ****, and start having fun again.

Answer 10

Umm. what is the problem? If he is doing you like this you need to break up with him. How could you love someone who does you wrong like this you make think its love but its not. You reallt need to move on hun.